is it ok to fatten up people you don't like?

slim_photographer

Well I'm not really trying to fatten up anyone and it's not that I don't like my co-workers.
However I try to be very professional even in a field that doesn't really require it. I'll have the opportunity to buy a small chunk of the company in the near future. My co-workers sense I want to 'get to the top' and are not very nice to me sometimes.
I try to not fight fire with fire and I'm nice to them in return. I want them to be more open minded about the many changes I suggest so I buy them donuts, chocolate, ice cream and even lunch some times, but I have stopped living like that since a few months ago.

Can I continue to provide all sort of unhealthy stuff to make them happy even tho' I know I won't even eat any of it?
I don't want to be mean but I kinda feel vindicated for giving them food that I know will keep them overweight.
Don't know what to do.

wickedcricket

why not be the bigger person & provide healthy snacks? Sinking to someone else's level is never an option for me - I try always to take the high road. I answer to a higher power (and karma is a real b itch)

TavistockToad

no one makes them eat it. plus if u dont like them , make them fat!!

AlyRoseNYC

If they like eating donuts and other crap, then there is nothing wrong with you buying it for them.

BerkleyJL

If they enjoy the food you provide, then feel free to provide it. It's their choice to eat that way or not.
If they also stop eating that way, then you'll have to provide more healthy snacks.

rodneyderrick

Not on my health care system.

ChristinaMarie85

no one makes them eat it. plus if u dont like them , make them fat!!

LOL :laugh:

TMcBooty

it's their choice what they eat..

TMcBooty

no one makes them eat it. plus if u dont like them , make them fat!!

right on (:

strawberryshortbread

That's a tough one....

You may be buying them but your not making them eat them are you?? They make their own choices....

But ...ask yourself ...why are you buying them these nice things.....? it doesn't sound like they deserve them if they are mean to you. They are probably just jealous of what you are wanting to achieve which is why they appear *****y. I certainly wouldn't buy anybody something delicious in return for their bad manners....but maybe your just a nice guy

meemo88

ok brownie or fruit salad? BROWNIE

meemo88

no matter how thin i get ........im still the fat kid on the inside lmao

BunnyGoat

It's no secret that donuts and icecream make us fat. Unless they've asked you to stop, I don't see how you're doing anything wrong. Besides, wouldn't it just hurt their feelings if you suddenly switched them to carrot sticks? Trying to lose weight is hard and sometimes it makes us cranky. If you get a small joy out of knowing you're not eating the slop you feed them, Good For You.

slim_photographer

Ha ha just to be super clear, I really appreciate my co-workers I just don't get why they are mean to me for trying to be the best worker I can be. I don't dislike them, Ok. I just don't see them eating broccoli and celery with fat free dressing neither.

otr12

People always have their choices. They choose to eat donuts or they don't. You aren't doing anything bad to them.

But if they're like most people they're thinking "Cool, donuts!", not "This guy sure is cool for bringing us donuts". If you do it enough and then stop they may start thinking "That *kitten* didn't bring us our donuts today".

fit4mom

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
(New International Version)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (NIV)

Septembergirl23

I am in somewhat of the same boat. It is my company's money I spend for the treats whereas it sounds like you use your own money. I tried buying healthy treats and was told making them healthy negated the fact they are a "treat". Doughnuts and cookies it is then! I just don't eat them.

christyckr

I know where you are coming from and how people respond to the threat that you may eventually be above them or even be their boss. But it should not matter to you how they treat you do your job and kill em with you achievments. I used to take to heart what people would say about me but I realized that they were jealous of the success I had and nothing would change that. As far as bringing in the unhealthy foods I have to say I would opt for a healthier alternative or refrain all together add up what you spend in a month on a box of donuts or two and a couple lunches, etc. And when you see the total think about what you could of gotten for yourself or someone that cares about you instead. Plus if it is laying around it is just another temptation for the people winning the weight loss battle to fight :flowerforyou:

Grimmerick

the reason they may not like you could be that you are making them look bad, If you really are a hard worker and want to succeed in comparison it makes them look unmotivated and lazy and some people are content with that. They may not like you messing with their game plan haha.

whitelaurel

Honestly I don't think that's the biggest issue -- The biggest issue should be that you feel you have to buy these people's loyalty! They should like you for who you are.

