Do your friends have a right to judge you….and you, them?

quichebradford

If you have a profile pic posted, (this goes for any social networking site, not just MFP) and your friend told you it was “unflattering”, would you be upset? Obviously YOU think the pic is fine, which is why you posted it, but what if you hear from your friend(s) that the pic isn’t the best representation of you?

Or, flip the script. Would YOU tell a friend if they had a photo that wasn’t right? If so, then how would you say it without offending them?

I_give_it_2_u_str8

u r a drama mamma

boomboom011

im anxious to hear responses. i have a few MFP and FB friends with profile pics that are not the best. I think they are capable of way better and more classy!

I think it depends on the friend. i have a few friends in my personal life that i can say anything to and its fine. then there are those "friends" that get all bajiggity if you say anything to them that is not in line with what they think. therefore they are not my true "friends" anyway.

But i have a policy with my friends. If you ask me Im gonna tell you.

Random_Name

I don't care about pictures. If I'm not in them or no one is having sex, then who gives a *kitten*?

voluptas63

I don't have any friends that are easily offended. I just tell them. "Dude, your profile picture suuuuuuuuuucks." I don't hang out with people that find drama necessary.

megz4987

Where I am, mentally, right now... if anyone told me anything about me was unflattering I think I'd knock them out. Yea, definitely.

shesblossoming

It depends on the friend. If they can take it like a man, and I know it, I tell them, "Hey, dude, what about this pic as your profile?" If I know someone can't, I just bear it and grin.

bry_all01

and winner for most controversial poster goes to........ drum roll, please................................................ OP!!! :drinker:

macpatti

I would hope that one of my friends or one of my sisters would tell me. I know I've had some pics where I think I look good, and my younger sister will text me and say, "not really your best shot", and I'll change it. I really do appreciate that kind of feedback.

In regards to telling someone else, it would totally depend on what level of friendship we have. I would tell one of my sisters or one of my close friends. Not so sure I would tell an old high school friend on FB who I haven't seen in years, though. Now, if you ask me, I'll tell you the truth (not brutal honesty, just honesty).

LivLovLrn

I guess it depends if it is coming from a true friend, some one who knows you well and cares about you, or just an acquaintance who doesn't really know you that well. If it is coming from a true friend, take the comment with the love and concern it was given in and respond accordingly. If not, ignore it and go about your business.

philOHIO

I would be upset... this is a place for support, not judgement.

My1985Freckles

I would not be offended because I don't offend easily, but I only have one or two people I would tell that their pic is unflattering.... And a few that would cut me off if I did. Oh wait, she already did.

Qarol

I have the phrase "*kitten* off* on verbal speed dial.

FearAnLoathing

I would not care at all if someone told me they dont like my profile pics,be it freind,family,or stranger. I also tell someone if i thought their pic was not very flattering but only if they asked what I thought of it

adjones5

I'd rather my friend/sister/mom tell me kindly then for other people to be looking at it and judging me. I'd probably have my feelings a little hurt at first but be thankful later. Unless they are saying it out of jealousy. Then they can piss off.

FearAnLoathing

I would be upset... this is a place for support, not judgement.

Telling someone you think their profile pic is unflattering is not judgment,its an opinion.

d2footballJRC

I don't have any friends that are easily offended. I just tell them. "Dude, your profile picture suuuuuuuuuucks." I don't hang out with people that find drama necessary.

Being your friend I have to tell you.. Your taste in sporting teams suuuuuuuck :-) No wonder you love to brew beer ;-) (I can't say much I'm a KC Chiefs, KC Royals and Detroit Lions fan :-( )

papa5280

I think I'd be more sensitive to the issue here then on other social networking sites. If someone felt like they had achieved an improvement, and posted a new pic they thought demonstrated that, they might be devastated by a comment that the pic was unflattering. Kinda the opposite of supportive, in that situation.

ilookthetype

I have the phrase "*kitten* off* on verbal speed dial.

The eloquence of Q.

leynak

I don't usually mention anything to people. They can put up whatever pic they want & if they like it then who cares. If someone told me they thought my pic was not good I guess I would feel a little bad. I try to use pics that make me look the best I can. I wouldn't get mad or hold it against them though.

raevynn

Not really sure how telling someone that the pic of them is unflattering is so offensive? It isn't like you are telling them that they don't look good... an "unflattering pic" is just that... one that is not portraying them as they are.

If I had a "friend" that took offense to someone pointing out "hey, that pic isn't very good of you... you look better than that", then I'd not be friends with them long.