Honest opinion required... (pic)

jeniineko

I think your dress looks nice. I actually think it looks the most 'fun out of all three outfits in the picture.

Rachaelluvszipped

I got myself what I thought was a nice dress yesterday and wore it last night to see my 2 friends for my birthday. I never usually wear dresses and wanted to start wearing them more often now i'm a little happier with my shape.

We had a picture taken last night and I put it on facebook, whereby a good friend of mine (who always gives her honest opinion) told me that it didn't really look good and it 'ages' me. To be honest, it is a terrible picture of me but the comment really cut me deep. I already have big issues with my self esteem and this just knocked my confidence right back. I just wanted to know if I really do look as bad as she made me feel...

This dress by the way is sleeveless. I just wear a black shrug over the top to hide my awful fatty arms. I'm the blonde on the left by the way.

I like it, and maybe the coloring is too dark for you, maybe go for a lighter color?..is there any way you can take a pic without the light weight shrug? That might have been another reason your friend said that?

rhiannagreene

I JUST started wearing dresses, I would never be caught dead in one before but I have gained confidence enough to wear them, So dont let your friend get rid of the confidence that you built up to even wear it! Honestly the dress isnt my style, but it certainly doesnt age you at all. I think you should just try to find a dress that is more modern or something. Then see how many awsome comments you get.

vespaberrie

you look great!!! however i can tell by your posture that you are a little self-conscious about how you look in a photo. smile, hold your head up, and enjoy yourself!!

and btw, f*$k your friend.

Yeah... what he said. Always stand tall, head up, shoulders back and SMILE. Be proud, FAKE it! even if you dont really feel it.

BTW- Your outfit is better that the other 2 girls in the picture.

RiawnaIsFatFailure

honistly u look great just take the jacket off and maybe fit a belt or somthing like that to tug it in abit and just play with it abit.
maybe just were some jewerly.
but the jacket the down fall really.

ChristopherCrane

Okay, dear. Let me start by saying opinions are like butt-holes. We all have them, they're all cracked, and most of them stink.

I am uniquely qualified, because I am a son to a mother, and brother to two sisters. Additionally, I have been married for 17 years, and have two daughters. I've been around women my entire life. Plus, I'm a photographer, so I tend to look at clothing from that vantage point as well (i.e., would I like to photograph a person wearing this.) MY OBJECTIVE OPINION:

I think your dress is lovely. Doesn't look old fashioned or dated in the slightest. The length is short enough to be fun, without looking "slutty." The black top is slimming, and accentuates your curves nicely. The cover up is nice because it adds a touch of drama to the look, and elongates the arm. The shoe you chose is playful, and youthful, and yet a smart shoe for the look. I've seen this particular color combination a lot this year, even in buying dresses for my own children (13 and 15).

I'd say your friend expressed an opinion - but as a female, you have to take anything another female says to you with a grain of salt. As a guy, I've watched it for years - woman (especially close friends) can be a little "catty" to one another at times.

You're beautiful. Start believing it.

Leola2011

My honest opinion is that women with confidence can make a tremendous impression no matter what they wear. If you feel sexy and like the dress it hitting you in all the right spots, WORK IT!! You're not showing off the dress, the dress is showing off YOU! Whether you like to be completely covered, show a little leg, have a plunging neckline or go strapless, it's your confidence and enthusiasm about yourself that shines. I'm not saying be cocky or inappropriate; I'm just saying ROCK YOU and walk like you mean it!

risefromruin

You look great! I say take off the shrug and show off your beautiful arms. Be proud of your accomplishment thus far!

ScotsLenny

I don't see a thing wrong with your pic, wear whatever makes you feel good, I at 48yrs old still wear skinny levis I couldn't give a monkey's to what anyone thought, my body I put whatever the hell I want on it

jennor8or

you look pretty... lose the sweater and add some higher heels (without a strap as it cuts off your legs and makes them look shorter- i have little bitty short legs so i have learned this lil trick)

Determined1980

I think you look beautiful and I don't blame you for wearing the shrug if you don't like your arms. I think that when you wear things you aren't comfortable in, you find yourself thinking that everyone is staring at you. I for instance hate my thighs and for that reason I don't wear shorts. Wear what makes you feel comfortable.

Your friend is jealous!

Neliel

Thanks guys... I much prefer honesty from people than sweetening it with lies. The dress would look better without the shrug, but I have SUCH a complex about the size of my arms. I guess maybe I should start trying to ditch the sleeves and such and get over this phobia I have of exposing my skin.

dieseljay74

You look great I think....

