Role of the sexes

VeganInTraining

So it looks like you got a lot of responses, and I don't have time to read them all but I have been thinking about posting a similar discussion, mine being more focused on early parent hood and who does what.

I agree with those that say the person who stays home with the kids should be primarily responsible for the household regardless of gender however, being a stay at home parent (from what I can tell) is exhausting and the "bread winner" should help when possible. In my house I take care of finances simply because that is my forte, he does yardwork because I hate it and it makes him feel manly. I don't think there is a specific "women should do this and men should do that" it's all about strenghths and weaknesses. When we have kids I plan to stay at home with them, but I will still be in charge of finances because I'm good at it.

Regardless of who does what it should be something agreed upon! Sit down and talk about it, if there's something you can't agree on then maybe you need to alternate who does it and see if someone is better at it or hire someone to do it. If you both hate yardwork or suck at it, and you can afford too, why not pay the 12 year old down the street 20 bucks to mow the lawn?

baisleac

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

VeganInTraining

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

agreed! he does the electrical work, I do the "handy person" type work (ie. drywall, plumbing)

infamousmk

The husband should do everything the wife can't do... the wife should do everything the husband can't do. I don't care if I took out the garbage last week... if it needs to go out, take it out. I don't care if she vacuumed 2 days ago... if it needs to be done again I'll do it.

Cooking and bill paying/finance are the only things I can see being "assigned", but that's only because they actually take some degree of talent. If one person is clearly a better cook than the other then most of the cooking should fall on that person. There is no substitute for good food. Similarly, if one person is clearly better at managing bills/finances, then it should fall primarily on that person as missed payments, bounced checks, etc is bad.

Everything needs gets done... who does it doesn't matter as long as it's getting done and they are sharing the responsibilities.

This is how I feel. Running a household is a team job, and a good partnership is all about 'getting the job done'. Strengths and weaknesses are important to recognize and accept, and at the end of the day, the important thing is that everyone worked together.

I_give_it_2_u_str8

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

bry_all01

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

how is she trolling if she is explaining her thoughts?

I_give_it_2_u_str8

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

how is she trolling if she is explaining her thoughts?

i think her thoughts have been shared by countless other people throughout the 3 pg's in this thread - lets be honest here, theres really only 2 sides of this coin. you're either for it or against it - anything else you're just trolling, whats the point?

VeganInTraining

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

yes, it is obvious that some couples enjoy traditional roles...but based off of her comment she "thinks" that it should be that way in all households. She did not say "in most households" or "it depends on the couple" she said she "thinks" women should do "womanly" things and men should do "manly" things....you're aweful quick to jump to her rescue, ya gotta crush?

bry_all01

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

how is she trolling if she is explaining her thoughts?

i think her thoughts have been shared by countless other people throughout the 3 pg's in this thread - lets be honest here, theres really only 2 sides of this coin. you're either for it or against it - anything else you're just trolling, whats the point?

I guess I should call my husband and tell him to stop making dinner, then?

kevinlynch3

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

He's just upset because his "the more I like you post" didn't get included in your quote..

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

MrsCon40

I think the wife should clean the home and take care of the children. I think they should alternate days on cooking and dishes. And the man should cut the grass, and take of the things that need to fixed, hung ect.

What if he enjoys cleaning? (some people do. Weird, I know.)
What if he's better with kids than she is?
What if one of them enjoys cooking more? Or one can burn boiling water?
What if she enjoys mowing the lawn?
What if she's better with power tools?

These things shouldn't be defined by sex.

stop trolling - the girl said 'she thinks', its obvious some couples enjoy the traditional roles in a relationship and some like non-traditional

theres not one way to run a relationship, just like theres not one way to run a company or country

how is she trolling if she is explaining her thoughts?

i think her thoughts have been shared by countless other people throughout the 3 pg's in this thread - lets be honest here, theres really only 2 sides of this coin. you're either for it or against it - anything else you're just trolling, whats the point?

Disagreeing =/= trolling

There aren't only two sides to this coin and the 3 pages of posts here shows that. She has the right to express her opinions on the subject just as you do.

stormieweather

No, there wasn't a two-sided COIN presented for voting. The title of the thread is Role of the Sexes. People believe different things, thats ok. If you put YOUR opinion out there, be prepared to hear opposition as well as agreement.

I_give_it_2_u_str8

"yes, it is obvious that some couples enjoy traditional roles...but based off of her comment she "thinks" that it should be that way in all households. She did not say "in most households" or "it depends on the couple" she said she "thinks" women should do "womanly" things and men should do "manly" things"

and...?

@bry_all: i have no idea what you're talking about

@kevinlynch3: yes. devastated

I_give_it_2_u_str8

@mrscon40: no the 3 pg's of posts dont prove that. they prove ppl's incomprehension of the issue at stake, and about every strawman argument you can imagine. all missing the point

@stormieweather: ok...

digitalsinner

3 pg's of posts dont prove that. they prove ppl's incomprehension of the issue at stake

I find it ironic that you called someone else a troll.

I_give_it_2_u_str8

3 pg's of posts dont prove that. they prove ppl's incomprehension of the issue at stake

I find it ironic that you called someone else a troll.

haha me too
a trolls calling is the highest honour i can ask for :P

iamrobyn

I've never been married, but I was in a long term 'living in sin relatoinship' for 5 years. What I learned that relationship is that the behaviors you establish in the begining tend to carry on throughout the relationship. Changing the dynamics is harder then I had expected. I for some reason really enjoyed taking car of almost everything in the begining, and when I decided I no longer wanted to do that it became an issue. I also think when the woman makes more $$ than the man it adds a twist that makes things even more complicated.