IRL....

_beachgirl_

I swear
I say what I am feeling
If someone is being rude to me, I tell them I won't tolerate that
I talk about sex with my friends...all the time and graphically
I laugh at stupid people
I get snarky
I flirt....with everyone
I can be a b*tch sometimes
I play truth or dare
I show off my boobs
I get into arguements


So tell me, why shouldn't I be able to do that here too?

FearAnLoathing

welcome to stepford

macpatti

Can't you do it "here", but on your profile page with just your own friends? There's a time and place for all that, which is fine. But, jumping into other threads with that stuff isn't appropriate because you don't know who you may be offending. Like, I'll put things on my own profile page here that I won't put on the forums because of the rules. It's just a way of respecting everyone. Just my humble opinion.

leilani♥

welcome to stepford

+1!

Iamfit4life

I have no problem with any of it and don't see the problem. The mods shouldn't be babysitters.

I think it's a shame that grown a$$ed adults are acting like children.

I haven't been here that long but I have a pretty good idea what I'm going to see when I click a thread by certain people. I have the free will not to click it if I do not want to.

JenBrown0210

Can't you do it "here", but on your profile page with just your own friends? There's a time and place for all that, which is fine. But, jumping into other threads with that stuff isn't appropriate because you don't know who you may be offending. Like, I'll put things on my own profile page here that I won't put on the forums because of the rules. It's just a way of respecting everyone. Just my humble opinion.

People have been posting on their own walls and being told to remove things too.

Thomasm198

Be careful.



Apparently we aren't allowed to even use bad language on our own walls now.

Oh fudge! Gosh Darn It!

macpatti

I have no problem with any of it and don't see the problem. The mods shouldn't be babysitters.

I think it's a shame that grown a$$ed adults are acting like children.

I haven't been here that long but I have a pretty good idea what I'm going to see when I click a thread by certain people. I have the free will not to click it if I do not want to.

If you haven't been here that long, maybe you haven't experienced a thread being hijacked by a troll or by someone derailing it. You can be in a thread with good information, people giving differences of opinions, it's going well, then you get someone who feels they have the "right" to use their own words or humor, thus exposing everyone to it. I don't click on a topic that seems will be going in a certain direction, but sometimes it happens in threads I'm already in.

macpatti

Can't you do it "here", but on your profile page with just your own friends? There's a time and place for all that, which is fine. But, jumping into other threads with that stuff isn't appropriate because you don't know who you may be offending. Like, I'll put things on my own profile page here that I won't put on the forums because of the rules. It's just a way of respecting everyone. Just my humble opinion.

People have been posting on their own walls and being told to remove things too.

Oh, I didn't realize that. I guess I'll have to follow the rules on my wall, too. Thanks for the heads up.

Thomasm198

I have no problem with any of it and don't see the problem. The mods shouldn't be babysitters.

I think it's a shame that grown a$$ed adults are acting like children.

I haven't been here that long but I have a pretty good idea what I'm going to see when I click a thread by certain people. I have the free will not to click it if I do not want to.

If you haven't been here that long, maybe you haven't experienced a thread being hijacked by a troll or by someone derailing it. You can be in a thread with good information, people giving differences of opinions, it's going well, then you get someone who feels they have the "right" to use their own words or humor, thus exposing everyone to it. I don't click on a topic that seems will be going in a certain direction, but sometimes it happens in threads I'm already in.

This has got absolutely NOTHING to do with the forums.

This has to do with people receiving warnings over what they post on their own walls (our walls are only visible to people on our friends list) but that apparently is now irrelevant. We have to restrain from saying anything on our own walls.

Pebble321

Welcome to real life, there's times when you need to moderate your language/topics of discussion depending on where you are and the situation you are in.
You don't have to like it, but it's the way the world works!

(edited to add: I thought we were talking about forums not walls - crystal ball out of order this morning, but my comment still stands!

1Prettypain

In real life you see bikini's, revealing cloths, and hear people of all ages sware, including 10 year olds so why do we as adults have to be told to be careful on our profiles??? Where my stuff is for friends only! I don't think I've ever offended anyone on a forum... Well there was that one picture of my butt, however I've seen people in public wear worse.... Are you gonna go out and tell everyone they need to go change? Really look at the reality of this.. IRL you can't do anything, so I guess someone needs to be God and tell us we need to be angels here... No violations, on our friends walls, no bikini's , no swearing????? Really...???? Thus is getting outa hand with the god complex, and I'm not talking about Mike either!!

