Courting at the gym

deathstarclock

So usually every other day in the morning I notice this girl in the gym. She always works with a trainer first and then hits up the cardio machines. I find her very attractive, so I wanted to get the community's opinion. How does everyone feel about courting in the gym environment? I pretty much avoid it because I feel that while at the gym, you're in a very vulnerable state. You are obviously there for a reason so there's a natural tendency be that more self-conscious. In my eyes, it's just not proper gym etiquette either. But I can't help but feel a connection. Maybe I'm crazy but I'm pretty sure we are stealing glances at each other. To be honest she gives me that extra push on those last reps :blushing:

Even if it is socially acceptable to attempt this kind of approach in a gym, I am not even sure how to break the ice. In fact, at this present time in my life, I have nothing to offer a woman but my honest friendship. But then that would be another thread I suppose :ohwell:

ansonrinesmith

Tough spot! I think most women would HATE to get hit on at the gym.
I consider it socially unacceptable.
Not sure, but maybe try to walk out at the same time, chat with her then?

juliecat1

Hello is a good ice breaker

_beachgirl_

Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!

Estrella30

agreed with above^^^

id take it as a great compliment. plus we are like minded in taking care of our health. good starting point to get to know some one. even if its just a friendship you are aiming for.

good luck!

JennaM222

I wouldn't mid at all either, I agree with beachgirl!

If you happen to walk past her and you guys lock eyes, smile, say hello and keep walking.

The next time you see her at the gym if she looks interested ( basically okaying an approach from you and NOT while she is running on the treadmill maybe while stretching or taking a water break ) and you happen to be close mention you see her there alot and ask her how she likes working with her trainer, or something like that. If she is interested, she will not try to make a quick break to get away from you.

deadstarsunburn

Go for it =]

superhippiechik

Welllll. I would start with a smile. If she smiles back you can slip her your card as you leave one day or you can "accidentally" leave at the same time one day and you can say hi!

pinstripepirate

Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!

This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!

My1985Freckles

I would love to be hit on at the gym. It means my hard work is paying off.... You've been watching her for a while. Comment that you've noticed her around a few times and that she getting more fit.

hardenedheartx

I agree, if a guy is willing to hit on me when I look like crap at the gym I would totally be willing to listen. You should go for it!

cnsmith2

What's the worst that can happen? Not much really!!!

go for it!!!

FL_Nettie

I would be flattered is someone found me attractive enough to talk to me at the gym! No makeup and sweaty and he still wants to talk to me? Just wait until she's done working out. While a breathy conversation can be sexy, it won't be if I'm on the treadmill and I pass out cause I'm trying to hold a conversation and run! Introduce yourself at the water fountain or after her training session (before cardio). Hope it goes well

_beachgirl_

And to clarify....I wouldn't want someone to come up to me while I was busting my *kitten* on the treadmill and say, how you doin'?

Avalonis

You know what, I say go for it.

Maybe I am just shameless, but If I think a girls is amazingly attractive all sweaty with no makeup on and all frazzled, she should take it as a compliment.

I hit on girls at the gym occasionally. Usually not the FIRST time I see them or anything, but I try to make googly eyes at her to let her know I am interested, and if I get a smile or googly eyes back, its freaking on like Donkey Kong.

Oh, and like others mentioned... wait until there is a pause in the workout.

But don't hang around following her like a creeptard.

hadl0032

I am in the process of going out on a first date w/ one of the personal trainers from my gym...tell me how intimidating that sounds?!? He had emailed me some info about this race I'm doing and I emailed him back, and things just kinda sparked up.

I think that if your gut instinct tells you that she may be interested too, just start by "crossing paths" with her in the gym...and say Hi! screw etiquette!!! What do u have to lose??? You only live once! If it doesn't work, just dont make eye contact w/ her anymore, and move on!

Trust me- I'm gonna be 31 and have been single for quite sometime....who says theres rules u have to follow??? do what ur heart/instincts tell you!

Good luck!!!!!!!

La_Amazona

Love the "extra push" bit... haha

Go for it!

Avalonis

Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!

This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!

What do you mean, IF? You've never been hit on at the gym? The guys in your town are doing it wrong.

joseph9

Even if it is socially acceptable to attempt this kind of approach in a gym, I am not even sure how to break the ice. In fact, at this present time in my life, I have nothing to offer a woman but my honest friendship. But then that would be another thread I suppose :ohwell:

I will give you a dollar if you open with "My pace or yours?" I have always wanted to see someone try that line.

