what is your ideal number of kids?

goron59

ONE.

I have three.

Love this

asyouseefit

Ideally, I would want two but I like how my life is with only one. So I don't know, I'm torn! I think about it almost everyday

slimmerchick

Lastly, I wouldn't want kids because I would hate to put them out in the world as it is today. Things are getting harder, kids often see no future for themselves, they are forced to grow up too fast, often regardless of how they are brought up because of outside influences. Why would I want to put someone I love through that? Just my opinion.

Totally agree with you on this one - also I think of how damned hard it was going through school, I could not bear to put anyone through all that - all the bullying, teasing, not fitting in. Horrible - I could go on!

Kirsty_UK

I think if I don't at least try to have children, I'll eventually regret it. I'm incredibly broody at the moment! I'm already 33 and can't really safely leave it much longer.

When I think about the relationship I had and have with my sister, I can't imagine intentionally depriving a person of having the joy and support of a sibling, so it would definitely need to be 2. My husband wants 3, but financially (and house space), I just don't see how we can do that, plus I think 3 would push me older than I'd like to be for the third.

EDIT: apparently the pattern in my husband's family means we're expected to produce ginger twins....

trud72

I have 4 kids and 4 stepkids.....That is enough

are you a glutten for punishment? lol

trud72

Do husbands count? :devil:

lenny1976

0 !!!!

Zero, zip, nada.....

Dogs are cool, though.

Totally agree

slimmerchick

0 !!!!

Zero, zip, nada.....

Dogs are cool, though.

Totally agree

me too!

jaelwoman

Well, 4 was a good number for me...but I just got granted custody of my sister's 5 kids, so I'm going with 9!! Crazy household but I'm loving it. 6 boys, 3 girls which includes a set of triplets!!! We're busy around here that's for sure!

ErikaS321

I have 4 but I think as many as you can handle, money can't buy the fun you will have with all your brothers, sisters and cousins

bjshooter

I have 2, one boy, one girl, I am on my own and there is no way I would risk ended up on my own with more. 2 will do me.

beccarockslife

I have one and that's perfect for me

Iamfit4life

3

I currently have two.

I'd like one more and then that's all she wrote. But..........I'm getting old.

JulieSD

I have two daughters and would love to have two or three more!

BobbyDaniel

We have 2...a girl and a boy, and we stopped...didn't want to be outnumbered!

fbmandy55

Two. Specifically, a boy and a girl would be perfect! I have a boy now and the plan is a girl next time. Of course I have no control over that so I may have 3 but no more than that.


Since I'm single and have put way too much thought into this, it will also depend on who I marry and if they have any already.

TheRoadDog

3 turned out to be perfect. I have 3 girls. 29, 27 and 17. The youngest leaves for college in a couple of days.

I'm done having kids and my parole officer says I have to stop inviting HS girls into my home.

TheRoadDog

Two. Specifically, a boy and a girl would be perfect! I have a boy now and the plan is a girl next time. Of course I have no control over that so I may have 3 but no more than that.


Since I'm single and have put way too much thought into this, it will also depend on who I marry and if they have any already.

You plan on a girl next time, huh? Can't wait to see how your plan pans out. I had 2 girls already, wanted a boy, and got Holland.

Life is what happens while you're making plans.

Oh, and, by the way, I make girls. Only Girls. Just saying...If I can help out in any way.

fbmandy55

Two. Specifically, a boy and a girl would be perfect! I have a boy now and the plan is a girl next time. Of course I have no control over that so I may have 3 but no more than that.


Since I'm single and have put way too much thought into this, it will also depend on who I marry and if they have any already.

You plan on a girl next time, huh? Can't wait to see how your plan pans out. I had 2 girls already, wanted a boy, and got Holland.

Life is what happens while you're making plans.

Oh, and, by the way, I make girls. Only Girls. Just saying...If I can help out in any way.

I may take you up on that in a couple years RoadDog

starwhisperer

zero. Not a fan of kids for more then 3 hours. Everybody always says, "When they are yours it will be different." I always say, "I'm not taking that chance for 18 years if it's not" I know kids are kids for life, but you can legally kick them out at 18. hahaha

Good thinking! I don't know why anyone who isn't sure would ever have kids. Its not like buying a new car you can get rid of when you realize you wanted an SUV.

I have two, 12 more years and we will gently boot the last one out (all the while making it look like his idea) and then I think I will go hike through Europe.

cmbradfield

I wanted 2..a boy then a girl. We got 2 girls. We are stopping there!

maab_connor

0 !!!!

Zero, zip, nada.....

Dogs are cool, though.

this

ajbeans

I used to want 4. Then I had my first, and still wanted 4. Then I had my second, and the instant I held him after he was born I knew that we had enough. I'm not sure if it was because his birth was fairly traumatic, or if it's because I really feel like our family is complete -- all I know is, I'm not willing to get pregnant any more. If it happened, of course I'd be happy and love the baby and all that, but we're actively trying not to get pregnant now. I'm done.

Qarol

0 !!!!

Zero, zip, nada.....

Dogs are cool, though.

ditto that!

voluptas63

Zero:)

glockster972

0 !!!!

Zero, zip, nada.....

Dogs are cool, though.

ditto that!

double ditto that

porffor

None.. :laugh: Well ok that is on a hard day...

I thought 1 when I had 1.. then I thought 2 when we adopted another..
now I think 3 as that is how many I have! Fact is if I had more naturally I'd be over the moon, I love my children and no matter how hard parenting is I'd never regret them.

I would say though that an odd number isn't for the best and the gap I have between mine is a bit too much, but competition happens in life and my children learn to cope with their feelings from being siblings 5 years apart.

SarabellPlus3

I have 3 girls. I'd love to have another 1, or even 2 (preferably more girls!), but DH wants to be done, and got 'the snip', so 3 is OUR ideal!

Tuffjourney

I would have loved to have 4. But ended up with 2... So now must wait for grandkids.

Qarol

I would have loved to have 4. But ended up with 2... So now must wait for grandkids.

If they have any...me and my younger brother are both not planning on having any.