When did you know it was love?

Misiaxcore

At first sight ? After a short time ? After a very very long time ?

How did you know ?!?!

I want to hear your stories ! =]

Apryl546

I think I'm falling out of it actually.

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pander101

With my current boyfriend, I would say it was obvious after a few months (really soon I know). We had a lot in common: Most of the same TV shows, activities, and humor. He's has been the only one that has been able to handle my random mood changes and he's always calm. We met in high school on the waterpolo team. We've been together for about two and a half years. We are both in our second years of college and going strong!

Fayve

After about a week together in person (we met online), I knew it for sure.

Misiaxcore

I think I'm falling out of it actually.

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Awe noo =[

Hope it all works out for the best

idiocracy

First day. We were completing each other's sentences (eww, I know) and felt like we've known each other all our lives.

Misiaxcore

After about a week together in person (we met online), I knew it for sure.

How'd you know !

Apryl546

I think I'm falling out of it actually.

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Awe noo =[

Hope it all works out for the best

Me too.
I'm trying my hardest. I usually end relationship by now, but for him I'm fighting.

Apryl546

doublepost. Why cant we have a delete button?

Misiaxcore

Baha cute stories

prila13

Well, my fiance and I have been together 8 years. (9 years Sept 13th) and I knew for sure about 2 years in. I had been struggling with the idea for quite sometime. But, when I realized I wanted to give him my ALL (if you know what I mean), I knew I loved him. I had never felt like that with anyone. To this day, I still get butterflies when we're together. Even after this long, we still act like silly teenagers. LOL

warlocksmistress

I never knew. The person I thought I loved turned into someone else completely after a few years.

Be careful.

chevy88grl

Honestly? The first time we met in person (we met online and talked online, on the phone, etc for awhile before we met in person).

I knew I really liked him after talking to him online and on the phone, but the minute I was actually able to put my arms around him? Have a face to face conversation with him?

It was a done deal.

We were long distance (but saw each other regularly -- put a TON of miles on our cars) for the first year and we've been living together for a year.

Mrz_Rich

A very short time (2 months or so)...Ealry on I told all of my closest friends that I was gonna marry him someday. Doesn't matter to me at all that this is my 2nd marriage...in my eyes he is the only one I have ever truly loved. I met him 2 years after my first marriage ended and we were friends for awhile first and then dated a few months...shortly after we were married. He is the one I was meant to be with...forever! I love him more than words can say!

juliecat1

Im a love cynic. This is.... sort of... restoring my faith.

goodwille

I am sorry to say that I think I may be a hopeless romantic. There are 4 girls I have loved. Or believed I loved them at the time.
I have grown a love over 3 or 4 years, and then she broke up with me.
I have confused love for lust, and still dream about trying to make things work a second time around.
I have Loved at first sight, she broke up with me.
I have slowly over a few months and ma currently falling out of love, which to me would seem to mean I never actually loved her.

These aren't in chronological order.

Gary1977

Honestly? The first time we met in person (we met online and talked online, on the phone, etc for awhile before we met in person).

I knew I really liked him after talking to him online and on the phone, but the minute I was actually able to put my arms around him? Have a face to face conversation with him?

It was a done deal.

We were long distance (but saw each other regularly -- put a TON of miles on our cars) for the first year and we've been living together for a year.

Really great story!

chevy88grl

Honestly? The first time we met in person (we met online and talked online, on the phone, etc for awhile before we met in person).

I knew I really liked him after talking to him online and on the phone, but the minute I was actually able to put my arms around him? Have a face to face conversation with him?

It was a done deal.

We were long distance (but saw each other regularly -- put a TON of miles on our cars) for the first year and we've been living together for a year.

Really great story!

Aw. Thanks.

TropicalKitty

My bf and I met via an online dating service. Before we met, we already couldn't stop talking: we'd be online chatting for HOURS. When we had our first date, it was the same, continuous conversation. So I guess the signs were there from the get-go.

However, I guess the reality of it is that I decided not to follow my job (which I loved, was respected, and all that awesomeness) to stay with him.

I hope that's love. Otherwise, I made a pretty stupid choice.

maryd523

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

aa1440

My wife and I met in high school. Nothing serious then, just friends. When I graduated we dated for a few months and then I joined the military. Ten year later I was home on leave and we met. We got back together, married 9/9/99, and have been happily married for 12 years. Anniversary is tomorrow.

chevy88grl

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

Well, what about all the couples who don't have children, don't want children, etc? What about them? Is their love not real since they won't be having kids?

You admit you're a cynic when it comes to love - to each their own, I suppose.

maryd523

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

Well, what about all the couples who don't have children, don't want children, etc? What about them? Is their love not real since they won't be having kids?

You admit you're a cynic when it comes to love - to each their own, I suppose.

Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean the mechanisms aren't there. Why do you think we have a sex drive? To reproduce! But obviously you can want to have sex but not want to have a baby.

All life forms live to reproduce. They fight, struggle, and die in order to pass their genes on. Just because we are aware of it doesn't make us exempt from those same instinctive, primitive urges.

