Courting at the gym
deathstarclock
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So usually every other day in the morning I notice this girl in the gym. She always works with a trainer first and then hits up the cardio machines. I find her very attractive, so I wanted to get the community's opinion. How does everyone feel about courting in the gym environment? I pretty much avoid it because I feel that while at the gym, you're in a very vulnerable state. You are obviously there for a reason so there's a natural tendency be that more self-conscious. In my eyes, it's just not proper gym etiquette either. But I can't help but feel a connection. Maybe I'm crazy but I'm pretty sure we are stealing glances at each other. To be honest she gives me that extra push on those last reps :blushing:
Even if it is socially acceptable to attempt this kind of approach in a gym, I am not even sure how to break the ice. In fact, at this present time in my life, I have nothing to offer a woman but my honest friendship. But then that would be another thread I suppose :ohwell:
Even if it is socially acceptable to attempt this kind of approach in a gym, I am not even sure how to break the ice. In fact, at this present time in my life, I have nothing to offer a woman but my honest friendship. But then that would be another thread I suppose :ohwell:
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Tough spot! I think most women would HATE to get hit on at the gym.
I consider it socially unacceptable.
Not sure, but maybe try to walk out at the same time, chat with her then?0 -
Hello is a good ice breaker0
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Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!0
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agreed with above^^^
id take it as a great compliment. plus we are like minded in taking care of our health. good starting point to get to know some one. even if its just a friendship you are aiming for.
good luck!0 -
I wouldn't mid at all either, I agree with beachgirl!
If you happen to walk past her and you guys lock eyes, smile, say hello and keep walking.
The next time you see her at the gym if she looks interested ( basically okaying an approach from you and NOT while she is running on the treadmill maybe while stretching or taking a water break ) and you happen to be close mention you see her there alot and ask her how she likes working with her trainer, or something like that. If she is interested, she will not try to make a quick break to get away from you.0 -
Go for it =]0
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Welllll. I would start with a smile. If she smiles back you can slip her your card as you leave one day or you can "accidentally" leave at the same time one day and you can say hi!0
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Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!
This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!0 -
I would love to be hit on at the gym. It means my hard work is paying off.... You've been watching her for a while. Comment that you've noticed her around a few times and that she getting more fit.0
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I agree, if a guy is willing to hit on me when I look like crap at the gym I would totally be willing to listen. You should go for it!0
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What's the worst that can happen? Not much really!!!
go for it!!!0 -
I would be flattered is someone found me attractive enough to talk to me at the gym! No makeup and sweaty and he still wants to talk to me? Just wait until she's done working out. While a breathy conversation can be sexy, it won't be if I'm on the treadmill and I pass out cause I'm trying to hold a conversation and run! Introduce yourself at the water fountain or after her training session (before cardio). Hope it goes well0
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And to clarify....I wouldn't want someone to come up to me while I was busting my *kitten* on the treadmill and say, how you doin'?0
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You know what, I say go for it.
Maybe I am just shameless, but If I think a girls is amazingly attractive all sweaty with no makeup on and all frazzled, she should take it as a compliment.
I hit on girls at the gym occasionally. Usually not the FIRST time I see them or anything, but I try to make googly eyes at her to let her know I am interested, and if I get a smile or googly eyes back, its freaking on like Donkey Kong.
Oh, and like others mentioned... wait until there is a pause in the workout.
But don't hang around following her like a creeptard.0 -
I am in the process of going out on a first date w/ one of the personal trainers from my gym...tell me how intimidating that sounds?!? He had emailed me some info about this race I'm doing and I emailed him back, and things just kinda sparked up.
I think that if your gut instinct tells you that she may be interested too, just start by "crossing paths" with her in the gym...and say Hi! screw etiquette!!! What do u have to lose??? You only live once! If it doesn't work, just dont make eye contact w/ her anymore, and move on!
Trust me- I'm gonna be 31 and have been single for quite sometime....who says theres rules u have to follow??? do what ur heart/instincts tell you!
Good luck!!!!!!!0 -
Love the "extra push" bit... haha
Go for it!0 -
Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!
This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!
What do you mean, IF? You've never been hit on at the gym? The guys in your town are doing it wrong.0 -
Even if it is socially acceptable to attempt this kind of approach in a gym, I am not even sure how to break the ice. In fact, at this present time in my life, I have nothing to offer a woman but my honest friendship. But then that would be another thread I suppose :ohwell:
I will give you a dollar if you open with "My pace or yours?" I have always wanted to see someone try that line.0 -
I think saying Hello or giving tips is nice... it's when you immediately start asking name, digits and etc... it get's creepy... nothing wrong with being gym friends & then maybe it could progress to more.0
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Hmm, I'm in workout clothes, my hair is in a ponytail, I'm sweating and a guy is still interested in getting my number? I wouldn't mind that at all!
This is exactly what I think. I would be incredibly flattered if someone hit on me while I was at the gym! I think you should go for it. What's the worst that could happen? She says no, and you both move on. You've got nothing to lose!
What do you mean, IF? You've never been hit on at the gym? The guys in your town are doing it wrong.
Haha! Thanks, that made me smile. No, I have never been hit on while at the gym!0
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