25% of all women...................... Seriously???

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  • sufikitkat
    sufikitkat Posts: 583 Member
    I agree. But I have learned one thing recently when buying jeans from my favorite place for jeans, AE. I have a hell of a time with my jeans fitting me since losing 20 pounds...always falling down. I live on a tight budget so when I buy a new pair of jeans they better fit! I can't wear belts because I am severely allergic to nickel so it's tough! Last time I was in there, I tried on a size 2 in a pair and they required some jumping but I got them up. However, I tried the 4 and they went on perfect so I bought those. 2 days later, the 4's are too big on me and falling down! So maybe there is SOME good in buying the size too small in the store, at least in cases like mine. I don't like the feeling of too tight in the store so I go up a size, but after one wear they stretch and I'm right back to falling off! I think the biggest problem still is the way our clothes are manufactured. A man goes in, knows his waist and length and is done. No problems. A woman can never go into a store and just pick a size. I am a different size in every store, different size within the store in different styles. If they could just become more uniform it would solve all the problems of size envy!
  • vox23
    vox23 Posts: 246 Member
    I was the total opposite. I used to buy something thinking it fit me only to realize after that it was actually too big. I think it was my subconscious trying to hide the body I was unhappy with under baggy clothes. Now I make sure something really fits me before I buy it, but I never shop alone just so i can have that objective eye.
  • CARNAT22
    CARNAT22 Posts: 764 Member
    Sizing is so sporadic that it is hard to know which size you are in any given shop?

    I bought two bikini's from the same store, same style (bandeu), same size - one fits perfectly the other hardly covered my bits! What is up with that?

    I would never knowingly buy a size too small though, too tight clothes look awful no matter what size / shape you are.
  • I guess I could be counted as one of them .... last time I went to purchase clothing I bought ONE pair of capris a size smaller then what I wear (my first time, honest) - I've been shrinking and I usually don't buy clothes until they're falling off. It's hanging in my closet right now, I can button it, but it doesn't look good, lol
  • Darlis
    Darlis Posts: 191 Member
    I normally buy what fits, and yes...I try on at the store, because I hate shopping and I certainly hate returning. Yes, I said it ....I HATE shopping most of the time...I have MS...it's painful to walk in the mall for hours. Now, with that being said....I ran across a sale last week on the khaki pants that I have to wear for work.....only $6 a pair and that was for pants from Lane Bryant, normally $48. So....I bought pants in 3 sizes.....2 pr. each. The size I wear now, and the next 2 sizes down. I am planning to stick to this and go all the way and I just couldn't let that bargain on something I needed get past me!!!
  • Sezmo83
    Sezmo83 Posts: 331 Member
    I'm guilty of buying too small clothes but not for those reasons. One of my all time favourite shops tends to have things in once and then you never see it again. They're also usually one size fits all. But one size doesn't fit all and although I know these clothes will fit me at 140lbs (I've been shopping there for about 10 years, I've only been obese for just over 2 years) they do NOT fit me at 216lbs. So yeah, if there was anything I really liked I'd buy it for when I lost the weight. And now I'm off medication the weight is slowly coming off so hopefully by next summer I'll be able to wear them.

    I can't understand buying too small clothes for an ego boost or because you're embarrassed to buy your real size though. I want my clothes to be comfortable. And I can't think of much that looks worse than someone squeezed and squished into something way too small and who has rolls of flab hanging out all over the place.
  • savvystephy
    savvystephy Posts: 4,151 Member
    Well, I have bought dresses that didn't zip all the way up during this journey (since I knew I would fit into them). One was a $10 dress (this is why I bought it small - cheap!). It is cute and fits me wonderfully now. :smile:
  • Well... I have to say, in my area... At least 25% of the women I see are wearing clothes that are too small for them. Not sure if they purchased them that way or not, but I see it a lot. Then again, I shope at Walmart a lot too :)

    Yep, that's why " THE PEOPLE OF WALMART " VIDEO (s) are so popular!
  • I haven't bought anything too small, but I will admit to not buying anything if I'm ashamed of the size. :embarassed:

    I have walked out without buying anything, too.

    It's really easy to make comments and judge people on an anonymous internet forum. Being ashamed doesn't mean you're stupid. It makes me sad to think that there are so many women who feel the way I have felt in the past. They deserve compassion, not insults.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Now that I am down over 30 pounds, I am still wearing a few shirts that I got a year ago...and they look great. Now I am wondering how BAD they must have looked before! That said, I don't think they were too small, but they just hang better now! Eek!
  • lmarshel
    lmarshel Posts: 674 Member
    Well... I have to say, in my area... At least 25% of the women I see are wearing clothes that are too small for them. Not sure if they purchased them that way or not, but I see it a lot. Then again, I shope at Walmart a lot too :)

    I see a lot of women wearing clothes too small for them, also. I think that's the cause of most muffin tops. I especially see a lot of young girls wearing things that are skin tight and bursting at the seams. Maybe if you're shopping with friends you don't want to be seen purchasing the larger size? But then they probably aren't really friends.

