You are more fit, are you attracted to "fit people" more so

Avalonis

Yes, for two reasons.

One, I know how hard it is to get and stay physically fit, so I have massive respect and appreciation for men who dedicate themselves to it.

Two, I am much more comfortable with my sexuality now that I actually see myself as a sexually desirable person, so I no longer shy away from my more primal, atavistic reactions to seeing a muscular, attractive man. I used to try really hard to put those thoughts out of my head. Now I try really hard to stop myself from saying "DAMN" out loud.

This is me, for sure. (Except for women, obviously)

However, when I voice my primal reactions, thats called obscene. When a girl does it its sexy. Go figure

iamrobyn

I would love to find someone to date who also enjoys going to the gym. I see a lot of couples working out and I think thats cool. Where he is in his fitness process wouldn't matter much to me (says the girl who still is in the starting phase).

SamiSamiBoBlammy

Nah, I've always been judgmental, it wasn't just something that happened with weightloss ;-)

WINNING!

mtkautz

My superficial side got to me yesterday as I was admiring a personal trainer... His arms, his back, his traps........ then I realized... oh yea I'm sitting in the probation and parole office (waiting for my ex to get done) FAIL..... bahahaha, I mean sure he's probably a nice guy and all... but I can't seem to find a single one without a record lately :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Valechka

Lol, I like it that my husbands starts to get ripped as A&F model ) But I loved him even when he had little bit beer belly situation going on

BellySoonGone

I have always liked guys who are over 6 foot and slender/athletic. mmm 6ft 3 and 190 or less is ideal! lol

6'3" under 190 = skinny dudes with no *kitten* - LOL

sunkisses

Yes. Once I started to care more about my fitness, I found I had more in common with people who care about theirs as well.

Amo_Angelus

I've never been attracted to men for their looks, no matter what my fitness level. Sure, a fit guy makes a good wall poster, but o does a ferari, doesn't mean I'd want one. Feraris are so low to the ground they can rarely get over speed bumps, wide so they can't really go down alleys, forget 4 wheel drive, so going to my parent in the winter is out of the question...They look nice, give you bragging rights and go fast...but even that, where in England could I max the speed out? I'd have to pay for laptime! And they're greedy fuel guzzling hogs whos value starts decreasing the moment you get one. Fit men are just the same, different words that's all. Sure I like a guy who takes care of himself, but my fiancé has 100lbs on me, maybe more actually, but I know without a doubt that I'm the centre of his world. Not some diet or fitness plan.

I've been there, dated a football player (Not anything major like man U or anything, but still very much into his fitness), and the guy bored me to death. I'd rather have my old reliable Toyota Hi-Lux than a flash Ferari....And for those not familier with the Hi-Lux...Top gear drowned it in the sea, attacked it with a wrecking ball, set it on fire and then parked it ontop of a high rise set of flats and blew it up...still drives! No replacement parts.

My man is not asthetic, he's not fit, he's not got muscles, but he'll stand the test of time. He's my hi-lux and that's what attracts me.

Oh and yes, I am well aware that I can turn any conversation towards cars. It's a talent.

mtkautz

What is with this stereotype that fit and ripped guys are boring and jerks?? I've met plenty of obese boring jerks..... I've seen it multiple times on this site from the ladies and I don't get it. I never associate them being ripped with being an *kitten* hole, if they are an *kitten* they are going to be an *kitten* regardless of what their body looks like.... I think that's a bit unfair to the guys!!!

AnnaPixie

Nah, I'm still attracted to losers!! :laugh:

But seriously, I'm not turned off by guys that eat McDonalds. I've never eaten it so it makes no difference to me. I tend to do the influencing in terms of food anyhow, and I cook healthy. And I wouldnt expect him to do P90X or turbofire with me.......but he might want to when I rave about it :bigsmile:

There are more important things to worry about :bigsmile: So basically, my list of desireables has not changed.

dmpizza

My superficial side got to me yesterday as I was admiring a personal trainer... His arms, his back, his traps........ then I realized... oh yea I'm sitting in the probation and parole office (waiting for my ex to get done) FAIL..... bahahaha, I mean sure he's probably a nice guy and all... but I can't seem to find a single one without a record lately :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

You allude to a good issue Compatible Habits.
Yes short term attraction can apply to anyone and those tastes change, but for a long term relationship, people need compatible habits, whether it applies to eating, exercise or obeying the law.

solpwr

I'm to the place in my life where what's inside matters way more than what the container looks like. But this is a chicken/egg issue for me.

