Romance

fbmandy55
fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
edited October 2 in Chit-Chat
So stemming from a previous conversation regarding flowers from SO's.....

I for one only want flowers if they are impressive. A dozen red roses has been done over and over and has very little thought behind it in my opinion.

Same goes for a romatic actions. Flowers, chocolates, stuffed animals all make me want to gag. Those things are so cliche' and require very little or NO thought on the man's behalf. Any man can do that. A man who knows me will know what I like and what will make me swoon.

For example: I love dim light and candelabras, so the candlelight works for me. My guy will also know my love for blues and smooth guitar tone, skip the bottle of wine and fancy food for a bottle of patron and let the fun begin :wink:


How do you define romance?
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  • Whatareherthings711
    Whatareherthings711 Posts: 316
    I wish I had a personal experience with which to define this. Can't wait til I do =).
  • Random_Name
    Random_Name Posts: 77
    Romance is what a guy does to get in a girl's pants. Or dress.
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    ^ nice
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    I think its talking, and showing that you really love and want someone :devil:
  • sdwelk11
    sdwelk11 Posts: 825
    Romance to me is basically the little things that my Hubby does without a hint or asking for something. He just does it. For example, I have a beautiful crystal vase that we received as a wedding gift and i keep a bouquet of flowers in it. Well last weekend he went to the store for me because i was really busy with school and work and couldnt go and when he came home he brought me a boquet of mixed flowers for the vase and said "I got these for you because I know you like to have flowers in that vase and the old ones were dying and you havent had a chance to replace them!" Those are the times that I consider romantic!!!!!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    I want to be wooed.

    I say "buy me a teddy bear" because i'm the girl who never grew out of her love for stuffed animals. at one time, i had over 60. i was 19...

    aside from chivalry, i want to know they were thinking about me when i'm out of sight. how they show it is up to them, but knowing they paid attention is really what makes the difference.

    IMO - creativity counts.
  • leynak
    leynak Posts: 963 Member
    I don't really care much for getting flowers. I just hate seeing them die & having to throw them away.

    The last thing I that my fiance did that was romantic was bring me a carmello bar...haha...sounds kind of dumb I guess but I'm easily pleased & I just love knowing that he's thinking about me when he doesn't have to. I also love it when he gives me a hug & kisses me on the face out of no where. :smile:
  • LoveleeB
    LoveleeB Posts: 560 Member
    (Some of) The Things I think are romantic:

    -A guy buying me tiger lilies because they are my favorie flower
    -A guy running a hot bubble bath for me when I come home
    -A candlelight dinner for two prepared by my guy
    -Hand written love notes randomly left around the house
    -If a guy writes me a poem
    -When a guy expresses how much he cares about me while looking directly into my eyes *sigh*
    -If a guy tells me he wants to grow old with me
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    once I was having a bad day.
    I was sitting at home and I guess he had taken off work early.
    He said "I've got a surprise for you" and he just played piano for me, for about an hour.

    That is romance.
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    once I was having a bad day.
    I was sitting at home and I guess he had taken off work early.
    He said "I've got a surprise for you" and he just played piano for me, for about an hour.

    That is romance.

    yes

    and "-If a guy tells me he wants to grow old with me" :heart: as long as something else is involved in this talk :wink: :devil:
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    He carved our names in a tree at our favorite camp spot while I was away on a bathroom hike. He never told about it he just let me finally find it on my own. *sigh*
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I am not a very demonstrative person. But....A day doesn't go by that I don't tell my wife I love her. I can't pass her in the kitchen or hallway without touching her. The romance is in the way she holds my face in her hands when she kisses me. The way she watches me when she thinks I am not looking.

    Some of the rituals are the Sunday brunches I prepare every week. Try to make something special for her. Always with something I know she'll like and something else I think she might like.

    I try to surprise her. The last time I sent her flowers was for Father's Day. I sent it to her work the Friday preceding with a note that said I could never have been a good father if it were not for her. You think that wasn't worth a week's worth of BJ's, Mandy?

    On my 40th birthday, I surprised her with a diamond tennis bracelet. Caught her off guard.

    I still open her doors for her. I still try and cop a feel every chance I get.

    Works for me. Works for her.
  • mmildice
    mmildice Posts: 63
    My husband and I had just moved and I was feeling down. We were sitting on the couch and he asked to see a ring I was wearing. I took it off and gave it to him. Then he held my hand and put it back on. I wasnt paying attention just thought he put my old ring back on. He had infact bought me a new one and slipped it on. I was so shocked that I screamed and woke up our daughter. I think that was the most romantic thing he has done. Things that are unexpected are the best!!
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    How do you define romance

    Making sure I'm ready to leave the house each morning when I'm not really awake.
    Offering the bathtub when we both want a bath (too small to share, unfortunately).
    Making sure I remember to eat.
    Sleeping with the munchkin when she won't settle to make sure I have the sleep I need for work the next day.
    Bringing home one of those cheap grocery store apple pie in waxed paper things because he's been craving one.
    Buying the other's favorite ice cream instead of your own.

    Each of these goes both ways, of course.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member

    I try to surprise her. The last time I sent her flowers was for Father's Day. I sent it to her work the Friday preceding with a note that said I could never have been a good father if it were not for her. You think that wasn't worth a week's worth of BJ's, Mandy?