    At work, our department issues all the uniforms for the company. And I can't tell you how many women I've seen come in and tell me their size is an 8 or 10, when it is obvious they are at least a 14. Or they say they wear a medium top when they are obviously an XL. I'm not sure if they are trying to make a better impression or if they have actually fooled themselves into thinking that. It's a little awkward, to say the least.
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    I've never purchased clothing too small, but for the last year or so before I started trying to lose weight, I was definitely wearing clothes that were too small. I was still squeezing my big butt into 16s when I should have been wearing 18s. But clothes shopping always makes me feel like crap and moving up a size would have made it even worse, so I just didn't do it. Now the 16s are too big (some fall off completely without a belt), but I still don't want to go clothes shopping.
  • Ugh, I hate seeing those women wearing clothes that hugs their bellies, muffin tops, love handles and fatty thighs. Obviously its too small for them. Its not flattering at all.

    In my case I buy clothes that I thought fits me perfectly but when I started to wear it, it turns out they're too loose. Recently I purchased a mini-shorts that when I first tried on, it fits me well that I bought it. After a week, I decided to wear it and I see myself holding on to my shorts because it keeps on falling especially when I sit or bend that it showed off my undies.
  • Sezmo83
    Sezmo83 Posts: 331 Member
    Also, regular stores like Target and Kohl's don't carry bras above a C or D cup sometimes. If bras count as clothes, that has a lot to do with it, I bet.
    And a lot of the companies here that label their bras as D cups are lying. I've been measured a few times, I'm a D, I can fit both cups of some of these supposed D cups into one cup of my actual D cup bras.
  • Sad to admit it but i have done it 2 times that i can think of.....both with capris! One pair i kept for about a year and finally when i moved i decided to get rid of them and then the other pair i can fit into now. Sooo, not so bad since one pair i'm getting use out of. I think sometimes people find things they like that are onsale and happen to be in a size that may just be a little too small for them. Intentionally buying everything that way though is just nonsense.
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    I buy them as motivation. Once I get down to a 12 I won't have to buy anything as I have sizes all the way to 4 from before I gained the preggo/fatty weight.
  • doobabe
    doobabe Posts: 436 Member
    I haven't bought anything too small, but I will admit to not buying anything if I'm ashamed of the size. :embarassed:

    I have walked out without buying anything, too.

    It's really easy to make comments and judge people on an anonymous internet forum. Being ashamed doesn't mean you're stupid. It makes me sad to think that there are so many women who feel the way I have felt in the past. They deserve compassion, not insults.

    Just curious as to who insulted anyone??? If I had a nickel....
  • I haven't bought anything too small, but I will admit to not buying anything if I'm ashamed of the size. :embarassed:

    I have walked out without buying anything, too.

    It's really easy to make comments and judge people on an anonymous internet forum. Being ashamed doesn't mean you're stupid. It makes me sad to think that there are so many women who feel the way I have felt in the past. They deserve compassion, not insults.

    We're not insulting anyone here. I've been obese before & I know that feeling of being ashamed of being in the plus size & of being depressed in expanding my dress sizes but what kind of compassion can you get by wearing something that is obviously too tight? There's no difference in how a person look by wearing something that is too tight & the one that fits well. Actually they would just look even fatter on those tight clothes that shows off those muffin tops. So what if you're an XL or a XXXL like I used to before? It makes no difference.
  • mjtbb
    mjtbb Posts: 77 Member
    Curious to know- wonder if this applies to those who grab it off the rack and don't have time to try it on, and return it later?

    I've known SEVERAL family members who do this on a regular basis- because they prefer the comfort of their own home
    to try it on
    as opposed to the dressing room- and mainly out of embarrassment.
    (as well as being "too busy" - which, on a side note- never made sense to me cuz it takes MORE time to return it)


    I do this all the time. I never have time to try on things specially if I have hubby or daughter with me. They hate waiting. But I don't worry about the extra time returning it. I send my husband for that. :wink: He doesn't mind doing it , actually he prefers it to waiting for me at the store. He tells me all the time, just buy it and if you change your mind you can return it but if you don't get it and then decide you want it it might not be there anymore. Also, this way I can check if they go with other stuff I already have at home, etc.
  • nerdyandilikeit
    nerdyandilikeit Posts: 2,185 Member
    Haha, not me! I hate having to feel like I'm cramming myself into something that doesn't fit. Plus, it's really unattractive to see a bigger girl wearing clothes that are OBVIOUSLY too small for her.

    Yes.
  • stormieweather
    stormieweather Posts: 2,549 Member
    Well all my clothes are too big, but since I just bought them a couple months ago, I am stuck with them for a while longer. Love my handy dandy sewing machine to take in certain seams!

