How do you spice up your marriage?

fbmandy55

haha

Awesome!

I'm not married but see lots of good ideas here. Such as: a movie you would necessarily like but he does, flirting, picture messages, going on dates as often as you can...

BobbyLx

My wife gave me a divorce. It was the best thing ever. We have never been happier.

PlunderBunneh

Outside of the bedroom, we accomadate each other's wants. Some nights he wants to just play Fallout, so I curl up with a book for a bit. Other nights, we play mario party together, or snuggle up for a movie.
I think the most important thing is to realize that just because you have been married for however many years doesn't mean you don't get to act like newlyweds. Be silly, have fun. Currently, we have a stuff animal horse that we hide from each other all over the house. Silly, but fun.

On a more "inside the bedroom" note, again, have fun! We have sex between 4 to 8 times a week, and that's with him working and going to school full time, two kids, and 6 years of marriage. I don't view sex as an obligation, although I'll admit that about half of the time, it's just for him. I love him enough that I'm going to have fun with it, regardless of whether or not I get mine in the end. Communicate your needs and your wants, and be willing to try new things.
One of my favorite things is actually going out to bars with him every now and then, but splitting up when we get there. Somehow flirting with other people makes us both better appreciate each other. It never goes further then a conversation with a stranger, but it feels so risque lols.
Try to remember why you choose this person to spend your life with, and find those qualities within each other again.

chocolateandvodka

what not to do:

if your partner is prone to motion sickness, do NOT drive them around a hilly countryside blindfolded.

if they are allergic to fish, do not take them out to a nice seafood restaurant by the beach. it sounds nice, but the ER bills are expensive.

do not go alone to a party they weren't able to accompany you on and then give them the door prize as a "gift".

if you have never cooked steak before, and aren't especially talented in the kitchen, don't try to grill it on the stove with a skillet 10 minutes before the SO gets home...

if you plan a birthday party for them, make sure it actually happens right around THEIR birthday, not your ex's whom you got them confused with...

~~ not saying i know any of these from experience... *looks innocent.

TheRoadDog

Sometimes she's the Principal and I'm the naughty schoolgirl.

p0pr0cksnc0ke

:laugh:

Sometimes she's the Principal and I'm the naughty schoolgirl.

:happy:

rocketpants

strange!

adrian_indy

If I ever feel the need to appreciate my wife more, I just turn on Bridezillas or just about any other reality show, and look at all of the dumb wastes of skin running around the planet. A little nagging and bickering look pretty good next to a bunch of raging *kitten* with substance abuse problems and fame addiction.

deeharley

My husband and I are butchering a moose together this week - haha.

Let's see, in the past we have:

Designed our dream home - we still have it in a file along with photos of a lot of dream furnishings.
Coached Boys and Girls Club basketball together.
Hiked seriously challenging mountains.
Gone on mini-vacations, just a weekend is enough sometimes.
Gone on dates - movies, bowling, driving, ice skating, sometimes just for ice cream or a doughnut.
Definitely flirt.
Leave random notes in unexpected places - shower, lunch box, inside a shirt, on a pillow. And they don't have to be sexy notes, just an I love you or Thank you for your hard work, whatever.

sandislim

We do the pleasure delay thing - well, I do - I'm not sure if my hubby appreciates it as much as me lol

brianward81

Writing I LOVE YOU on the mirror so she can see it when the steam from the shower is going. Don't think is ever freakin works but I still do it just in case.

I still have a red loveheart notepad I bought for our 10 year anniversary when I was making things for that so I will just randomly write a note and leave it somewhere for her to stumble on.

Spontaneous back rubs.

And I think I might go buy her something online so it gets delivered to her on Friday... bye!

GurleyGirl524

Sometimes she's the Principal and I'm the naughty schoolgirl.

omg, still laughing, love it

DannyMussels

Sometimes she's the Principal and I'm the naughty schoolgirl.

Quite possibly post of the year.

GurleyGirl524

We sometimes leave each other hidden notes to find later in the day. We flirt a lot throughout the day as well. We will have our 20th wedding anniversary in December. We got married 24 days after we met. Must be doing something right.

livnlite

Definately .. a common interest. Something recreational that you can do as a couple. This opens up opportunites for conversation and sharing on a whole different level. Friends do it .. to bond .. so should couples. Remember, your partner IS your friend .. It's good to do 'friend' stuff too.

ahalla

Have you have played "guess my part"? You send a picture of a body part to your man and gets his mind going. Don't be too obvious, but you can give hints..."I like when you kiss me gently here".

chezmama

My husband bought a cruiser motorcycle last summer. We take scenic rides to rustic towns with fancy little restaurants for dinner. When we do this, I like to pretend he is a leather clad man come to whisk me away from my domesticated life. That has spiced things up..especially when we took a long overnight bike trip.