I like my best friend... should I tell him?

kaitimae

IT IS!!! She is so crazy! She has that "tortie-tude!" LOL

Her name is Kuma Tanuki Boushi (bear Raccoon eye in Japanese) and we call her Kuma or Kumi for short! She is the MOST vocal cat ever! She sits and comes when told to! She greets you at the door and EVERY person who meets her tells me she is like a dog! LOL She is finnicky with soft food. She likes some and others she doesn't. Then on a random day, she will eat food that she didn't like the day earlier. She whines and gets all sad and puts her nose in the air when she doesn't like it! TORTIETUDE!!!!! LOL I LOVE CATS!

That is awesome! My parents got a tortie a few months ago, and I liked their cat so much I got my own a couple weeks ago! I named mine Greta. She is quite possibly the most affectionate cat I have ever seen... she always wants to cuddle, which is good because I want to as well, hahahaha. She likes to wake me up in the morning by sitting on my head... weirdo. Torties are great!

La_Amazona

my hub and i were friends and we also met at church. he had the biggest crush on me but i wasn't into him in that way. we stopped seeing each other for while and then i saw him again several years down the road. i was 21 and he was 19. i was in love now but he had changed his mind about me lol. so instead we became friends. i always let him know that i liked him alot. he would reject me and joke with me as i would to him. i didn't think he'd ever return the feelings so i would tease, test and flirt alot with him. it's not like i had much to lose. i also started seeing other guys and he would get jealous.

suddenly he took a turn and fell completely in love with me. it was the strangest thing. he fell HARD. it would get awkard at times for me, sure, but i was always open with him about how i felt. he kept coming around (as friends) so i knew it wasn't freaking him out and honestly i think he liked the attention.

it's a risk you take if you tell him... but for me, i like to say what i think. if he were to reject you, then its up to you to get things back to the way they were or else you could lose his friendship.

Chill_10

You know what I'd do? Of course you don't, but I'll tell you.

I would ask him on a date.

Don't make it a huge deal like, "OMG, I am so totally in love with you!"

Just say, "Hey Scott, I've been thinking that I'd like to go on a date with you. What would you think about us going out to a dinner and movie (or whatever you want to invite him to do)?"

Sometimes when we have a crush on a friend for too long a time we put too much pressure on it when we tell them our feelings. It comes out as some huge thing that HAS TO change the relationship. But if you just go slow, and suggest a date, I think i can be fine.

A couple of details that I think are important.

1. Definitely use the word date. That way he understands that you're talking about a romantic relationship, not just hanging out like friends. You don't want to be the only one there who thinks it's a date.
2. Dress up for the date. Girls do not usually dress up when they're just going out to hang out.
3. Be quick to try to pay for yourself (or both of you if you want), but if he tries to pay let him. Not because girls should always pay, but because it helps set the stage for what the purpose of the evening is.
4. If you feel that things go well give him a kiss at the end. I'm not talking about anything huge, but just a quick kiss on the lips. There's no way to misinterpret that.

10 years ago I was pretty much exactly the same type of guy as Scott (according to the little I've read about you). While we're all different, this is what I'd have wanted one of my church pals to do.

Good luck, and let me know how it goes.

from a guys pov, this is probably the best advice I've seen.. I've been in the predicament where one of my close friends came on wayyy to strong and it ruined our friendship.. The best thing you can do without always wondering what if, is make it kinda casual; go on a "lunch date", go to a dinner and a movie like this person said. But include the word date, dress up, shock him, then maybe sneak a kiss lips or cheek depending on how it goes.

edit: didnt read the whole thread.. im glad that you guys will continue the friendship the right one is out there. I used to think I was destined to be single too..