Friend requests with no message or photo

kevinlynch3

Ok, I've only been on here a week and a half but I guess I can already be accused of being a friend snob!

Is it too much to ask that if you send me a friend request, that you at least include some message introducing yourself or telling me why you would like to be added as a friend? If it was a forum topic or you are a friend of a friend, as others of my current friends have already done..just let me know.

Otherwise, I'll probably decline and I've added a note to my profile stating that.

I'm very supportive as a friend. Because of this and the effort involved in keeping up with my friends, I don't want a large friends list and want to know that those I add feel likewise about the effort of reaching optimal weight and fitness level.

I haven't searched the forums to see if this topic is posted already but just wondering how others feel about it.

countrygirl_717

I completely agree!!

godroxmysox

I'm the same way. Unless I know the person (in "real" life), I decline without even checking out their profile if they don't include a message and sign with their real name. If they aren't comfortable being on a first name basis, I don't want to call them a "friend".

CassieLEO

I agree too!

KatyE213

I absolutely agree, I don't want loads of friends on here I want people who I think will support me and I can do likewise. I want few enough friends that I can recall a bit about each of them and I am not afraid to delete people who don't log in or don't have an active presence on my home page! Maybe I am just a ***** lol

MzMiller1215

I totally agree with you. Unfortunately, some people on here simply like to collect "friends" but do nothing to support or encourage anyone. Whenever I discover this, I kindly delete them. Welcome to MFP, by the way.

_SusieQ_

I added a note to my profile asking for a message as to why you want to be my friend. No message, no friend. It's not too much to ask.

voluptas63

Usually the messages I get are:

Nice boobs.


But sometimes people don't even add one. Hello? I even so nicely ask for one!

CakeFit21

It's not too much to ask. I decline men that don't have a pic, send a message or if they don't have their profile filled out. I'm a little more lenient with women.

cameralinds

Couldn't agree more with this. Just went through my friends list and cleared it out earlier today. I think I should add a note to my profile as well... I want a few supportive pals, not many unresponsive ones.

Kirsty_UK

Agreed - no message, no acceptance

Diary_Queen

I guess my attitude is a bit more laissez-faire with the friend requests. I think it's nice if someone wants to add me because of a forum post or because they saw some comment I made. I think it's nice if they include a message about why they want to be my friend. If they don't, that's okay too. They can lurk and watch my progress. Some people are only at that level right now and it's not my job to judge them or fault them for being more introverted than I am. I'm all straight forward, out front, boisterous and loud. Some people are quiet observers of life. If that's how I motivate them, then what's the harm? I do not now, nor have I ever, known anyone on here in real life, and I'm still here.

anna_lisa

agreed. and if you were a woman it would be considered "smart" or being "safe".

TheRoadDog

I have a very strict friend acceptance policy.

The requestor has to be female with a great rack and a relaxed moral attitude.

aph1234

I will look for people that are supportive of other people on the site and request a friendship because i need all the support i can get losing weight is an up hill battle i need all the cheering i can get

mandimoore617

Eh, if they don't include a message, I check their profile out. But I'm more open to it. I keep up with my friends though, and I also don't add just everybody. I have to have something in common with someone or be in a challenge with me. I also delete people if they never comment or message me or have any contact... Or if they haven't logged in for an exceptionally lengthy time.

kevinlynch3

@Roaddog...hilarious....lol

27strange

Just sent you a blank friend request..no message...no pic...HAHA!! Just kidding! :laugh:

I can totally agree with this. I love having friends and I love to encourage and support my friends with a positive attitude. Often, its my friends inspiration or encouraging words that helps me push through too. I take MFP seiously in the sense that I am passionate about using this tool and enjoy connecting with people who are like-minded. I'd love to add anyone that wants to be my friend, but just a brief statement of what we have in common or how we can relate goes a long way to creating that MFP friendship. If you're a fellow runner, just tell me you are in a one line message or if we are similar age/weight/etc say so. I am not one to turn down friends but if we are really gonna be MFP buddies we've gotta share a little with one another.

Having said that... if you are looking for a friend that spends hours on here, loves to encourage others, loves to burn calories like crazy, and attempts to eat healthy...then add me and let's enjoy this journey together!!!

kevinlynch3

@Ogothicao...I actually agree with you if you read my initial post..I have no problem if you want to get motivation from reading what others post. Just tell me "why" you want to be added as a friend when you send the request. That's my beef..lol

The only time I might consider dropping someone who is already a friend is if they have not logged in to mfp in a while or if I consistently encourage them and they never return the favor.

dayzeerock

You've gotta earn the right to be my friend....no witty message = no friend!

Qarol

I got a few like this, with no message whatsoever. I took time to maybe figure out what forum we both posted on, perhaps that was why they friended me. But after a couple of those, I stopped. No message? Decline. I've even cleared a few "friends" who hadn't logged in for weeks and weeks. I like to be actively engaged with my MFP friends. I don't want a huge list of people to keep track of.