let it go...

Posts: 3,100 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
When someone does or says something to get under your skin, guess what? You have a right to let it go. *gasp* Yes, seriously. The person does not make you upset. They said something that ruffled your feathers, but YOU chose to let it affect you. So, YOU can choose to let it go. YOU made yourself mad, NOT them.

Sure, they may have acted like a total asshat, but you decide whether to let it roll off your shoulders or harbor it. Who do you think it hurts? Certainly not them. YOU call the shots on how you are going to react to others, no one else can do that for you. So, are you going to take charge of your life and your emotions, or are you going to continue to blame others for your bad attitude?


(I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

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  • Posts: 1,115 Member
    whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat, no way!
  • Posts: 1,136 Member
    Don't let things happen to you, YOU need to happen to them :)
  • Thanks for reminding me, Bry. I let people tick me off for 5 minutes extra. That's a focus on them that they don't deserve!!
  • Posts: 1,933 Member
    It's always good to remind yourself of this now and then.

    You can't control what people say and how they act, but you can control how you react to them. Getting upset isn't worth it!

    :flowerforyou: :heart: :drinker:
  • Posts: 1,540 Member
    I do let it go.

    Usually after I crush them into sobbing dust, crying at their own insignificance.

    Isn't that what you are supposed to do?
  • Posts: 1,136 Member
    I do let it go.

    Usually after I crush them into sobbing dust, crying at their own insignificance.

    Isn't that what you are supposed to do?

    This is true. I don't care what they say. Violence solves everything!
  • Posts: 3,100 Member
    Thanks for reminding me, Bry. I let people tick me off for 5 minutes extra. That's a focus on them that they don't deserve!!


    same here, this morning I can think of all sorts of things I could have productively done while steaming over stupidity... Pish posh, gone. :bigsmile:
  • Posts: 3,095 Member
    I need to print this out and keep it at my desk! :)
    So very true.

    Thanks!
  • Good point i had a forgotten how to do that for awhile now but thanks for reminidng me..
  • Posts: 1,759 Member
    When someone does or says something to get under your skin, guess what? You have a right to let it go. *gasp* Yes, seriously. The person does not make you upset. They said something that ruffled your feathers, but YOU chose to let it affect you. So, YOU can choose to let it go. YOU made yourself mad, NOT them.

    Sure, they may have acted like a total asshat, but you decide whether to let it roll off your shoulders or harbor it. Who do you think it hurts? Certainly not them. YOU call the shots on how you are going to react to others, no one else can do that for you. So, are you going to take charge of your life and your emotions, or are you going to continue to blame others for your bad attitude?


    (I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)
    Good stuff. I'd add a reminder: talking about the person that got under your skin, e.g. *why* they are doing it, etc. is NOT letting it go...
  • Posts: 483 Member
    I don't get mad. I just get even. :)


    Seriously though, it was a great reminder to us all and thanks for posting it. You are the best!
  • Posts: 3,100 Member
    Good stuff. I'd add a reminder: talking about the person that got under your skin, e.g. *why* they are doing it, etc. is NOT letting it go...

    yep yep, you genuinely have to LET IT GO......
  • Posts: 1,085 Member
    Honestly for give them and move on and do not worry about anything.
  • Posts: 2,395 Member
    (I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

    Bravo. Recognition that YOU have control of your emotions is the first step to AWESOMEAWESEOMNESS. Controlling and choosing that which can control is the next.

    love the post!
  • so... where can I get one of these asshats? Is that easier than wearing pants?
  • Posts: 4,089 Member
    Absolute truth - now if there was an easy way to remember this and do it all the time - I would be great!
  • Posts: 704 Member
    Oh how you are so wise and correct!!! However, I can rarely let it go........guess it's just not in my genes to let it die.
  • Posts: 877 Member
    SO true! The tough part comes from telling yourself not to feel those innate emotions. Sure, you can say "let it roll of your shoulders," but how to you start the motion in the first place. It isn't easy, but it's definitely worth it.
  • Posts: 4,852 Member
    :heart:
  • Posts: 3,865 Member
    It's hard to do sometimes, but when you can truly let things go, it makes life so much easier!
  • Posts: 1,752 Member
    good advice... but man I'd still like to shove a letter opener in their ear......
  • Posts: 6,171 Member
    Honestly for give them and move on and do not worry about anything.
    I don't forgive, and I don't forget...I just don't always remember.
  • Posts: 1,246 Member
    Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so
  • Posts: 805 Member
    Repeat after me: No unnecessary bull sh**...
  • Posts: 2,365 Member
    *thumbs-up*

    Being annoyed with someone or something requires that I care. And I'd prefer to not have to. There's a Someecard I love that says "You cannot fathom the immensity of the fck I do not give." I pretty much live by that as often as possible. Unless something interferes with my life on a personal level, in other words - not just my feelings - I don't give a _ _ _ _.
  • Posts: 1,493 Member
    It can be the hardest thing in the world to do but really letting it go is for the best. Not saying I always follow through but I try. Its just not worth holding onto the stress, especially if it is something you have no control over.
  • So true. I can't control other people's behaviour, only my reaction to it. Oooommmmm!
  • Posts: 1,493 Member
    Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so

    well of course some things are more extreme and harder to let go of. but is there any benefit to not letting it go? Of course this didnt happen to me so its easier for me to say let it go but still.
  • Posts: 144 Member
    so... where can I get one of these asshats? Is that easier than wearing pants?

    I giggled at this.
  • Posts: 3,100 Member
    Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so

    These were just words I said for myself. You are all welcome to take it or leave it, all of it, some of it or none of it. You don't have to by any means, but its definitely not hurting the 17 year old girl. That I can assure you of.
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