Peque1130deleted

I think I'm falling out of it actually.

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In some strange way, I am afraid of getting to this point, even if the feelings arent mutual....someone made me realize that I could actually FEEL again, and I will forever be grateful, I just dont want to live without that feeling anymore. Does it make sense?

TropicalKitty

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

I don't think the divorce rate is really a supporter of your statement. Divorce and marriage, occur often for some weird reasons.

Any relationship takes work to maintain. You don't stay even friends with someone by sitting on your duff.

Anyway, part of me agrees with you regarding the monogamy thing. I don't think that doesn't mean love doesn't exist, by any means. Maybe we aren't supposed to be tied to one person eternally, but I definitely don't think that the "love" thing is because of raising a healthy child. Especially since it's the woman who gets the attachment issues postcoitus, not men.

Falling in love doesn't mean you ignore their faults. My bf does some stuff that drives me batty sometimes and he knows it when he does. I don't need him, I choose to be with him, with his faults. Somethings matter more than others. If his nose whistled when he breathed, I'd be gone. *shutter*

I get the cynicism, I'm one myself, but I think you're more jaded. Things change when you meet someone who is more tolerable. My views definitely have changed.

maryd523

I just want to clarify: I DO believe love is real, and very powerful. I just don't believe it is this mythical, magical thing that happens. It happens to humans because it serves a purpose to help our survival. If we didn't form an extremely strong bond to our offspring, we would be hard-pressed to continue caring for them when the going gets tough (which it always does, right?), which would jeopordize the future of our kind. All emotions serve some kind of purpose to our survival. It's quite fascinating!

maryd523

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

I don't think the divorce rate is really a supporter of your statement. Divorce and marriage, occur often for some weird reasons.

Any relationship takes work to maintain. You don't stay even friends with someone by sitting on your duff.

Anyway, part of me agrees with you regarding the monogamy thing. I don't think that doesn't mean love doesn't exist, by any means. Maybe we aren't supposed to be tied to one person eternally, but I definitely don't think that the "love" thing is because of raising a healthy child. Especially since it's the woman who gets the attachment issues postcoitus, not men.

Falling in love doesn't mean you ignore their faults. My bf does some stuff that drives me batty sometimes and he knows it when he does. I don't need him, I choose to be with him, with his faults. Somethings matter more than others. If his nose whistled when he breathed, I'd be gone. *shutter*

I get the cynicism, I'm one myself, but I think you're more jaded. Things change when you meet someone who is more tolerable. My views definitely have changed.

Well, all relationships do not take the kind of work that a serious monogamous relationship take. I've been best friends with the same girl for 25 years and I can definitely tell you that relationship is very easy compared to the two serious long-term relationships I've had.

And yes, maybe you don't "ignore" their faults, but you live with them. If today your man started whistling when he breathed, would you really be gone? Really? For some reason I doubt it.

I hope to meet someone someday that I can live with forever. Just because I think this stuff doesn't mean I don't want a lifetime of love, even if it means lots of hard work, it just means I am realistic about it.

maryd523

Oh, one more thing! It is NOT always the woman who gets the attachment! This is a common view - protrayed extensively throughout the media. Every single couple I know...it's the woman who does the breaking up, with children or without. I know there are many deadbeat dads out there, but I know far more men than women who are heartbroken because their lover left them.

Misiaxcore

Lovin' all of these stories and different perspectives ! Even the cynical ones because I'm pretty cynical myself :P But somewhere deep deep down, I might be a hopeless romantic =x

And happy anniversary aa1440 !

I'm still unsure with my guy, mostly because I second guess myself. Sometimes when we're hanging out, him playing SC2 or whatever and me doing school work or something on my laptop, I'll have this urge to tell him I love him because I'm just so extremely content and happy at that point in time. But that's not all "love" is, right? Even if I do actually love him, I rather him say it first (and mean it!) ;x We've been together for almost a year and haven't thrown out the L word because he's not one to vocalize his feelings. I'm okay with that for the most part, but sometimes it drives me insane xD I've told him this of course that I like to know if he's happy/angry/frustrated etc. with the relationship, but Rome wasn't built in a day. Overall I'm happy and feel that words aren't needed 95% of the time.

I thought I /knew/ was in love during a previous relationship, but in hindsight, it was just two dumb teens trying to make some sort of fantasy become a reality.

trud72

My hubby is 10 yrs(ok 9 1/2) yrs older than me,and when we 1st met i was still 15! we got engaged at when i was still 15 too(about 4 weeks later) and people said all sorts of mean things...well you can imagine!
we knew instantly,i felt soo comfortable around him it was like we were one!(does that make sence)? i belive he is my soul mate...and it is our 20th yr of marrige this nov
i still fancy the pants off him!:blushing: and yes we have had some cr@p thrown at us in life (hubby is disabled from a work accident,problems with 2 of my boys ect )and yes we have even thought about devorce when times got super tough but here we are sill together and just as happy! :laugh:

meggers123

After my first loss... then I knew I was head over heels for MFP.

...what? that's not what you meant?