As far as the issue at hand is concerned, you can buy them gifts of whatever you feel like. Whether it's donuts or carrot sticks, it is a gift. And honestly, unless you work in an environment where healthy eating and weight loss is a staple, people might get the wrong idea if you just start bringing in a lot of health food. I think people jump to the "S/he's calling me fat!" conclusion WAY faster than they jump to the "S/he's fattening me up!" conclusion, for whatever reason. If you're worried, bring a little bit of both. Either way, you are not fattening anybody up.

It is your choice to make an offering, and an offering can be anything. You do not attribute bad feelings to cookies and cake, do you? And you're giving them as a peace offering, not with vicious intentions, right? You just choose to avoid them for your own health. You can let others choose for themselves whether to accept or not for their own health. Your intentions are pure.

chellaJKR

I wouldn't spend my money on jealous meanies.

jah7700

I am in somewhat of the same boat. It is my company's money I spend for the treats whereas it sounds like you use your own money. I tried buying healthy treats and was told making them healthy negated the fact they are a "treat". Doughnuts and cookies it is then! I just don't eat them.

Had that same issue, we all had to take our turn buying the snack for our weekly staff meeting. It started out as doughnuts and sausage rolls. I brought fruit trays and bagels. After a month most people started bringing the same thing.

sunkisses

It's only ok to fatten them up if you intend to cook and eat them Hansel and Gretal style.

donbet69

Save your money, buy controlling interest in the company and then fire the lot of them. That will teach them.

4jenniferk

If they enjoy the food you provide, then feel free to provide it. It's their choice to eat that way or not.
If they also stop eating that way, then you'll have to provide more healthy snacks.

I have to agree with him.... their choice.

maria1993

Think about it.. I noticed your screen name.. I read your post, then I look at your profile.

Think about OUR Father in the heavens.. Think about it for a minute. How do you think he would view that? It is seeking your own gain, not helping others.

Our Father should be put first, along with the work he asks of us.. Others second. We should take the back seat.

piratejny

While I agree that no one is force-feeding these people and I like your subtle vindictiveness, from a business standpoint, if you plan to buy into the business, you would want to think long-term and keep your health care / health insurance costs minimized. Business wise, feed them healthy food.

slim_photographer

While I agree that no one is force-feeding these people and I like your subtle vindictiveness, from a business standpoint, if you plan to buy into the business, you would want to think long-term and keep your health care / health insurance costs minimized. Business wise, feed them healthy food.

aha! didn't think of it this way. I'm kinda shooting myself on the foot by providing calorie heavy food.
Just once again, I wanted to post a thought provoking question for you all here on the forums. My co-workers are alright. I'll buy some fruit cocktails and veggies next time. I'll see how that goes.

RainbowNtheWaterfall

"good" healthy snacks....this is a lifestyle change for you so your actions should reflect your lifestyle change

kristydi

I'm a fan of choices. If it's not too inconvenient or expensive, maybe buy some donut holes (smaller serving size) and a bowl of cut up fruit so people can choose donuts or fruit or even have a bit of both.

pkpzp228

No offence intended just honest retrospection on your comments...

I don't think you care and I'm guessing that this whole thread is doing nothing but feeding your ego about the potential of you being their boss. People provide for others in these circumstances as a good gesture. You're not feeding them as a provider, you giving them indulgence and it's their responsibility to choose whether they want to indulge or not. If you're providing them the opportunity to eat unhealthy with malicious intentions, that's a poor reflection on you.

As someone else put it, take the higher road, becoming their boss in vindication enough. We're all here to live a healthier lifestyle and that doesn't end with the food food you eat, it also include your relationship with others.