Deleting Friends....

alfredapittman

I personally feel that I have the BEST FRIENDS ever on MFP. They are super supportive and encouraging and I know for a fact that I could not have come this far without them. That being said, I just checked my friends list and there are some who have not logged in for 3+ months. Do I delete them or leave them and try to be there for them when they decide to come back? How do you guys manage your friends list?

bry_all01

I LOVE my friends, or, the ones that interact with me. I have a rule, if they don't log in for 'x' amount of time, without reason, I delete. If they do not interact with me, I delete. BUT, I only do it, because I like to get to know and genuinely be there for my friends. Just my opinion.

jrich1

I give em about 4 weeks and then delete em.

rodneyderrick

Tough question. I delete after a month, but it's not that I don't care about them. I won't a lean friend's list, so I can support those who want to lose.

taso42_DELETED

I'm gonna go contrarian on this one... if they're not logging in, who cares? It's not like they're clogging up the newsfeed.

LexyDawn

I like to keep my list small so I delete people if they haven't been logging in... it depends, but usually it's about a month MIA and then I delete.

kaitimae

Yeah, if they have been gone more than 2 or 3 months, I delete them. Unless they are people who I really had a connection with or know in real life. My dad made an account 9 months ago and still hasn't logged in since... but I will not delete him, as I hope he will choose to come back!

nikki91950

i usually delete mine if they haven't been on in a week, and i don't know the reason why. if they don't have anything mentioned on their page about being gone for a while or whatever, i just get rid of them. people come and go on here like it's nothing. some may eventually come back, and if they remember you, they'll look you up. you could even send them an email so they know how to get back in contact with you

Dbow0207

you bette than me! I give 21 days! That sarts and stops habits so after 21 days of non logging then they can consider themselves DELETED!

smbakke77

I personally feel that I have the BEST FRIENDS ever on MFP. They are super supportive and encouraging and I know for a fact that I could not have come this far without them. That being said, I just checked my friends list and there are some who have not logged in for 3+ months. Do I delete them or leave them and try to be there for them when they decide to come back? How do you guys manage your friends list?

I usually try to send them an encouraging message...if I don't hear back from them, I'll delete them.

springtrio

I delete them. If they miss me enough, they can come and find me. I deleted a bunch today but for reasons other than stated. Infact, they were blocked. I don't feel bad.

Kekibird

I delete the ones that have become inactive and are people I only know through the site. If I have a friend I know in person, I keep them no matter what. That being said, I think clearing out those inactive accounts is good, allows for new friends and more room for positive active people to join my journey.

Spitfirex007

I don't delete anybody unless my friends list gets full.

Sasha_Bear

I LOVE my friends, or, the ones that interact with me. I have a rule, if they don't log in for 'x' amount of time, without reason, I delete. If they do not interact with me, I delete. BUT, I only do it, because I like to get to know and genuinely be there for my friends. Just my opinion.

Yep what she said! 3 months and no logging I would delete!

nilesbollinger

I don't delete people... I'll be here for them when they come back. Otherwise, they aren't affecting anything on my end so it doesn't bother me to leave them there...

kaitimae

I'm gonna go contrarian on this one... if they're not logging in, who cares? It's not like they're clogging up the newsfeed.

This is true - but in my case, I like to scroll through my pages of friends sometimes to send messages to certain ones... and when my friends list is bogged down with people who don't log in, it takes longer to find the people I DO want to talk to.

savethecat

I'm gonna go contrarian on this one... if they're not logging in, who cares? It's not like they're clogging up the newsfeed.

I feel the same way. It doesn't bother me one way or the other if they don't log on. I'll be there for them when and if they return.

0SimplymeStacyLea0

I LOVE my friends, or, the ones that interact with me. I have a rule, if they don't log in for 'x' amount of time, without reason, I delete. If they do not interact with me, I delete. BUT, I only do it, because I like to get to know and genuinely be there for my friends. Just my opinion.

This is exactly what I do

ajk828

I do "cut a b*tch mondays" and weed out the non-participants once a week.

alfredapittman

i usually delete mine if they haven't been on in a week, and i don't know the reason why. if they don't have anything mentioned on their page about being gone for a while or whatever, i just get rid of them. people come and go on here like it's nothing. some may eventually come back, and if they remember you, they'll look you up. you could even send them an email so they know how to get back in contact with you

I see you don't play around...lol.

bry_all01

I'm gonna go contrarian on this one... if they're not logging in, who cares? It's not like they're clogging up the newsfeed.

because they are taking up room where someone awesome like yo could move in. :bigsmile:

godroxmysox

I usually leave a message on their wall at 1 week, 2 weeks & 1 month. If I do not get a response, I delete them. I figure they get the notifications in email form and if they don't think I'm important enough to respond, then why keep them?

TriumphNow

I don't delete people... I don't see the point. Of course some people are really supportive and I definitely appreciate it. The people that haven't been on for a while may be struggling and it will be good to see how they're doing if they come back. On the other hand, maybe they found something that works better for them than MFP (I know, we can't even imagine that smile ) My list is not that big so maybe if it grows a lot I would reconsider but I don't think so.

mrmarius

yep delete em

quichebradford

Igive them a couple of weeks. You never know what may be going on with them...but after that I let them go. Especially if they hadn't been interacting with me before they went missing!

JennsLosing

after 2 months of not logging in they're gone

alfredapittman

I do "cut a b*tch mondays" and weed out the non-participants once a week.

LOL...now that is too funny!!!!

mermx

I Don`t add friends..its not facebook. I like to read posts on the forum and ad advice/comments if relevant.

I think some people like to have loads of friends so they feel popular...does ithelp you to lose weight no..maybe cut the fat as they say in Biggest Loser

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Tough question. I delete after a month, but it's not that I don't care about them. I won't a lean friend's list, so I can support those who want to lose.

I agree with Rodney on this one, this includes very little activity in that month. I like to comment on my friends posts and progress and just can't keep up with it if there's a ton of them.

anewattitude

I'm gonna go contrarian on this one... if they're not logging in, who cares? It's not like they're clogging up the newsfeed.

That is how I see it too. Also I have had people not log on forever then they come back. Sometimes people fall off the wagon and when they return I am here to cheer them on. That's just me though. I love interacting with the people on my list Do what feels right for you:)

Shutterpillar

I usually delete if they havnt been on in months. I have friends that I know personally (like my husband and a few other people extremely close to me) who havnt logged in in quite a while, but I wont delete them because of my connection to them.

It also makes a big difference if they were never involved to begin with. I am here for support. I support you, you support me. If you've been gone for 3 months and never made contact with me besides a message with your friend request, then i dont think i've got a reason to keep you around.