Thomasm198

Welcome to real life, there's times when you need to moderate your language/topics of discussion depending on where you are and the situation you are in.
You don't have to like it, but it's the way the world works!

(edited to add: I thought we were talking about forums not walls - crystal ball out of order this morning, but my comment still stands!

I beg to differ.

This is about what we post on our WALLS, not on the forums. All my friends are like-minded to me. Why is it now that people who have a similar outlook on life are not allowed say things on our walls (that is only visible to our friends - not the general public)?

_beachgirl_

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

macpatti

I have no problem with any of it and don't see the problem. The mods shouldn't be babysitters.

I think it's a shame that grown a$$ed adults are acting like children.

I haven't been here that long but I have a pretty good idea what I'm going to see when I click a thread by certain people. I have the free will not to click it if I do not want to.

If you haven't been here that long, maybe you haven't experienced a thread being hijacked by a troll or by someone derailing it. You can be in a thread with good information, people giving differences of opinions, it's going well, then you get someone who feels they have the "right" to use their own words or humor, thus exposing everyone to it. I don't click on a topic that seems will be going in a certain direction, but sometimes it happens in threads I'm already in.

This has got absolutely NOTHING to do with the forums.

This has to do with people receiving warnings over what they post on their own walls (our walls are only visible to people on our friends list) but that apparently is now irrelevant. We have to restrain from saying anything on our own walls.

Well, the OP didn't state she was referring to walls. I didn't see where that was the point. If this topic is about our own walls, then I agree.

_beachgirl_

I meant on both forums and walls.

macpatti

I meant on both forums and walls.

Thanks for the clarification. I agree with you regarding the walls, but disagree regarding the forums.

ajbeans

Would you swear and tell lewd jokes in the grocery store? I wouldn't. I'd do it at home, but not in public around people I don't know. And so I wouldn't do it in the forums.

I don't get what all this is about our walls though. If they're really modding walls, I don't like that.

macpatti

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Thomasm198

Would you swear and tell lewd jokes in the grocery store? I wouldn't. I'd do it at home, but not in public around people I don't know. And so I wouldn't do it in the forums.

I don't get what all this is about our walls though. If they're really modding walls, I don't like that.

Yes, at least two of my friends received warnings today over what they posted on their walls, not what they posted in the forums.

_beachgirl_

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

Iamfit4life

Would you swear and tell lewd jokes in the grocery store? I wouldn't. I'd do it at home, but not in public around people I don't know. And so I wouldn't do it in the forums.

I don't get what all this is about our walls though. If they're really modding walls, I don't like that.

Yes, at least two of my friends received warnings today over what they posted on their walls, not what they posted in the forums.

That is just INSANE.

ajbeans

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

Exactly. And we should all try to be respectful of diversity. We all know when to filter ourselves in public in real life, or at least, we should. Treat the forums like any other public place.

macpatti

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

I always strive to promote diversity. In diversity of any kind (race, religion, socio economic backgrounds, etc), we should all respect the differences of others in an effort not to offend. Offensive language should not be tolerated in a diverse community.

Thomasm198

Would you swear and tell lewd jokes in the grocery store? I wouldn't. I'd do it at home, but not in public around people I don't know. And so I wouldn't do it in the forums.

I don't get what all this is about our walls though. If they're really modding walls, I don't like that.

Yes, at least two of my friends received warnings today over what they posted on their walls, not what they posted in the forums.

That is just INSANE.

Yes, insane. And I saw the text of the warning they received.

_beachgirl_

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

I always strive to promote diversity. In diversity of any kind (race, religion, socio economic backgrounds, etc), we should all respect the differences of others in an effort not to offend. Offensive language should not be tolerated in a diverse community.

I would like to know where you live where people don't swear in public, or tell dirty jokes in mixed company, or where people don't walk around in revealing clothes, or where everyone thinks exactly like you do.

Why does it have to be YOUR way? what do you do in public when someone near you is swearing, I bet you walk away. When a woman is wearing an extremely low-cut shirt? I bet you don't look. People need to learn to walk away and not look here.

