So much of this journey is lonely...

yay2012

You are awesome!!!!! And your loss IS a big deal!!!!! Your post is perfect because it completely solidifies for me why this type of site is so important. We need the help and support of others on a similar journey!!! We need to know how great it is to drag ourselves out of bed to exercise, or meet our water goal, or stay within our calorie goal, or lose a pound or two. It is these small steps that add up to big ones and you are doing it! Keep up the good work, you can do it!!!! I hope one day I can post that I lost 29 pounds. You are my hero!

suzieqdiva

Hi.. just stick with it.. they will start to notice. I have lost 30 lbs (cumulatively I need to loose 66 lbs) and only last week several people out of the blue starting making comments.. and trust me.. it was sweet revenge for all that time I was working hard & no one was paying attention. I was thinking too.. how come no one is noticing???! Go figure.

This is about pride in oneself.. your self love has gotten you this far & pretty soon everyone around you will want to know how you did it! And give you blank stares when you say exercise & food control.. caz they will not not want to do either:)

I think it is commendable that you have had to build your inner resources & strength to be able to depend on yourself. I think it is hard when close ones are unable to support you. I ADMIRE you for that and for working on your relationship while learning to take care of yourself. Much love & hugs:)

EXTREMELY PROUD OF YOU.

bbwbeauty

I AGREE...WE DO NEED ENCOURAGEMENT!!

alexisdc

You go girl! I know what your feeling. We see the scale and the difference and those around us sometimes don't see it. But that is not going to stop you from pushing and loosin on

kapeluza

Yes, it is a lonely road at times but then again we, alone, did this to ourselves. But I applaud your perseverance in trying to reach your goal! Don't let anyone get you down!

cantjustcant

two or possibly three things...

1. OMG You are in ONEderland???!!!! Seriously, is it as amazing of a feeling as I think it's going to be in my head? I swear I dream about getting on the scale and it says 199.9! I am absolutely screaming in jealousy!!! Believe me, when I get down there I will be crowing like a rooster!!! Congrats!

2. Just tonight I said to myself....dang I wish someone other than me or the BF would say "wow you look amazing" or ANYTHING!!!!! I half the time think people are shy/embarrassed to say something about someone's weight loss....I don't think they know how much that would mean to us.

3. ok...it was just two things!

kandrews24

You're mom sounds jealous. So sorry. Look for more relationships that are more supporting. If you don't have a network, you gotta build it. We are here for you. I know what you mean. BUT YOU'RE DOING AWESOME!!!! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK! I hate to say it, but when you are really heavy and you lose weight, it is hard to notice because a little comes from all over and doesn't ususally make a huge difference in how any one part looks.

My three boys knew that I was dieting and working out. But they could tell a difference, try as they might. They finally noticed my weight loss as follows:

17 year old = 25 lbs lost "You're getting there mom, keep it up. It is about fitness, not weight loss."

12 year old = 35 lbs lost "MOM, I CAN FINALLY TELL YOU ARE LOSING WEIGHT, YOU LOOK SMALLER FROM THE BACK!"

6 year old = 43 lbs lot "Mommy, your tummy looks flatter"

Frankly, I did not notice until about 30 lbs. My husband is very careful about what he says because he wants me to know that he loves me no matter what. I wish he's say more, but he compliments the process like, "Great job working out." That is really awesome of him. But the other day he slipped and said "your butt is really toned". YES!!!

Only two outside persons have commented, both hairdressers. Not even anyone at work has said anything and I've lost 43 frigin pounds! Now other family members are starting to notice too.

Agreed that slimmer clothes highlight your loss AND make you feel a lot better. I bought a few new things at the 30 lbs loss mark. Planning on a few more at the 50 lb loss mark. I have a lot more to lose than you do though.

I love MFP because we have a common goal of health and fitness. I almost never spend time on FB anymore.

JipsyJudy

I have a funny story. Yesterday, I put on a pair of stretch jeans that used to fit and noticed that the legs and butt were baggy. I had to laugh, so I wouldn't cry. I didn't really need to lose weight in the thighs and butt, but at least now I know where the 16 pounds I lost (before I joined MFP) fell off of me. I've been measuring my waist every week and wondering why it wasn't getting smaller! OK sooner or later, if I stay on the program, it will start to come off my abdomen.

SueInAz

I have a funny story. Yesterday, I put on a pair of stretch jeans that used to fit and noticed that the legs and butt were baggy. I had to laugh, so I wouldn't cry. I didn't really need to lose weight in the thighs and butt, but at least now I know where the 16 pounds I lost (before I joined MFP) fell off of me. I've been measuring my waist every week and wondering why it wasn't getting smaller! OK sooner or later, if I stay on the program, it will start to come off my abdomen.

It really will start to shrink at some point, if only because there's no place else left to lose it from. :laugh: I'm finding that with my thighs which are really, really starting to tick me off!

I've lost 15 pounds (140 to 125) and a bunch of body fat and I've received no recognition from anyone but my sister who lives 2 hours away and is my biggest inspiration. My husband hasn't said a word and he knows how hard I'm working and sacrificing to make this happen. I've come to the conclusion that he's simply intimidated and perhaps jealous. He knows he needs to lose weight (perhaps 20-25 pounds all in his gut) but hasn't done anything about it. I don't push and I don't nag because I know we all need to reach the point where we're ready to make the necessary changes on our own. I don't need that recognition, because I'm doing this for me, but it would be really nice to finally hear him say something nice.

paticksmama07

Jklm:

I unfortunately can relate. I have always been driven too but I have had a dynamic support person behind me. My grandmother, my mother and my aunts. Two and half years ago my grandmother got Alzehimer's Disease and that has put me in a horrible depression. I have, like you, always been at a healthy weight. I worked out had an amazingly healty diet. Combined with my grandmother's illness and dealing with a husband who is an alcoholic, no employment on both sides and two young children at 2 and 3 years old I have completely lost myself. I am carrying weight that I would normally carry while pregnant.

Everyday I cheer myself on because there is no one to do it. Daily I dig in deep to my core and I pray that God will give me the strength to success on my weightloss journey. It has been a very difficult two and half years for me and my family but I am faithful that tomorrow will bring a brighter day!

Tina

cantjustcant

It really will start to shrink at some point, if only because there's no place else left to lose it from. I'm finding that with my thighs which are really, really starting to tick me off!

I measured today and have lost 19.25 inches total! Scale doesn't want to bulge as fast as I want it too...but I will take the inches!

ohhh and I went and bought new running shoes and guess what?





My shoe size went down a half size already! Seriously? How the heck does that happen?