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Grimmerick
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I have this recurring trend I notice as I get older. I have been in a steady relationship for 3 years and I am engaged. I have noticed since I was 18 that every year or so , my exes will randomly look me up on facebook, or friend me. I am not really sure why because they never seem to have any particular goal in mind. It's just weird like they want to see who is doing better or something lol. Anybody else experiencing this as well. My friend thinks it's hilarious because sometimes they will friend her first then never talk to her and then friend me off her list. Weird weird weird.
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I had an ex look me up on Facebook and friend me. Our breakup was so nasty. And he really thinks I'd want to be friends with him after what went down? Deluded!0
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This will never stop I am 41 and exes come out of the woodwork at times, like they all called each other and said lets see what she is up to. I think some are looking for a back up and of course there are some that just want to know you are doing ok. I am not sure women will ever figure men out and vice versa.0
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I killed off my Facebook profile a few years ago because half the "friends" were from high school. These are kids that, during our school years, wouldn't give me the time of day, and now, 20 years later, you want to be my "friend".
Don't think so....
Just say no to creepy past friends!0 -
I had an ex look me up on Facebook and friend me. Our breakup was so nasty. And he really thinks I'd want to be friends with him after what went down? Deluded!
Yeah my exes that contact me the most both broke up with me.........what the hell?!0 -
Ha ha - yes! This has happened with me lots of times. And since I have the same job and cell phone number for the last 15 years I get calls and texts too.
No one that I want to actually catch up with has ever got in touch though.0 -
How about exes family members? Some I really did not have a very good relationship-so why be friends now????0
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Wish we could get some guys perspectives on this0
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YES my freaking ex husband friend requested me last month on facebook wanting me back.. lol i declined his request then his on and off girlfriend messaged me.. WTF leave me alone!!0
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Also, why do exes (especially when they were the ones who ended things) think they have any right at all to know about your dating life?0
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Build a second profile. Stock it with whips, chains and pictures of a mansion. let them friend that.0
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It's become a societal convention. Personally I like see what old friends, exes, coworkers, schoolmates, and family are up to, and chat with them every so often. If you don't like it, you don't accept the friend request.0
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I am the evil ex who breaks up with people and then friends them on Facebook a year or two later. I never thought it was a bad thing to do...
My reasons? Just curiosity, and I would love to be at least virtually civil with them. Even though we didn't work out as a couple, and even though I wouldn't want to be actual friends with them, it's nice to get along and keep in touch via FB.
I seriously never even really thought about it! So there ya go, from an ex's perspective. :brokenheart:
edited to add: They have always accepted, and it only got weird once... an ex thought that I was "friending" so that we could hook up... I de-friended.0 -
Wish we could get some guys perspectives on this
What makes you think this is just a guy thing? It works both ways.0 -
That is...odd. I had the issue once, and removed him. 10 years later he still talks about me. Must be pretty amazing to keep him talking about me0
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I killed off my Facebook profile a few years ago because half the "friends" were from high school. These are kids that, during our school years, wouldn't give me the time of day, and now, 20 years later, you want to be my "friend".
Don't think so....
Just say no to creepy past friends!
I had an ex, look me up and friend me on facebook, on her wedding day! Weird.0 -
They probably want to know if you moved on and met someone else or if they destroyed your life. How many of you out there have looked up an ex out of sheer curiosity?0
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I've looked up my exes because I want to know what they're up to and how they and their families are. They were really important to me in the past, so I think it's natural that they still cross my mind sometimes. (Plus, I don't mind if the one that was a **** to me sees my picture and notices I've lost weight and am happy and married now...)0
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YES my freaking ex husband friend requested me last month on facebook wanting me back.. lol i declined his request then his on and off girlfriend messaged me.. WTF leave me alone!!
This is the whole reason I don't do facebook - this happened to me when I had a myspace account. My dead beat ex sent me a friend request, I get $24/week in child support (for 2 kids, btw) and he hasn't see the kids since 2002, but he wants to be my friend. Kick rocks, dude! LOL0 -
Wish we could get some guys perspectives on this
What makes you think this is just a guy thing? It works both ways.
Yep, I'm proof of that one! :laugh:0 -
Wish we could get some guys perspectives on this
What makes you think this is just a guy thing? It works both ways.
I didn't say it was just a guy thing, but I am a girl so I have that perspective already.0
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