let it go...

bry_all01

When someone does or says something to get under your skin, guess what? You have a right to let it go. *gasp* Yes, seriously. The person does not make you upset. They said something that ruffled your feathers, but YOU chose to let it affect you. So, YOU can choose to let it go. YOU made yourself mad, NOT them.

Sure, they may have acted like a total asshat, but you decide whether to let it roll off your shoulders or harbor it. Who do you think it hurts? Certainly not them. YOU call the shots on how you are going to react to others, no one else can do that for you. So, are you going to take charge of your life and your emotions, or are you going to continue to blame others for your bad attitude?


(I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

foremant86

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat, no way!

brewingaz

Don't let things happen to you, YOU need to happen to them

ncgatorfan

Thanks for reminding me, Bry. I let people tick me off for 5 minutes extra. That's a focus on them that they don't deserve!!

writtenINthestars

It's always good to remind yourself of this now and then.

You can't control what people say and how they act, but you can control how you react to them. Getting upset isn't worth it!

:flowerforyou: :drinker:

Avalonis

I do let it go.

Usually after I crush them into sobbing dust, crying at their own insignificance.

Isn't that what you are supposed to do?

brewingaz

I do let it go.

Usually after I crush them into sobbing dust, crying at their own insignificance.

Isn't that what you are supposed to do?

This is true. I don't care what they say. Violence solves everything!

bry_all01

Thanks for reminding me, Bry. I let people tick me off for 5 minutes extra. That's a focus on them that they don't deserve!!

same here, this morning I can think of all sorts of things I could have productively done while steaming over stupidity... Pish posh, gone. :bigsmile:

Iamfit4life

I need to print this out and keep it at my desk!
So very true.

Thanks!

shiggyshane

Good point i had a forgotten how to do that for awhile now but thanks for reminidng me..

kennethmgreen

When someone does or says something to get under your skin, guess what? You have a right to let it go. *gasp* Yes, seriously. The person does not make you upset. They said something that ruffled your feathers, but YOU chose to let it affect you. So, YOU can choose to let it go. YOU made yourself mad, NOT them.

Sure, they may have acted like a total asshat, but you decide whether to let it roll off your shoulders or harbor it. Who do you think it hurts? Certainly not them. YOU call the shots on how you are going to react to others, no one else can do that for you. So, are you going to take charge of your life and your emotions, or are you going to continue to blame others for your bad attitude?


(I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

Good stuff. I'd add a reminder: talking about the person that got under your skin, e.g. *why* they are doing it, etc. is NOT letting it go...

anewattitude

I don't get mad. I just get even.


Seriously though, it was a great reminder to us all and thanks for posting it. You are the best!

bry_all01

When someone does or says something to get under your skin, guess what? You have a right to let it go. *gasp* Yes, seriously. The person does not make you upset. They said something that ruffled your feathers, but YOU chose to let it affect you. So, YOU can choose to let it go. YOU made yourself mad, NOT them.

Sure, they may have acted like a total asshat, but you decide whether to let it roll off your shoulders or harbor it. Who do you think it hurts? Certainly not them. YOU call the shots on how you are going to react to others, no one else can do that for you. So, are you going to take charge of your life and your emotions, or are you going to continue to blame others for your bad attitude?


(I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

Good stuff. I'd add a reminder: talking about the person that got under your skin, e.g. *why* they are doing it, etc. is NOT letting it go...

yep yep, you genuinely have to LET IT GO......

rmartin72

Honestly for give them and move on and do not worry about anything.

BigDaddyBRC

(I needed this today - I had forgotten others don't piss me off, I ALLOWED it to happen and am now letting it go - woosah!)

Bravo. Recognition that YOU have control of your emotions is the first step to AWESOMEAWESEOMNESS. Controlling and choosing that which can control is the next.

love the post!

Krull_the_WarriorKing

so... where can I get one of these asshats? Is that easier than wearing pants?

vim_n_vigor

Absolute truth - now if there was an easy way to remember this and do it all the time - I would be great!

glockster972

Oh how you are so wise and correct!!! However, I can rarely let it go........guess it's just not in my genes to let it die.

_Khaleesi_

SO true! The tough part comes from telling yourself not to feel those innate emotions. Sure, you can say "let it roll of your shoulders," but how to you start the motion in the first place. It isn't easy, but it's definitely worth it.

FearAnLoathing

_beachgirl_

It's hard to do sometimes, but when you can truly let things go, it makes life so much easier!

bikermike5094

good advice... but man I'd still like to shove a letter opener in their ear......

Qarol

Honestly for give them and move on and do not worry about anything.

I don't forgive, and I don't forget...I just don't always remember.

wickedcricket

Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so

MayMaydoesntrun

Repeat after me: No unnecessary bull sh**...

sunkisses

*thumbs-up*

Being annoyed with someone or something requires that I care. And I'd prefer to not have to. There's a Someecard I love that says "You cannot fathom the immensity of the fck I do not give." I pretty much live by that as often as possible. Unless something interferes with my life on a personal level, in other words - not just my feelings - I don't give a _ _ _ _.

sassylilmama

It can be the hardest thing in the world to do but really letting it go is for the best. Not saying I always follow through but I try. Its just not worth holding onto the stress, especially if it is something you have no control over.

LaurieEReid

So true. I can't control other people's behaviour, only my reaction to it. Oooommmmm!

sassylilmama

Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so

well of course some things are more extreme and harder to let go of. but is there any benefit to not letting it go? Of course this didnt happen to me so its easier for me to say let it go but still.

lwhitman4

so... where can I get one of these asshats? Is that easier than wearing pants?

I giggled at this.

bry_all01

Really? what if someone you never met, your 'boyfriend's niece, 17 calls you 'female hunting dog' (b itch) at a family Christmas party the first time you ever attend? And NO adults smack her or apologize? Let it go? I don't effin' think so

These were just words I said for myself. You are all welcome to take it or leave it, all of it, some of it or none of it. You don't have to by any means, but its definitely not hurting the 17 year old girl. That I can assure you of.