Iamfit4life

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

IMO you should be, it's insane.

Pebble321

Welcome to real life, there's times when you need to moderate your language/topics of discussion depending on where you are and the situation you are in.
You don't have to like it, but it's the way the world works!

(edited to add: I thought we were talking about forums not walls - crystal ball out of order this morning, but my comment still stands!

I beg to differ.

This is about what we post on our WALLS, not on the forums. All my friends are like-minded to me. Why is it now that people who have a similar outlook on life are not allowed say things on our walls (that is only visible to our friends - not the general public)?

I guess it still comes back to picking the appropriate time and place. I don't "own" this site and neither do you, that means we don't get to make the rules. As I said before, that's how life works, whether we like it or not and whether we agree with it or not.

macpatti

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

I always strive to promote diversity. In diversity of any kind (race, religion, socio economic backgrounds, etc), we should all respect the differences of others in an effort not to offend. Offensive language should not be tolerated in a diverse community.

I would like to know where you live where people don't swear in public, or tell dirty jokes in mixed company, or where people don't walk around in revealing clothes, or where everyone thinks exactly like you do.

Why does it have to be YOUR way? what do you do in public when someone near you is swearing, I bet you walk away. When a woman is wearing an extremely low-cut shirt? I bet you don't look. People need to learn to walk away and not look here.

Like I said, if it's obvious in the topic title that the thread will be one I won't want to read, then I don't. I'm talking about people thinking because they have the "right" to post crude, vulgar, or offensive comments in decent threads that it makes it "right". If I'm having a conversation with someone "in real life", and another person jumps in and starts dropping the "f bomb" or makes racial comments, you're darn right I'll tell them something. If I'm in a place with my children and someone is cussing, you bet I'll ask them to be aware of their surroundings because there are children there. So, yes, I would speak up in public, just as I do here.

_beachgirl_

I think everyone is assuming that I meant in an inappropriate manner.

I mean on my wall,among my friends, in threads on those topics.

There is someone that is always going to be offended no matter what the topic.

I have to watch what I say because I might offend someone. Well I am offended that these people are so sensitive, I'm offended that they choose to comment on something they don't like, I am offended that they can't be adult enough to just close the thread and move on.

I'm not overly sensitive, nor do I get offended easily. We should all be adults, but that doesn't mean we all want "adult talk". I'm an adult, but I won't go into an adult bookstore or an adult video store. Just because we have the right to do things, doesn't make it right. Know your surroundings, and use appropriate behavior. That should be online or "in real life". It's just common courtesy. I will cuss among my friends or with family members, but I'm certainly not going to do it in public or on a public forum around people I do not know. I think that's just being respectful.

Well we are different people, I would.

It's called diversity.

I always strive to promote diversity. In diversity of any kind (race, religion, socio economic backgrounds, etc), we should all respect the differences of others in an effort not to offend. Offensive language should not be tolerated in a diverse community.

I would like to know where you live where people don't swear in public, or tell dirty jokes in mixed company, or where people don't walk around in revealing clothes, or where everyone thinks exactly like you do.

Why does it have to be YOUR way? what do you do in public when someone near you is swearing, I bet you walk away. When a woman is wearing an extremely low-cut shirt? I bet you don't look. People need to learn to walk away and not look here.

Like I said, if it's obvious in the topic title that the thread will be one I won't want to read, then I don't. I'm talking about people thinking because they have the "right" to post crude, vulgar, or offensive comments in decent threads that it makes it "right". If I'm having a conversation with someone "in real life", and another person jumps in and starts dropping the "f bomb" or makes racial comments, you're darn right I'll tell them something. If I'm in a place with my children and someone is cussing, you bet I'll ask them to be aware of their surroundings because there are children there. So, yes, I would speak up in public, just as I do here.

Children are not present here.

I am not talking about highjacking threads or being racist.

I am talking about posting my own threads, talking about sex, using words like b*tch and *kitten*.

I am like you and if I click on a thread I read and don't like, I just go onto another thread. So why can't everyone?

hush7hush

The only thing that bothers me about any of this, is that we're required to be 18 to sign up, right?! So why do we have to use language that is acceptable for 13 year olds?