How rude...
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Blah blah white noise. Offer her your hand me down clothes that are too big for you now ;-)0
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Blah blah white noise. Offer her your hand me down clothes that are too big for you now ;-)
Ooh, you're mean! (But very very funny!) :laugh:0 -
Jealous much? That is NOT a friend.0
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Did you punch her in the face??
What a cow! She is so envious of you, strut your stuff and rub her face in it.
I think you need some new friends, add me if you like.
Ha ha!! No it was over the phone!!
But seriously you are all so right like seriously who says that! I am going to not see her for a while then turn up to our next meeting in a crop top and be like LOOK AT ME NOW *kitten*!!
YES!! DO IT!! .. she's mad you're smaller than her now hahahah :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
She's jealous and your fantastic success is making her feel inadequate...
Don't let her discourage you. Instead, feel sorry for her and give yourself a huge pat on the back! :drinker:
This. Perfectly put! So much this!0 -
PROVE HER WRONG! People are going to hate on you trying to improve yourself. Don't allow her negativity to affect you.0
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Some people just find the need to belittle people to make themselves feel better because it's easier than getting off of their *kitten* and doing something to better themselves. I decided a long time ago that I didn't care what other people thought. I was doing this for me so I can enjoy doing the things that I like to do.0
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I can say that girl doesn't even deserve to be a cow... More like the cow turd that falls out of its rear... Keep goin! You look amazing!0
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She's jealous. Have you invited her to workout with you? Maybe she thinks you're pushing her aside and moving on to better things? Some times friends can be hateful, even if they love you. See if you can get to the root of the problem if you want to clear the air and keep being friends.0
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You might want to redefine what 'friend' means to you. 'Cause that kind of jealous @#$# isn't what real friends do. They support you and give you an honest opinion when you need it, or know when it's best to just keep their mouth shut.
Of course, you could always flip it around on her. Next time she says something like that, directly ask her if she has a problem with you losing weight and why she can't be more supportive. If she is having some emotional issues of her own over it, maybe it'll make her open up.
Or maybe it'll make her run the other way, which could be good as well.0 -
Yep, been there. With obese family members. Except the comments are "You're too skinny, you don't need to lose anymore." Well, that sounds like a compliment, but in essence it's a 'non-appreciation' for being healthy. They think your unhealthy if you don't have FAT on your bones. That was said to me when I lost weight at 13 and it was said to me last year...by the same people! I regressed. Like what was said earlier....use it as fuel to motivate you to prove them wrong...0
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jealousy...........
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Jealous *kitten*!!
Arrange a night out and doll yourself up so you look like a minx just to rub it in her face that you look fab!!! She obviously used to enjoy being the 'thin' friend!!
Maybe I'm spiteful but friends are supposed to be supportive not a-holes!!0 -
She said it 'cause she wanted you to knock all her teeth out. j/k You'll find a lot of people like you better fat because you lack confidence, and they're insecure. Believing you're "less than" them has been making their day for ages. Now you're probably more confident and looking better, and it's threatening. Sometimes you have to wash your hands of the negative people. Hope it doesn't come to that.0
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Distance yourself from this negative person.0
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Keep strutting your stuff and being true to yourself. Jealousy is a terrible thing and I would think hard about your relationship with this person and if it's something you want to keep in your life.0 -
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Sounds like a jealous b!tch to me. Use it as fuel to further motivate you.
There is nothing better than being underestimated. Prove her wrong.
You're my hero! Swoon!
:-)
And: I second that, ditto what she said!
Pj0 -
Haters gonna hate.
I would have said something snarky in return. I have no time for bullshiz from 'friends'0 -
Blah blah white noise. Offer her your hand me down clothes that are too big for you now ;-)
Ooh, you're mean! (But very very funny!) :laugh:
This kills me!! Too funny
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So now tomorrow when you see her you should say. Ok i was thinking about what you said and instead of me not exercising you should join me and maybe you can lose some of your belly, leg,arm, and butt fat :devil:0
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You don't need friends like that! Keep what you are doing and prove her wrong! Congrats on you weight loss!0
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On one hand I want to agree with all of the other comments but another part of me wonders how strong a friendship this has been, If this is just a coworker, someone who is not tightly woven into the fabric of your life then sure-people that hurt us at that level are not worth the energy to keep around. But on the other hand, only you can decide if this is a true friend who is feeling so bad about herself that she said the wrong this time. Rude, yes. But weather it is time to walk away from this person is a much bigger matter. Only you can decide the level of energy you want to put into this. If this has been an important person in your life for a long time? Someone who had been a support to you in the past? If so then maybe when you have had some time to cool down you could remind her of the comment and let her know that you are very hurt by it. Let her know that you do not want things like that to come between you. If you can do this then you may give her the opportunity she needs to make ammends. We have all said the wrong thing from time to time. Remember how horrible it feels to be there-overweight, out of control, physically and mentally miserable and feeling like there is no hope? I sure do. Relationships are hard. If this person is important to you then don't let your success come between it. I am a big believer in the fact that whenever there is conflict there are 2 people that need to make some change. I know one area that I have set myself up for situations like that is when in my pride over my success I can talk about it too much. I have a very successful, very musically tallented, involved high school aged child. One of my closest friends (we were pregnant together) has a child that struggles academicaly and one who is an underachiever. I realized I talked way too much about my daughters achievements. I had to stop. In making myself feel good I was making her feel bad. Not saying you have done this-Just food for thought... Good luck and great job on your weight loss.0
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It's likely she said that out of jealousy, moreso resentment, especially as you used to be the 'fat friend' - and now it's all in reverse. She was used to getting all the attention, and now the attention has shifted away from her. She's probably trying to discourage you.
But also, probably because at the moment, she HERSELF is probably unable to shift the belly fat now. Maybe she had tried very hard for a long time - but because of her body shape, she can't. So she thinks that if she can't, then no-one else can either. Bit of a blanket statement that she is making.
Has she remained the same weight herself all this time? Or has she gained, as you lost weight?
If she has stayed the same weight, she probably noticed you were starting to look thinner. Then panicked. Then tried to do a million sit-ups a day. Found it wasn't working. Wondered why it worked for you. Resentment ensues.0 -
Did you punch her in the face??
What a cow! She is so envious of you, strut your stuff and rub her face in it.
I think you need some new friends, add me if you like.
Ha ha!! No it was over the phone!!
But seriously you are all so right like seriously who says that! I am going to not see her for a while then turn up to our next meeting in a crop top and be like LOOK AT ME NOW *kitten*!!
HA!!! You go girl!!!!!
God bless!0 -
“Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.” Hanlon's Razor0
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Ha ha!!
I love all the comments here!!0 -
From Urbandictionary:
Hater
1. A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesnt really want to be the person he or she hates, rather the hater wants to knock someone else down a notch.
3.A person who feels anger and/or jealousy for someone who has succeeded in something they have worked hard for.
A being who speaks badly,and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a successful person.
this!!
and i just realised i have a friend who is exactly the same about other aspects of my life... thats made me a bit sad!0 -
Tell her to stop being an evil little jealous wench. That's awful. I don't understand why would anyone keepfriebds that do/say sh4t like that.0
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A friend should lift you up and encourage you. She is obviously jealous and who needs friends like that, life is too short. I have a friend who has lost over 65 pounds and is within 20 pounds of her goal. I however had lost 40 pounds last year and gained half of it back. I am not bitter towards her at all. I am so proud of her success and continue to encourage her towards her goal. You need some different friends because she is not healthy for you. : )0
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