"Don't lose any more weight!"

fteale

Do people say this to you? I seem to get it a lot, especially from people a bit bigger than me. My BMI is fine (21.3 ish), and I don't think I look underweight at all, so I am guessing it's because they don't want me to be too much thinner than them? Does your weight loss threaten/annoy people who haven't?

arewethereyet

Yes and that is funny because I am still at least 20 pounds overweight, if not 30!:laugh:

Although I appreciate the love from friends, I prefer honesty:flowerforyou:

Pandorian

All the time as people don't really have a clue what a healthy body looks like anymore.
It makes them look lazy when they realize you're doing it, why aren't they?

SHBoss1673

I've been called "skinny" (not exactly flattering for a guy, especially for a trainer) twice in the last 2 months, regardless of the fact that I haven't dropped a single pound in the last year (this is on purpose, I'm actually looking to gain a little muscle mass), which, I'm thinking is similar.

You do what you like my dear, you know how it works. People can be petty, 90% of stuff people tell you has an ulterior motive behind it.

SlimSadieG

The person who says it to me the most is my boyfriend!!!

skinimin

I had a friend who lost over 17kg, that's 37lb. All her family and a few of her larger friends started getting worried and telling her to eat more. except that she was still in the higher range of a healthy BMI and she could have lost another 5kg and still looked healthy.

people who are jealous and people who don't understand weight loss and healthy eating will always start discouraging you at a certain point. you know your body and you know your BMI, so you know if you're getting to an unhealthy weight. ignore them and continue with your healthy eating and lifestyle. if you're really concerned, go and see your doctor but until you have a BMI that is underweight then i would say feel free to ignore these people.

melusinagr

Happens to me constantly! Mostly from people in the family who were smaller than me and are now bigger. I'm still 7 kilos away from my goal weight, so I just ignore them. I've got tons of lean muscle mass to build too.

diddychocolatemonster

Do people say this to you? I seem to get it a lot, especially from people a bit bigger than me. My BMI is fine (21.3 ish), and I don't think I look underweight at all, so I am guessing it's because they don't want me to be too much thinner than them? Does your weight loss threaten/annoy people who haven't?

I am about 110lbs and just over 5 foot, I'm trying to get to 102lbs, and everyone moans, yes I'm a size 8 but Im also only 5 foot! In fact my body fat is quite high abut 28% so I know its there to lose! When they say the average UK women is a size 14.....my reply is the average UK women is also ......fat!!

(p.s I used to be a size 14 myself!!!)

Well done on your loss and maybe just reply and saying ''too thin?,,,,funny?....as I feel GREAT!!!''

luv2ash

They are just not used to seeing me thin now. I hear it all the time from family members.

bethdris

I hear it alll the time now....Some ppl are never happy! I just let it roll!

fteale

The person who says it to me the most is my boyfriend!!!

Yup! I get it most from my husband!

SarahxCheesecake

Yep my postie said it on about 3 different occasions and one other person said if I bent over, Id snap. They are both heavier and they both asked how Id lost weight and said they wanted to as well. Im about 5 lb from goal, but would be happy to stay where I am...

fteale

Do people say this to you? I seem to get it a lot, especially from people a bit bigger than me. My BMI is fine (21.3 ish), and I don't think I look underweight at all, so I am guessing it's because they don't want me to be too much thinner than them? Does your weight loss threaten/annoy people who haven't?

I am about 110lbs and just over 5 foot, I'm trying to get to 102lbs, and everyone moans, yes I'm a size 8 but Im also only 5 foot! In fact my body fat is quite high abut 28% so I know its there to lose! When they say the average UK women is a size 14.....my reply is the average UK women is also ......fat!!

(p.s I used to be a size 14 myself!!!)

Well done on your loss and maybe just reply and saying ''too thin?,,,,funny?....as I feel GREAT!!!''

Thanks! I tend to just say, "Actually, I am bang in the middle of healthy."

SarahxCheesecake

the average UK women is a size 14.....my reply is the average UK women is also ......fat!!

Maybe if the people were taller, size 14 wouldnt be fat? I dunno. But Id say it is. I am 5-7 and size 14 was precisely where I didnt want to be, for me that was 3 stone over weight.

RaeannePemberton

People used to say this all the time to me. Not anymore tho, since I knave maintained for a year now. They are always comparing you to your biggest.... So the change may be drastic. I would say as long as you are a healthy weight and eating healthily, then go with it. :-)

keiraev

I haven't had that one yet but I haven't seen my Mum for a couple of months and I am sure she will have something to say- probably something along the lines of not getting too thin at "my age" :huh:

Chairless

I am quite often being told im getting too thin and i need to start eating properly.

I just reply with yes, thats what im doing.

morenita71

Just to play devil's advocate - sometimes I think we can get obsessed with an ideal weight we have in our head. Yes I'm sure sometimes it can be jealousy on the part of others but sometimes they may have a point/it might genuinely be their opinion/they might be being nice - watching your weight is hard work and frankly quite boring. Finally as someone who's just turned 40 I know that a bit of extra fat on my face makes me look younger than I am. yes of course i'd rather be healthy than look younger but within a healthy BMI range I'd probably prefer a younger looking face than being right down by the wire. It's what most people (especially our friends and family) see most of. Just my thoughts!

SueGremlin

People love to interject their opinion where they have no cause to do so. If you don't believe me, try and plan a wedding.

