Most people on here are lovely BUT..

naomirog

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

rockylucas

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for those on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

IMYarnCraz33

That is why a lot of people have their diaries on private.
because they're tired of or don't want any critical & judgemental comments.

nomorefatbitch

I hear ya.

Most everyone has been great, but I had some really nasty messages sent to me awhile back because I didn't run my 5ks, I only walked them, so I shouldn't be proud of my accomplishments. WTH???

My thought is that EVERYONE is here for a reason and MOST of us appreciate the support and MOST of us are wonderful!!

Keep up the good work and don't let the B's get you down

Grace

lottywood

I agree. Everyone is different and you know what works for you better than anyone else! encouraging comments are nice and this site is a great site when that is what you get. I would never be rude or negative about someones diary (and trust me i have seen some absolute corkers by people who claim to be "healthy eating") i wish people would take more care when commenting on mine. When comments are made in a derogative manner it is hurtful!

kdchick99

You have to do what you feel comfortable with. My mom always said "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". It should be a golden rule in everybody's life, but it's not. Keep working hard and don't listen to the negative people....Good luck!

Contrarian

I would PM the negative people and explain that while you appreciate that they are trying to help, you don't find their comments to be helpful, and it is in fact exacerbating the negative way you sometimes feel. If they take offence, then they can delete you or you can delete them.

You could also just make your diary private.

Good luck and don't let it get to you. People usually have the best of intentions. Try to bear that in mind.

chefchazz

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

baaaaaaaaaaahaha thats funny!!!

eeeekie

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Rude.

I'm a "Heifer" and I wouldn't ever make a negative comment regarding someones diary. And dare I say, I do believe I'll get to be a size I DESIRE...THANK YOU VERY MUCH . Hard work pays off darlin'

To the OP, you can up your calories with healthy food you don't have to introduce unhealthy food.

lilyinlove

Don´t let them get to you. You are your own person....do what you want...not what they want!!

Contrarian

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Come on, now. That wasn't necessary, was it? It's nice that you are trying to make the OP feel better but this is probably not the best forum to be calling overweight women "heifers".

Rae6503

If you don't hit that "complete diary" button, it would post that you did and invite comments.

NoAdditives

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

While no one should eat junk simply to meet their calories goal, it is important to do what you can to meet it. It's your goal for a reason. You shouldn't be under and you shouldn't be over. If you have trouble with the quantity of food being too much (I did at first) you can try adding more calorie dense foods to your daily diet. A handful of nuts or some avocado can make a huge difference when it comes to upping calories. Adding in a snack in the morning or the afternoon helps a lot as well. When I was losing and was going to the gym all the time (I'm pregnant now) I was eating 5-6 times a day, three fulls meals, a protein shake and at leas one snack. I never felt stuffed or like I was eating too much. I know everyone is different, but sometimes it just takes a little effort to retrain our bodies.

vanessaclarkgbr

Ok so now I feel lucky, I've got a positive, nice bunch! I removed someone a while ago as she referred to her family as c*nts and a wierd guy PM'd me when I first joined - I don't think he was on a diet! - but yes, I've been really lucky here and would have failed many times over without them :-)

megz4987

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Ouch. While that may be nice comment for her that's quite mean to us fatties. Coming from someone who's lost so much weight, you know it's not a dream.

For the rude people, delete them. If they can't be positive and support you (whether you're under or over your target), they're not worth the aggrivation.

gbelltx

You go young lady!! Sounds like you’re doing just fine so continue to be strong, work you plan and enjoy your success!!

klsnell1981

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Rude.

I'm a "Heifer" and I wouldn't ever make a negative comment regarding someones diary. And dare I say, I do believe I'll get to be a size I DESIRE...THANK YOU VERY MUCH . Hard work pays off darlin'

To the OP, you can up your calories with healthy food you don't have to introduce unhealthy food.

Hear Hear!! I guess I am a "heifer" as well... but I am mature enough to know that I shouldn't say something that I wouldn't want to hear being said to me.

*Where does this guy get off saying stuff like this??

NoAdditives

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Come on, now. That wasn't necessary, was it? It's nice that you are trying to make the OP feel better but this is probably not the best forum to be calling overweight women "heifers".

For real. Some of us are overweight and doing what we need to do in order to get healthy. AND, we honestly care about other people here because we want everyone to be healthy. Some of us see our friends consistently under their calorie goal and it frustrates us because we know it's not healthy, not because we're jealous. There may be some insecure people who are jealous of the successes of others, but for the most part, if anyone is going to comment on someone being under their calorie goal it's not out of jealousy. A lot of people here were overweight and UNDEReating for a very long time. This site helped us understand the danger and futility in that and we want to share our knowledge with our friends.

veganbaum

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

I keep my diary private at the moment just because I'm still learning so I'm not comfortable sharing right now. And I was (unintentionally) undereating when I started, so at first my calories were really low. If someone consistently made negative comments, I would delete them as well.