What I look for on the inside is that the person is taking care of themselves: mentally and spiritually, financially, physically. If they are HAPPILY taking care of themselves, they are eating right, spending within their means, living within their morality, not sabotaging their own goals, dreams, hopes, desires. Because that's how I am living, and I expect that of a potential partner.

So, I ask rhetorically, a person with that viewpoint, how do you believe they would look? Pretty good on the outside too.

fbmandy55

Nope. I'm still attracted to big, lumberjack looking guys

I don't think I could ever be attracted to a thin or extremely "ripped" guy.

Namaste1983

Nah, I've always been judgmental, it wasn't just something that happened with weightloss ;-)

BWAHAHAHA!!!!!!

TK266

I have always liked guys who are over 6 foot and slender/athletic. mmm 6ft 3 and 190 or less is ideal! lol

Well hello there .... umm you meant someone in the right age range also



I usually like folks who are attracted to me and roughly in the same workout level as me. but the type of person I like has not changed due to my workout/fitness level.

adrian_indy

I can't commit myself to only liking certain types, and it has never changed with weight gain or loss. Nothing wrong with a fit woman with nice tone legs, but on the other hand, a bigger butt is also a favorite. Too many types to choose from, but I have my favorites. But what really turns me on is a woman's personality (sounds lame, right) Sure, if I am being a pig, I'll bang some good looking chick with a carboard personality. But 100% of the time, I'm more turned on by an above average woman who is smart and knows how to flirt than a arrogant snob. And I find the sex is better with personality chemistry rather then the purely physical.

LilRedRooster

I was always more attracted to peoples' lifestyle choices, rather than their outer appearances. They dont have to be thin or in amazing shape, but they should like to go outdoors and share a cleaner lifestyle, and be able to keep up with me. My SO doesn't run or workout with me, but we go outside and share hiking and horseback riding interests, and that's definitely a must.

i_love_vinegar

I am trying to become thinner, since I am already a healthy weight (I just want to get a bit smaller because my thighs/arms are very large, have some stomach still >_<)...but I am attracted to thin guys. The guy in my pic below is an exception to what I usually like.

So for me, I think its true.

TK421NotAtPost

I've always been more attracted to a man that makes me laugh than a man that makes me wet.

Bahahaha!

Amysgetnfit

I've always been more attracted to a man that makes me laugh than a man that makes me wet. BUT, my boyfriend is quite good looking and reasonbly fit (more fit and good looking than my ex, or most any guys I dated before), and since spending more time taking care of ME, I am more attracted to people (in general) that are fit. I mean, I definitely have a thing for muscular guys now, regardless of what their personality is like (not that it matters, really, because the boyfriend is the total package)... But I still look!!

And same goes for friends - I like spending time with people that share the same interest in taking care of themselves and being active. Didn't always care, but now I do.

I want someone who makes me laugh & wet!
What's wrong with that? (Oh &I don't mean pee myself!)

I think like minded people are drawn together.

fbmandy55

It's understandable to be attracted to a certain type of person but not to forget where YOU once were. Do you not remember how you felt when you were at your worst and the feeling of insecurity from how people looked at you? I'm not saying to force yourself onto someone you aren't attracted to but I'm starting to see this pattern or people who are now becomine superficial or shallow after losing a significant amount of weight. Then there are people on here who really don't need to lose weight but are extremely insecure and shallow to begin with. ...

adrian_indy

It's understandable to be attracted to a certain type of person but not to forget where YOU once were. Do you not remember how you felt when you were at your worst and the feeling of insecurity from how people looked at you? I'm not saying to force yourself onto someone you aren't attracted to but I'm starting to see this pattern or people who are now becomine superficial or shallow after losing a significant amount of weight. Then there are people on here who really don't need to lose weight but are extremely insecure and shallow to begin with. ...