I would just say "thanks for the advice" and change the subject. I may be unusual in that I loathe it when people make comments about my body so I have gotten good at skirting it. I hate it so much that I think that's the reason I am losing weight so slowly, on purpose. I figure if I drop half a pound to a pound a week, over the course of a year, nobody will notice. I am only kind of kidding.

aj_rock

I know what you mean! I've recently been told the same thing, and got only shocked looks when I informed them that I had actually PUT ON weight in muscle mass! :P

fteale

People love to interject their opinion where they have no cause to do so. If you don't believe me, try and plan a wedding.

I would just say "thanks for the advice" and change the subject. I may be unusual in that I loathe it when people make comments about my body so I have gotten good at skirting it. I hate it so much that I think that's the reason I am losing weight so slowly, on purpose. I figure if I drop half a pound to a pound a week, over the course of a year, nobody will notice. I am only kind of kidding.

I am the same. I absolutely hate compliments on my body or on weight loss. It strikes me as really personal and rude. I am always mortified when anyone comments and they do all the time!

LorinaLynn

I don't think it's so much about jealousy or sabotage, as it is that the people who care about us and are close to us don't judge us so harshly. They're used to seeing us look a certain way, and if we gained weight, it's something that typically happened gradually. So their mental image of us isn't always based in fact... it's an accumulation of feelings and memories combined with what they see in front of them.

I use this example. My mental image of my father was a handsome man with pitch black hair and silver sideburns. Very striking and handsome. About 15 years ago or so, for Christmas, one of my brothers got him one of those joke baseball hats with a built-in ponytail. The ponytail was grey. My first thought was, "That's not going to match Dad's hair! His hair is black!" But it did match. A perfect match. My dad went grey without me noticing at all. Since I saw him every day, I never noticed.

I think it was the same way when I gained weight. It crept on slowly, and everyone was used to thinking of me as "the skinny one" in the family. When I first started to lose weight, everyone's reaction was, "Why?! You look great!" They didn't see me as I saw me. They're not hypercritical. At least that's they way I look at it. I'd rather think that my family loves me, no matter what I look like, than think they're secretly scheming to make or keep me fat.

beachbumdoug

I hear that all the time, My BMI is still way high and yet those closest to me are giving me a hard time about loosing any more weight. I can guess at the motives behind it, but no sense in complaining about it. I am going to to this until i am comfortable with what i see, not them.

Scoobies87

I get it all the time. I weigh 127lbs and I am a (uk) size 10. No, I don't need to lose anymore weight. But I want to.

It drives me crazy, it's like bigger people can't stand that you are putting the effort into losing weight and becoming healthy because they know they should be. grrrr!

Melmade

This hasn't happened to me yet... but it happens all the time to my best friend (5'5", now 160lbs). She's lost 90 lbs & looks great! But people ask if she's well, or comment on how skinny she is. It's really annoying she says.

Guinivere

I've lost 3 stone - I hear it a lot - and they seem genuinely concerned, I've still got 2 stone to go to get just into the healthy BMI zone. It's like they don't trust my judgement - I can only just squeeze into a UK size 16 and my goal is a healthy 12-14. I started at a 22. I catch myself in shop window reflections and and that's a great reminder of why I'm still on my journey. I am tall and broad, so I will never be tiny and skinny, I don't want to be thought of as thin.

I'd love people to describe me as Tall and Slim. That would be so good.

Another person put a spanner in the works asking me if I had thought about the impact my weight loss would have on my relationship with my man who I've been with for 5 years and has never seen me this slim before. Whether my bloke would start to worry about attention I might get from blokes - well its been a very long time since I got any attention from other men so it might boost my self esteem a bit, but it's not a patch on the love we have. Doesn't mean I'm going to do anything about any extra interest just because I receive it - I love my David and as he's 5ft 10 and 10 stone - we will look more in proportion together.

I actually got a remark from a teenager about how David and I looked like super size and super skinny together like off the TV programme. Flippin'heck I've never been more than 17 stone (I'm 5ft 7.5) so I've never been THAT huge and I was about 16 stone at the time of the comment. Really hurtful and took all my confidence away for days.

I wish people would just leave comments to "You look great" or don't bother at all.

AI1108

I get it all the time. I don't know why people discourage it when no I really hate that its just extra bulges. I'm 128ish so I really only want to get to120 but when I say that I always get shocked looks like I've told someone I'm going to turn bulimic or something.

fteale

One person said to me "I bet your husband is thrilled!" Which I was really offended by. I mean. There's just no way that isn't rude, is there? Either she was saying "poor man, having had a fat heifer for a wife was the last 5 years" or "whoohoo, you're going to get laid!" the implication being he couldn't have found me attractive before.

And I really don't know her well enough for her to be commenting on my sex life, frankly.

fteale

I get it all the time. I don't know why people discourage it when no I really hate that its just extra bulges. I'm 128ish so I really only want to get to120 but when I say that I always get shocked looks like I've told someone I'm going to turn bulimic or something.

I am 128 as well. It's not as if that is skeletal.

SueGremlin

One person said to me "I bet your husband is thrilled!" Which I was really offended by. I mean. There's just no way that isn't rude, is there? Either she was saying "poor man, having had a fat heifer for a wife was the last 5 years" or "whoohoo, you're going to get laid!" the implication being he couldn't have found me attractive before.

And I really don't know her well enough for her to be commenting on my sex life, frankly.

Seriously. Gross.

fteale

One person said to me "I bet your husband is thrilled!" Which I was really offended by. I mean. There's just no way that isn't rude, is there? Either she was saying "poor man, having had a fat heifer for a wife was the last 5 years" or "whoohoo, you're going to get laid!" the implication being he couldn't have found me attractive before.

And I really don't know her well enough for her to be commenting on my sex life, frankly.

Seriously. Gross.

Yup. I was really cross. After getting over the goldfish face "OMG I can't believe she just said that".