However, have you considered that maybe what is "rude" to you is concern to them? Since you say you have a hard time reaching your goal, and are already very slender, maybe they are concerned and think you should eat more for your health? Maybe they are trying to show concern and are coming across as rude, or maybe they are just being flat out rude, I don't know, but it might be something to consider.

engineman312

lor007

I would PM the negative people and explain that while you appreciate that they are trying to help, you don't find their comments to be helpful, and it is in fact exacerbating the negative way you sometimes feel. If they take offence, then they can delete you or you can delete them.

You could also just make your diary private.

Good luck and don't let it get to you. People usually have the best of intentions. Try to bear that in mind.

:flowerforyou:

lor007

double post.

AnitaMcKenna

I understand your frustration about negative comments - nobody likes them!

However, as you said yourself, people are stating "time and again" the obvious fact that most of the time you are way under your calorie target. I try hard not to write anything negative about your calorie intake, but I am concerned that you generally only have 60-70% of your targetted calorie intake.

If you feel your target is too high, then perhaps you should lower it? If you feel your target is about right, then perhaps you need to to do more to "achieve your target"? You're doing fabulous with your exercise, could you give the same focus to your food? You really don't need to eat junk food to up your calories.

I hope you'll take my comments as they're intended - as I would tell a friend to her face. Most important is that you keep yourself healthy!!

naomirog

Wow..thanks guys..A LOT of positive and encouraging comments..now you are the kinda people i'm gonna listen to!

kimcat73

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for those on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

While you edited the "heifer" comment, I still find it hard to believe that you want to be a therapist for obese people ... seriously, you might need some sensitivity training.

tigersword

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

To be fair, being under your calorie goal is just as unhealthy as being over your calorie goal. I for one, very rarely offer praise to anyone, because I do not blindly support and encourage behaviors that could be considered destructive and unhealthy (or even activities that are normal parts daily routines.) If you are eating (hypothetically, as I don't know your situation) 500 under the weight loss goal that MFP already gives you, and not eating back exercise calories, why would I praise that and encourage it? As for if they are mean about it, sometimes the truth hurts and tough love can be mean. Not everybody offers support by fawning. Some people give you the slap in the face you need.

naomirog

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

To be fair, being under your calorie goal is just as unhealthy as being over your calorie goal. I for one, very rarely offer praise to anyone, because I do not blindly support and encourage behaviors that could be considered destructive and unhealthy. If you are eating (hypothetically, as I don't know your situation) 500 under the weight loss goal that MFP already gives you, and not eating back exercise calories, why would I praise that and encourage it? As for if they are mean about it, sometimes the truth hurts and tough love can be mean. Not everybody offers support by fawning. Some people give you the slap in the face you need.

I don't welcome a slap in th face..thank you.

bry_all01

pretty fit people will get that...... from the wrong set of friends, or people who are not really friends. I my MFP friends. They are quirky, snarky, silly, sassy, funny, but above all, supportive. Cut the rude ones, gorgeous. You know your body.

kimcat73

But to the OP, I do wish you the best of luck if your goals and I hope you find some helpful comments and friends here. MFP is a great place to be:)

meerkat70

The fact that you are generally attractive and slender already will make you a target for the heifers on here who can only dream of getting close to where you are :P

Come on, now. That wasn't necessary, was it? It's nice that you are trying to make the OP feel better but this is probably not the best forum to be calling overweight women "heifers".

I read it as a slightly ill considered joke.

As one of the resident heifers, I'd like to hope I'm only ever kind to my circle of friends. And I have some very lovely ones.

To the OP, I think perhaps sometimes you just have to be a little bit secure in the choices you're making, and deal with the occasionally clumsy attempts at supportive critique in the way they're intended. I think we're much more skilled at giving positive feedback, because that's 'nice'. Giving constructive critique is a skill many people simply haven't learned. Maybe view such posts as being made by people wearing nice big L plates?

tigersword

i feel like some people write discouraging, negative comments on your diary to maybe just make them selves feel better because they maybe over indulged that day.

Some people struggle to keep within their calorie target where as i (and many others) find it hard to eat our calories. I welcome helpful, positive, encouraging comments but i will start deleting people who point out the obvious time and time again because it just makes me want to take my diary off here and go it alone.

I am on a diet to lose weight...i will NOT eat junk food to up my calories nor will i eat when i do not feel hungry - end of.

Rant over - thanks for listening

To be fair, being under your calorie goal is just as unhealthy as being over your calorie goal. I for one, very rarely offer praise to anyone, because I do not blindly support and encourage behaviors that could be considered destructive and unhealthy. If you are eating (hypothetically, as I don't know your situation) 500 under the weight loss goal that MFP already gives you, and not eating back exercise calories, why would I praise that and encourage it? As for if they are mean about it, sometimes the truth hurts and tough love can be mean. Not everybody offers support by fawning. Some people give you the slap in the face you need.

I don't welcome a slap in th face..thank you.

Most people don't welcome it, but some people need it. I'm not saying whether you are in that category or not. I'm just giving my point of view on the topic at hand.