Boys Like Magnets...*sigh*..

Robin1117

I'm so sorry you are going through this. When I was dating a while back I used to do similar things--date guys who would mess with my head, and I would make excuses for their behavior and how I was treated. It is so hard to leave. It wasn't until I met someone (my now husband), who was totally "not my type", did I realize how ridiculous I was for allowing someone to treat me so poorly. Never again. Even if you don't do anything drastic, like never see your bf again, just give yourself space and open your mind to meet someone new, someone nice and maybe a bit different from what you expect, and you will probably see the difference between how you deserve to be treated, and how you never want to be treated again. I'd love to tell you RUN, but I know that's going to be easier said than done. Hugs to you!

sunkisses

A great therapist would be a good start.... :flowerforyou:

This.

Random_Name

A great therapist would be a good start....

Either a therapist or an analyst. Or both.

sweetsarahj

soooo.... is the sex mind-blowing? Because sometimes what can happen (I say this from experience) is if the sex is amazing, your hormones can trick you into thinking you love this guy.

I had an ex who was "a great guy" but who could never meet my needs anywhere but the bedroom. Yet I kept coming back, convinced I loved him....

The n one day someone asked me, "WHY do you love him?"

And I didn't have a good answer. There needs to be a REAL concrete reason to love somebody, or to be in a relationship with somebody.

So, what's your reason for staying?

krash999

I can not count the number of times I have heard a lady say or write "He really deep down is a sweetheart and will treat me good BUT..."

Never once has it worked out to a good end for the lady.
He is either decent in all ways all the time (yes I know disagreements happen and tempers can flair,not the same thing) or he is not a person you need to be involved with.

If he tries to hurt you either physically or emotionally to control you then you will have nothing but heartache.
No person,male or female deserves that kind of life.

i am so with him on this one... there is no reason for a guy to not treat a woman like a princess. that just comes from growing up country and having parents instill the southern gentleman into me.... for that i am very greatful though... i am proud to be one of the dwindling number of us out there. i just hate that the number is dwindling...

kapeluza

Run away. Like fast.

RCKT82

guys have the same problem sometimes also, I know I do... I always end up with girls that walk all over me... as soon as she starts the water works I get roped back in... I guess that's why I have one hell of a wall up now... I don't let anyone get close anymore... I've become extremely good at keeping myself in the friends zone... as soon as I feel something brewing I flip that magnet and disappear before it's too late. I know that doesn't help your situation... but if you can manage to find a way to cut him off for good and don't look back, it'll get easier over time. Just like diet and exercise. The more you stick to it, the easier it gets, the more routine it becomes with avoiding him. Just hang in there kiddo, it'll get easier, just stay away! block his number and emails. When you start thinking about him or miss him, go for a run, go out with some of your girlfriends, or do something to occupy yourself.

keb80

Let me just start by saying I know not all guys are like this. There are guys in my life who make me so happy and treat me like the best thing they've ever known. However...

Trying to figure out why I let some guys...okay one guy at the moment.. treat me like crap.. I can stay away from him and ignore him for like a month, two even...but then its right back in, well you know, together. He doesn't deserve me, for a number of reasons. Don't get me wrong, he has many wonderful qualities. Makes me feel so amazing a lot of the time. But he also knows how to completely do a 180 and make me want to cry. He's such a sweet talker I guess...I don't know. I have stepped backed and looked at this situation, with clear eyes, and I know I deserve somebody who only wants to make me happy and never wants to make me cry. I know that..I really do. But you know how some people just know exactly what buttons to push? Its like a magnetic drawl... I can't seem to get away entirely. Does this make since?? And I know I'm the one who needs to look out for my own happiness...which is why it sucks so much when I can see this cycle starting over....

Any thoughts/advice? Any body else feel this way about another person?

Its been a little while since I've been this way over someone but I can totally relate to what you are saying. You hate the manipulation but, in a way, the emotional roller-coaster can be almost addicting. I get it. Remind yourself that you DESERVE nothing less than to be happy. Look at him for what he really is: a master manipulator who you'll NEVER be able to tame or turn into your prince charming. Good luck to you!!