    That is VERY , VERY sweet and is definitley worth MORE than a week's worth of bjs.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    Romance is when my husband brought home the really cute jacket from Target that I'd been going on about without being asked to, just to surprise me. Romance is when he spends his weekend building me a chicken coop because I'm obsessed with chickens and need another for the babies. Romance is when he brings me a cup of coffee first thing because he knows I'm not human until I get one. And it's like last night when he was getting home late and wouldn't see me before I had to leave for an evening appointment. He met me there just to give me a hug and say "I love you beautiful." He makes me swoon and we'll be celebrating 20 years of marriage Oct 19.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    Seriously....Dunkin Donuts Iced Coffee, Rita's Mango Italian Ice, Walking my puppy and sex....

    I am a happy girl :-)
  • raevynn
    raevynn Posts: 666 Member
    Every Sunday morning, my Dear Hubby gets up, makes coffee, and then brings me fresh coffee and the Sunday paper. In bed.

    We sit and read the paper, talk about trivial stuff, and just be together.

    He's also a romantic sort that says "I love you" every day, touches me whenever I'm close by, and, yes, he gets his "just rewards" :wink: frequently.

    Roses are pretty frequent, along with other types of flowers, in our home. :happy:
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    I am not a very demonstrative person. But....A day doesn't go by that I don't tell my wife I love her. I can't pass her in the kitchen or hallway without touching her. The romance is in the way she holds my face in her hands when she kisses me. The way she watches me when she thinks I am not looking

    I still open her doors for her. I still try and cop a feel every chance I get

    This may be the sexyiest thing I have ever read!
  • Libby81
    Libby81 Posts: 734 Member
    I wish I had a personal experience with which to define this. Can't wait til I do =).


    Me too. All my prices turn in to toads too quickly for any romance. I'm still a believer in chivalry and would love to be courted and made to feel special. I would also like to know that they think of me when I'm not there
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    Small simple gestures is what does it for me. I don't need expensive bouquets, or gifts to know that he's thinking of me .. I appreciate the 'little' things. I do not associate a price tag on a gift to how much I think he loves me.

    A single rose (to me is just as beautiful and a full bouquet) .. just to say .. "I'm thinking of you". One time, instead of a card he left me a note with a stick figure on it of a stick man holding a flower, handing it to a stick lady with a heart in the middle.

    The silliest simple gestures mean more to me than any fancy smancy gift .. Anyone can make a phone call and have a bouquet of flowers delivered .. I much prefer things like putting out a bowl and a box of cereal on the counter in the morning before he goes to work, knowing I will be in a rush to get going because I start my day off at a dead run. If the box is almost empty, he will save the last of the cereal for me, because he knows if I don't have time, I won't eat.

    He will cover me with a blanket when I have fallen asleep on the couch.
    He will put out his hand for me to touch when I walk by him
    He will take care of me when I am sick
    He will walk up behind me while I am cooking dinner, take me in his arms and just start dancing (sometimes even when there is no music playing on the radio)
    He will just look at me sometimes .. for no particular reason .. and just smile.

    Those things are (at least to me) his way of showing me that he is just simply happy to be with me .. THAT is all I need to know.
  • Stefani74
    Stefani74 Posts: 448 Member
    Romance...dancing with me anywhere or anytime just because he knows how much I love to dance. The last guy I dated was a farmer and I went with him to check water on the crops. A slow song came on the radio and he turns it up, stops the truck, comes over to my side, opens the door and asks me to dance. So there we are slow dancing in the middle of a field road between soybeans and rice and it just happened to be at sunset.

    He also picked me flowers and arranged them himself instead of ordering them from a florist.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Mine....

    Oooh baby - let me scrub the crock pot for you tonight
    :laugh:

    Im not a grand gestures girl. It is the thought that counts. Id rather him write me a quick note. Pick me a flower. Think of me at the store and grab a package of my favorite whatever it is.

    I JUST read above on the dancing part. I have n e v e r had a man dance with me in the kitchen. Id like that. :)
  • otr12
    otr12 Posts: 632 Member
    Romance is when my husband really wants these cool looking after market headlights but gets the new bushings that I want.
  • Krull_the_WarriorKing
    Krull_the_WarriorKing Posts: 650 Member
    When you find the right person - romance isn't a task. Romance happens on it's own.
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    Romance is what a guy does to get in a girl's pants. Or dress.

    Let me guess......you're under the age of 25?
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    When you find the right person - romance isn't a task. Romance happens on it's own.

    I like this.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    know my love for blues and smooth guitar tone, skip the bottle of wine and fancy food for a bottle of patron and let the fun begin :wink:


    Do you have a sister?
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    know my love for blues and smooth guitar tone, skip the bottle of wine and fancy food for a bottle of patron and let the fun begin :wink:


    Do you have a sister?

    Not of legal age... but I'm single :wink:
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    I don't like things that are planned and drawn out and over-the-top. Sucks for my husband, who's a really romantic guy, but I just don't go for the whole rose petals and chocolates kind of thing. He's always looking for that wowed-to-tears reaction, and he very rarely gets it. It's just not in my nature to be bowled over by a Whitman's Sampler.

    For me, the most romantic gesture is one where he lets me know that he really "gets" me. Like he had the kids custom-design me those Chucks in my profile pic. That melted me pretty well, because I love Chucks and I love when something is made just for me, and I love that the kids had a hand in it.
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