    My problem is the opposite of the OP's comment: I look at size 4's and think...wow that looks too small, I'll get something bigger. Get home and find out...the "bigger" really is TOO big. I still see myself as the size 10 or 12, not a size 4 or 5.
  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
    Am I bad for finding muffin tops sexy? I always sing "Muffin Top" to the music of Rocky Top in my head whenever I see one. Pathetic, I know...
  • bevskiwolf
    bevskiwolf Posts: 296 Member
    I actually read this about shoes once. Really? I hate shoes that don't fit!
  • nikkif87
    nikkif87 Posts: 193 Member
    I can see this happening. I worked almost 7 years in a grocery store and now work in a doctors office, so I have seen a lot of people in my days and some of their get ups are WOW. I will admit to buying bras on occassion that didn't fit quite right(mostly because the chi-chi's are way too big) but never clothes that would show my rolls off.
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    I actually knew 2 girls who's pants were 2 sizes smaller then they should have been, they wore them below their belly making their butt all wrinkly (and look like they had a load in their pants) they were constantly falling off but they could say oh Ive lost 10 lbs and now Im a size 10! No hunny, no youre not, you look like a size 20 because your fat is hanging out everywhere
  • marz31
    marz31 Posts: 159 Member
    I did it once when I was on a good weight-loss trend, never EVER wore the dress, never fit into it. I may avoid items that I have to go into a larger size, but I don't buy things that are a smaller size just because of that. no one else sees the tag, why should I even care? I have a whole closet full of clothes that are too small...I'll get into them in a little bit, yes, I will, but I wore them before, I didn't buy them too small!
  • marz31
    marz31 Posts: 159 Member
    I actually read this about shoes once. Really? I hate shoes that don't fit!

    Oh, and this one makes me downright ANGRY! I've always had huge feet, was an 8 in 3rd grade. I'm tall, need a good foundation! I HATE when the cute shoes don't come in my size (11 now) or the stupid shoe company thinks a European 41 is an 11 (it's not, try a 42.5 or 43) because I CAN'T fit into them. oh and add plantar faciitis to my list of fun things and I HURT for women who wear shoes that are too small or just plain bad for them. Friends who ask about cheap sneakers when they're planning on not replacing them for 4 years, yeah, I can't help you. they have a lifespan and it's a LOT shorter than 4 years, with regular use!
  • a_stronger_steph
    a_stronger_steph Posts: 434 Member
    I see a lot of women wearing clothes too small for them, also. I think that's the cause of most muffin tops. I especially see a lot of young girls wearing things that are skin tight and bursting at the seams. Maybe if you're shopping with friends you don't want to be seen purchasing the larger size? But then they probably aren't really friends.

    At work, our department issues all the uniforms for the company. And I can't tell you how many women I've seen come in and tell me their size is an 8 or 10, when it is obvious they are at least a 14. Or they say they wear a medium top when they are obviously an XL. I'm not sure if they are trying to make a better impression or if they have actually fooled themselves into thinking that. It's a little awkward, to say the least.

    Ohhh I was "that person," once! I was an orientation leader during my undergraduate days, and we had silly uniforms. I looked at the sizing chart for the shirts and pants and was so ashamed. I am pretty sure that, at the time, I should have been an XL in the tops, but got either a L or M instead. The pants, I think I was a 34 waist, but couldn't bear to write that down for all to see, so I got 32...

    ...it led to a very uncomfortable week wherein I couldn't properly do up the pants (they had a snap button which kept unsnapping), and the shirts that showed my rolls. I think I ended up wearing a different pair of pants (same colour) part of the time and used the excuse that I didn't have time to wash the other pair.

    I definitely also was one of the 25% that put on a size 12 and a size 14... fully knowing the size 14 looked and felt better, but unable to bear the idea of "being" a size 14. So I would buy the 12s and justify it by saying, "well, I'm almost getting my period, so I'm probably just bloated," or "I'll start going to the gym more often and these will sit better in no time!".

    I dunno, I guess it's the same way I grew out of my 10s and barely noticed. You put on a pair of pants one day and they're too tight when you button them up, so you put them back in the closet and think, "I must be having a fat day," (as opposed to, y'know, actually BEING FAT) and assume they'll fit nicely again soon. The next time you pull them out, you can't do them up at all, so they go back in the closet and you never pull them out again, because those 12s fit "just fine" (no they don't!!!)... and the cycle continues.

    Maybe I'm just really good at rationalizing? :)

    Of course I'm having the opposite problem now. I go into a store and pick up the 10s and they're too big, but I think, "I can't possibly be an 8!" You can't win! Hehe.
  • DisneyMommy
    DisneyMommy Posts: 281 Member
    I'm totally opposite. I buy things that are to big most times. It's only been recently that I've given that "baggie" look up for more fitted clothes. But I would never buy anything to small. If anything hangs over the waist band, it's to small for me!
  • cjw6
    cjw6 Posts: 94 Member
    I've done it. I HATE shopping- nothing makes me feel worse, and I usually end up sitting in the changing cubicle in tears :-(.
    I can't bring myself to pick the larger sizes off the rack, so in the past I have either bought the smaller sizes kidding myself I could wear spanx or something and squeeze into it, or left the shop with nothing. When I had to wear an XL wetsuit to go diving on holiday I almost had a nervous breakdown and it near enough ruined the trip. I couldn't bring myself to admit how big I had got.
    My husband convinced me this was ridiculous behaviour and I started buying the bigger sizes which actually fitted. And then I put on even more weight! When those sizes got tighter enough was enough!
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