Yup, it would be a shame to polish your outer beauty only to unleash the inner ugly.

infamousmk

What is with this stereotype that fit and ripped guys are boring and jerks?? I've met plenty of obese boring jerks..... I've seen it multiple times on this site from the ladies and I don't get it. I never associate them being ripped with being an *kitten* hole, if they are an *kitten* they are going to be an *kitten* regardless of what their body looks like.... I think that's a bit unfair to the guys!!!

It's the same stereotype that fit women are b!tiches and superficial... I don't like it either. My exH was 5'7", 260+ .. he was not fit ... and he was a completely fu@king *kitten*. My boyfriend now, on the other hand, is quite fit, tall, and handsome, and also the most sweet and perfect man a girl could ask for.

Looks don't make the personality...


That being said, I think people who are proud of their fitness and don't BS about the hard work it takes get pegged as jerks. I will probably be a smug fit person, because I know how hard it was to get there, and I know anyone can do it. So, don't call me lucky or act like you can't do it, or I might be smug about my achievements. If that makes me a b!tch, I suppose that's the way it's gotta be.

ilookthetype

Nah, I've always been judgmental, it wasn't just something that happened with weightloss ;-)

+1

ItsCasey

That being said, I think people who are proud of their fitness and don't BS about the hard work it takes get pegged as jerks. I will probably be a smug fit person, because I know how hard it was to get there, and I know anyone can do it. So, don't call me lucky or act like you can't do it, or I might be smug about my achievements. If that makes me a b!tch, I suppose that's the way it's gotta be.

Very true. My brother and sister are both this way because when we were kids, they were always tall and slender and beautiful, and I was short and chubby. Now, the tables have turned. I'm in the best shape of my life, and they are both overweight. While I think they are both proud of me deep down, there is also a level of resentment in both of them.

Kalrez

Rarely do I look at a guy and go "OMG HE'S SO HOT AMG AMG AMG DO ME NOW!!" That's just not me. I'm much more attracted to intelligence, humor, and personality. I don't have a "type" that I look for. I've dated guys significantly skinner than me, significantly larger than me, guys with some muscles, guys with bellies.

My current boyfriend is a bit smaller than me, but he's not into fitness. That's cool. He works 50-60 hours a week at a pretty physically demanding job. I've got P90X coming in the mail. If he wants to do that with me, fantastic. If not, that's fine too. I'm not going to dump him because he doesn't have a 6pack.

Despite what my body may become, I'm still that same quirky, chubby girl on the inside.

Yup, it would be a shame to polish your outer beauty only to unleash the inner ugly.

So, so true.

AshinAms

Hey, I have a thing for James Gandolfini (Tony in Sopranos) and now my own bear, 6ft 2 and was kind of chunky with lovehandles and a little belly, is getting fit.

What will I do...........................? :P

whatwentwrong

i'm not all that hung up on appearance- i've liked some guys i found ugly at first glance, i just had to warm up to them and then i found them attractive as anything.
physically, i'm drawn to guys with a certain body type- not thin and athletic, but a little pudgy/stocky. no idea why. i can't imagine this changing as i change physically, but who knows!

i_love_vinegar

What is with this stereotype that fit and ripped guys are boring and jerks?? I've met plenty of obese boring jerks..... I've seen it multiple times on this site from the ladies and I don't get it. I never associate them being ripped with being an *kitten* hole, if they are an *kitten* they are going to be an *kitten* regardless of what their body looks like.... I think that's a bit unfair to the guys!!!

I totally agree with this!!

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

Its natural for us to find leaner people more attractive than the overweight ones. I happened to have a boyfriend who is very good-looking but not that muscular at 5'8 & only has 65 kilos. Although I would appreciate it very much if he would start to build muscles but nevertheless I'm still very much in love of him no matter if he stays that way or become fit or overweight. I don't really believe in love at first sight.