Angel87a

I think saying Hello or giving tips is nice... it's when you immediately start asking name, digits and etc... it get's creepy... nothing wrong with being gym friends & then maybe it could progress to more.

pinstripepirate

Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!

This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!

What do you mean, IF? You've never been hit on at the gym? The guys in your town are doing it wrong.

Haha! Thanks, that made me smile. No, I have never been hit on while at the gym!

Bearface115

I think you should work out near her if you know what cardio machines she works out on. If you have TV's at your gym you can always say, hey which chaneel is that? or some kind of question to get her to speak with you. Maybe she wants you to make the first move to talk to her. every time i am at the gym, even though i have a fiancee, i have always wondered what it would be like if I drove someone to do that extra rep. i find that VERY romantic. Please talk to her! Carefully approach it, and talk to her like a normal person, lol not laying some cheesy pick up line, haha! jk. Good Luck!!!!

kapeluza

I think saying Hello or giving tips is nice... it's when you immediately start asking name, digits and etc... it get's creepy... nothing wrong with being gym friends & then maybe it could progress to more.

I don't know about the tips, I get really annoyed when people start giving me "tips" at the gym. It's like WTF, let me do my exercises and leave me the hell alone! Maybe it's because at my old gym a personal trainer was always hounding me to get me to sign up for classes and it would annoy the f$ck out of me.

Hello is a good start. Personally, I don't socialize at the gym, I'm there to kick *kitten* for 30-40 mins because that is the only time I have to work out in the mornings. When this older lady starts yapping at me, ugh, makes me want to want to punt cute kittens.

But other than that, go for it, like someone else said, what is the worse thing that can happen? (I can think of many, like she turns out to be a man, lol) but other than she is not interested, nothing else

Good luck!!

maillemaker

At 41, I'm amazed at how much agonizing I put into worrying about how to ask women out when I was younger. Of course, it's easy to be now that I'm married.

The biggest trick in asking a woman out is confidence. If you go into the deal acting like this is going to make or break you, they can sense it a mile away and you are doomed. It's easy to say you need confidence but hard to do if you don't have confidence.

All I can say is make your decision, chart your course, and then damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!

To me, this is real simple. Catch her when she has just finished whatever she was doing and say, "Hey, I know being at the gym might be kind of an awkward place to bring this up, but I think it's cool that you are into fitness like I am and I was wondering if you would like to get together outside of gym?"

I remember when I was single I used to just agonize over the "what if she says no?" problem. Plus I hated (and still hate) putting people on the spot.

Eventually I learned to just screw it. You want what you want in life and if you don't ask you'll never get it. Start asking soon and often.

cnsmith2

But other than that, go for it, like someone else said, what is the worse thing that can happen? (I can think of many, like she turns out to be a man, lol) but other than she is not interested, nothing else

Hey now! I was trying to be positive! lol

Iamfit4life

not for me, I don't even like ot be spoken to.

But I'm weird, and there are NO attractive men at my gym.

rml_16

Tough spot! I think most women would HATE to get hit on at the gym.
I consider it socially unacceptable.
Not sure, but maybe try to walk out at the same time, chat with her then?

Speaking as an actual woman who goes to the gym, I wouldn't hate it, depending on the approach.

Introduce yourself, be polite and not pushy and feel her out a little. Then maybe ask if she wants an accountability partner or something, to keep each other motivated.

As long as you're sweet and not creepy, it shouldn't be a problem. And if she's clearly not interested, back off.

BeeElMarvin

not for me, I don't even like ot be spoken to.

But I'm weird, and there are NO attractive men at my gym.

plus, you're blurry...

lakersfan4life

Comment that you've noticed her around a few times and that she getting more fit.

Isnt that implying that you thought she was fat before? lol

Grimmerick

I personally don't mind being hit on at the gym, it's staring and ogling I don't like. I say go for it, be casual and try to make eye contact first. Eye contact most of the time means she's interested otherwise she would prob just ignore you completely. Oh and someone said give tips, I wouldn't do that, you don't know her she might think that is pigheaded........too risky.

_Ben

Find something to have a conversation about, as opposed to just full fledge asking them out. Even if she thinks your cute, girls are weird about working out. While guys normally find a girl who is warm and dripping in sweat very sexy, girls often feel disgusting and turned off by the world. It might be easier to strike up with a conversation, or something like that, and become workout buddies, and progress from there