KJanae87

My honest opinion I think it is cute...but my first thought was it could do without the sleeves. But otherwise I think it looks great on you!

Oh and I have a sleeve complex too...I hate wearing sleevless....I hate hate hate my upper arms!

fitnesspirateninja

I think the dress is cute and I bet it would be a ton cuter without the shrug.

I agree that the dress is cuter than the shrug. I often cover up my arms with a wrap, shrug, or sweater, too. Sometimes it's hard to find something to wear over a dress.

But honestly I don't see how the dress "ages" you. It seems like a cute, flirty dress to me.

meeperoon

Theres nothing wrong EXCEPT the colour of your shrug/cover up. The black has made you seem like a big block on top and has given the illusion that your wider than you are, if you had chosen a pink cover up then that with the black braking the block colour up would change the way it appears.

I have an awful relationship with cameras, they really do add 10lbs to me!

Don't fret about it tho because as long as you have fun thats all that matters.

One note tho, they say that black is slimming but all over will make you seem like a rectangle and you wont see any features

chyloet

I wouldn't take it personally. I don't think that it has anything to do with you, more the dress and personal taste. I too would like to see it without the sleeves. I know that we can be so critical of ourselves and maybe you feel insecure about exposing your arms.? But sometimes covering our "problem areas" actually draws more attention to them.

I think that you look great . If anything I would say that I don't care for the dress, even then it may not be the dress but the dress w the sweater, but again that's a personal taste thing.

CheetoBandoto

Well, I am simply a humble dude and I say you look lovely. I think it's simply a matter of your friend's opinion. Don't let it get ya down.

silkysly

Your dress is fine.., you friend on the other hand isn’t. She needs to learn to use filters. Disguising it as her 'honest opinion' is total crap.

sharitod

The dress looks nice, you look great - but why not try a short denim jacket or something to flaunt your youth - you are young and can get away with anything - I'd love to look like you!

roblow65

You look great, love the dress but I do think it would look even better without the sweater. I worry about my arms too but I've been told that sometimes when I try to cover something I'm actually bringing attention to it without meaning to. You're are so beautiful!:flowerforyou:

twocsmom

I don't think it ages you at all...I think it's quite pretty and you look great! In all honesty, I think friends who say things like that are the type of people who make themselves feel better by demeaning others, sometimes subtly, sometimes not so.

I think the black sweater looks okay, but I'd love to see you in the dress without it! I agree with the suggestion about the denim jacket...that would look cute!

Don't let what others think affect you so much...how did you feel in the dress before she said that? THAT should be your guide not someone else's opinion!

Dolphingirlie81

You look great. You're beautiful. You liked the dress when you bought it yesterday, so don't let your friend comment bring you down. I personally wouldn't wear a little sweater over it. You worked hard to achieve your goal, so be proud, show it off.

litlpineapple

honistly u look great just take the jacket off and maybe fit a belt or somthing like that to tug it in abit and just play with it abit.
maybe just were some jewerly.
but the jacket the down fall really.

I agree that the accessories are lacking a bit but the dress is super cute. Accessories are a matter of style though.

I wouldn't wear those shoes with that length of dress because it can cause a shorting visual. Flats or boots maybe? And I don't find cropped tight sweaters to look good on me. I have a big chest and think longer flowy sweaters are cuter on me. The dress is awesome. :bigsmile:

laurielou04

you look great!!!!!! such a pretty dress and looks fab on you! Don't worry about what your friend said...sometimes people have such low self esteem that they have to put others down to make themselves feel better which may be the case here

ColleenH28

You look great and the dress is cute.

chchchangess

there's nothing about that dress that ages you! in fact, it looks really youthful and fun. and you look great in it! I think your friend was a little harsh, and even though they're honest, that comment was probably unnecessary.

BustyTransformer

In my honest opinion, I think you look adorable and young. My best guess for your friend's insensitivity is jealousy, also maybe she dresses flashier or sluttier perhaps.

whatwentwrong

it's... it's not my favorite >_< i can definitely see how someone could say it ages you, because that bottom bright big-patterned part makes it looks like something that someone a little older might wear. BUT, if you like it, some random internet girl's opinion, or your friend's for that matter, shouldn't be a deciding factor in you wearing it :P

yogavegan

i think you look beautiful. i would probably have worn the shrug too, as i have huge arms and just this summer started feeling comfortable wearing sleeveless things.

i say wear what you like and what makes you feel good. who cares what anyone else thinks?1