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Do you ever find that when you have slimmed down a bit or perhaps have reached your goal that you just get...felt up...a lot more?
Whilst this is obviously pretty groovy with the person (or persons) you are intimate with why do random punters believe they are entitled to cop a feel without the decency of asking first?
I was on the train this morning and a young lady sat next to me. As the journey progressed she pressed one her arms and at the end one of her legs tighter and tighter against me. By the time I got off she might as well have given me a lapdance as she was virtually on top of me.
Or when someone gives you a friendly pat on the arm then decides for some reason decides to start squeezing, seemingly to check just how much muscle you are packing.
What is an acceptable response to these personal space invaders? I wouldn't mind so much if they asked first. Will I get in trouble if I slap them upside the head?
Whilst this is obviously pretty groovy with the person (or persons) you are intimate with why do random punters believe they are entitled to cop a feel without the decency of asking first?
I was on the train this morning and a young lady sat next to me. As the journey progressed she pressed one her arms and at the end one of her legs tighter and tighter against me. By the time I got off she might as well have given me a lapdance as she was virtually on top of me.
Or when someone gives you a friendly pat on the arm then decides for some reason decides to start squeezing, seemingly to check just how much muscle you are packing.
What is an acceptable response to these personal space invaders? I wouldn't mind so much if they asked first. Will I get in trouble if I slap them upside the head?
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I have to say that in no time in my life has that happened to me.0
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I don`t have it happen either.0
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Free lap dance? Maybe it was your cologne.0
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Other than stepping back and saying, "Excuse me, please." or something along those lines, I can't tell you how to stop it, but yes, you will get in trouble for slapping them. Perhaps you could try telling them you don't like being touched? As a teen, I was in a homebound education program for a while, and the teacher assigned to me had no concept of personal space. By the end of the day, the woman always had me pinned in the corner of the couch with my head all the way back against the wall and she'd only be a couple of inches from my face. My mom finally called and asked for a different teacher.
For what it's worth, a lot of pregnant women have this same problem...strangers come up and start rubbing on the belly without asking. It always seemed kind of weird to me.0 -
Personally, I'm NOT a fan of touchy feeliness - I do a swat motion like there's a spider on me.0 -
I DO know what your talking about, mostly it's when people are checking out my tattoos but I want to be like "dude, my tattooed skin feels just like not tattooed skin, you do not have permission to caress me!" I have definitely considered slapping people! I think that the best response it just to be rude about it, no need to be nice when someone is invading your space, if they get offended from me saying "back the eff off" then who cares I get offended from them caressing me! Of course, I do need to work on putting this into practice...I do have a right to my own personal bubble!0
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Free lap dance? Maybe it was your cologne.
Eau du Stink? I doubt it mate...
It's not that I dislike being touched so much. I am fairly tactile. It's the assumption that someone can enter your personal space and inspect the goods without at least seeking the ok either on a verbal or non verbal level. It strikes me as simple good manners to be aware of another person's feelings.
I am really surprised that women don't seem to experience this more commonly. I presumed it would be much worse for them.0 -
No...but I do get doors held for me more often, and where as when I first started running most runners wouldn't even look in my direction...they definitely do look in my direction now. It doesn't bother me, I admit...I like the attention. I'm not going to lie.0
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One time an ex close friend (long story) came running up to me after I lost 70 lbs and started rubbing my stomach! I looked down and then looked at her thinking WTH!!! She saw my look, realized what she was doing, and then took a step back. Actually that was the last time I ever saw her.0
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'Dinner and a Movie first love' is normally my response
Is funny to see a stranges face when you say it lol0 -
I thought this was only a chick problem!
Any chance she had really terrible balance/was falling asleep on you.
I also touch random men just for kicks, I like to think it brighens their day. Maybe I'll stop now...
Sorry for groping you on the train.0 -
yeh , but i dont mind at all x lol x0
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I haven't had anything like that happen, but a lot of people come up and grab or pat my stomach now ... which is still a bit strange to me...0
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Any chance she had really terrible balance/was falling asleep on you.
Well, it's possible she had narcolepsy though thankfully she didn't drool in my ear...I also touch random men just for kicks, I like to think it brighens their day. Maybe I'll stop now...
Nooooo, Don't do that. I think most men get a kick out of it. I'm just cantankerous.0 -
Dude, just start flexing! If they're grabbing for it, give it to them! (as long as it's the gender you want touching you) And why in the hell does this not happen to me?0
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Any chance she had really terrible balance/was falling asleep on you.
Well, it's possible she had narcolepsy though thankfully she didn't drool in my ear...I also touch random men just for kicks, I like to think it brighens their day. Maybe I'll stop now...
Nooooo, Don't do that. I think most men get a kick out of it. I'm just cantankerous.
You sure? I can try to curb that impulse..0 -
Free lap dance? Maybe it was your cologne.
Eau du Stink? I doubt it mate...
It's not that I dislike being touched so much. I am fairly tactile. It's the assumption that someone can enter your personal space and inspect the goods without at least seeking the ok either on a verbal or non verbal level. It strikes me as simple good manners to be aware of another person's feelings.
I am really surprised that women don't seem to experience this more commonly. I presumed it would be much worse for them.
women (especially here in the South) would react quite a bit more often than our male counterparts. if someone gropes me on the train, they'll be leaving on a stretcher (ok not really, but you get the point), but if i were to grope some guy 9/10 times he'd just look at me weird at the most.
i think i'm gonna test this theory on the train ride home... if i'm shot and killed i'll let you know tomorrow.0 -
For me it's that people think it's totally fine to grab my boobs...I don't know if this happens to other people, or if it's cause they're kinda big, but it happens to me enough.0
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I don`t have it happen either.
And I thought our time together was special. :sad:
Yours wasn`t random.0
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