How do you spice up your marriage?

PoshTaush

First, can we please not just talk all about S-E-X? haha.. I know bedroom fun is the best, but other than that....

What do you all do to keep things fresh and exciting?

I need some new ideas.

i_love_vinegar

I don't know what you guys have tried but here are some ideas that might help:
edible massage candles
gummy handcuffs and candy clothing lol
chocolate pens
vibrating panties
costumes (dress like a maid or armadillo or whatever floats your bloat).
bondage
^^

PoshTaush

I don't know what you guys have tried but here are some ideas that might help:
edible massage candles
gummy handcuffs and candy clothing lol
chocolate pens
vibrating panties
costumes (dress like a maid or armadillo or whatever floats your bloat).
bondage
^^

LMAO!! Armadillo!

JDNOX

I am trying the Armadillo TONIGHT YEAH

mrmarius

a note out somewherr that you both have never been, in a really nice hotel preferrably a suite.. or just a plain walk in the park, or something super random like karaoke nite, heck i need to try that last one lol

Goddess111682

Find an activity that the both of you can enjoy together! Me and my hubby get out and play baseball and volleyball together! Most of the time were on opposite teams to spice it up! lol...were highly competitive! :bigsmile:

Brandicaloriecountess

Flirt with your husband. Don't lose, or get back the fun playful feeling from when you first met. Don't let life and all the seriousness get in the way of enjoying each other.

Also date nights :-)

B3Streeter

Not married yet, but my my fiance & I work seperate shifts & barely see eachother. We have become very fond of picture messages! Also, leaving notes for eachother around the house. & making our time count when we are together. We go on dates a lot, exercise together, basically do everything together when we are home at the same time!

shalynna89

I am trying the Armadillo TONIGHT YEAH

Lmao:)

Jojo2k11

I'm not married, but when in a relationship and its good (lol) I've done random naughty/romantic notes, written stories of fantasies I'd like to share, cooked special dinners/desserts, surprise getaways, small random adventures i.e. picnic at night on the beach.

It was fun lol

xMissAprilx

Pretend it's your first date. (Heard it works wonders for some couples).
Compete in fun little games.
Try something new together, restaurant with exotic food or whatever else.
Massage each other.
Act like teenagers again.
Hook up in exciting places, not just your own home.
Blind folds....

metrognome9

In general, come up with something together that will challenge you; something different. A place, an activity, an untried ethnic restaurant, live theatre, a concert. You must be willing to adventure together!

I've been in a relationship for 21+ years and one of the biggest things is that we've changed alot in that time. The ones that get bored are the ones that don't realize they're changing - they force themselves into their old roles instead of talking and re-examining what they're doing all the time. Allow yourselves to change and grow and you won't get bored with each other or yourself.

Personally -- I just bought a massage table...

JaenaM

Learn something new frequently.
Have fun together often.
Communicate openly.
Repeat.

That's what's kept us together so far; we like going out to plays and taking classes together. We travel. And we also give each space when needed. We act like dorks together and have funny names and voices that people would roll their eyes at if they had a peek!! Be silly together, challenge each other, and of course...get naked whenever u can!

welcominganewself

Pay attention to the little things that your husband likes and then randomly do or get one of those things for him. For example, recently on a night when the kids were not home I rented a couple of movies that I would not normally watch,but hubby has been dying to see and then cooked his favorite meal (again not something that I love). We ate dinner while watching the movies and then just hung out together for the evening. Since we often work opposite schedules the time together was nice and he appreciated me picking some of his favorite things to enjoy during that time.

PoshTaush

I'm loving some of these ideas! Keep them coming!

PoshTaush

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crystalslight

I agree with who ever said "flirt". We all enjoy being flirted with and to flirt. I've been with my husband for 15 years. I flirt with him ALL the time. Sometimes flirting is just a look you give.

azQmaster

Look up the ANGRY PIRATE, that's always fun!

brewingaz

FearAnLoathing

naked twister

ohwhataday

haha

Rae6503

Vacations! Lots of date nights. It is hard to find a sitter but soooo important. We don't just go out to dinner either, we do fun things like baseball games, sea kayaking, mountain biking, bar hoping. We try to do it about once a month or so..... and yes, we make time for sex 1-2 times a week (which is kind of sad but pretty much all we've got).

sunkisses

I'd keep mine fresh by never getting married LOL. That said, treat him as though he is still someone you want to impress and entice. Treat him as though he's someone who has a choice to be with you, not someone who's obligated because of papers.

maab_connor

paint each other in chocolate. you can get it from a "specialty store" or you can just use fondue, but then make sure to let it cool a bit.

pick each other up. go out and act like you've never met and pick the other up at a bar or a diner or the library. it keeps the flirting.

get messy. food fights or mud runs or jello wrestling, it's fun and a little childish. the relationships that work don't take themselves too seriously.

FearAnLoathing

Ok first you are going to need a clown suit,a tub of crisco, duct tape, chili powder,and last but not least a vacum with attachments.............

writtenINthestars

I've been in a relationship for 21+ years and one of the biggest things is that we've changed alot in that time. The ones that get bored are the ones that don't realize they're changing - they force themselves into their old roles instead of talking and re-examining what they're doing all the time. Allow yourselves to change and grow and you won't get bored with each other or yourself.

Wow....this tidbit has shed some much needed light for me...and it's so simple...taking this bit home.

WhiteRaven

sex checks or coupons... they can be interesting

voluptas63

One word: Bondage.

infamousmk

Dates!! Flirting, learning something new together, taking time to just sit, not say anything, and just *be* together. .. learning how to communicate effectively and using it every. damn. day. Small gestures toward each other, something as simple as picking up their favorite treat on the way home when you know they've had a bad day. Acting like teenagers together, being silly, and never taking anything too personally.

mdfeller

If you have kids, like my husband and I, I really like candle lit dinners just the two of us after the kids go to bed. Ours go at 8:30 during the week, and we generally eat dinner at 6, so I still feed them at 6, and maybe have a little salad or just a bite with them, then after they get in bed, reheat or started cooking at 8. Light the candles and enjoy a quiet dinner just the two of us. We have three kids, so peach and quiet is almost non existent. During this time, we talk about our day, and anything else we have on our minds.

We also like to play games together (again after the kids go to bed) Sometimes if he's really lucky, I'll play some racing and shooting game with him on the xbox or ps. Mostly we play phase 10 or skip bo. Sometimes if I'm really lucky, he'll karaoke with me or guitar hero.

Also, leave little love notes occasionally. He leaves for work at 730ish, and sometimes the night before I'll stick a little sticky on his steering wheel. Just I love you notes, or something. Also, if he takes his lunch, I might leave a little flirty note in there.

He loves ham, and I hate it, so once or twice a month, I'll fix it for him, and he really appreciates it, cause he knows how much I hate it. Sometimes I even take out the trash for him, or even mow the yard. He buys me a plane ticket to see my bff in Florida.

Mios3

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