Peace the *F* out
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I would say that it takes time for people to adapt to what seems to be a new you. Im glad you realize the offenses you caused and want to amend for it but realize that people have to really see the change. So relax have fun be healthy. God forgives but people dont or i should say it takes more. Good luck with the new you
Thanks for you awesomeness
Thank you everyone. . Shan. . hugs!0 -
God is a concept,
By which we can measure,
Our pain,
I'll say it again,
God is a concept,
By which we can measure,
Our pain,
I don't believe in magic,
I don't believe in I-ching,
I don't believe in bible,
I don't believe in tarot,
I don't believe in Hitler,
I don't believe in Jesus,
I don't believe in Kennedy,
I don't believe in Buddha,
I don't believe in mantra,
I don't believe in Gita,
I don't believe in yoga,
I don't believe in kings,
I don't believe in Elvis,
I don't believe in Zimmerman,
I don't believe in Beatles,
I just believe in me,
Yoko and me,
And that's reality.
The dream is over,
What can I say?
The dream is over,
Yesterday,
I was dreamweaver,
But now I'm reborn,
I was the walrus,
But now I'm John,
And so dear friends,
You just have to carry on,
The dream is over.
In this madness we call life one thing is real and that is GOD~0 -
Sigh this shouldnt turn into a religious debate. I really do hope it works out for you thoigh, give it time people will accept this new more relaxed yoi if its genuine0
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This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.0 -
Sigh this shouldnt turn into a religious debate. I really do hope it works out for you thoigh, give it time people will accept this new more relaxed yoi if its genuine
Thank you!0 -
Random drunk posting?
you know what. . If you feel the need to be rude and non supportive you know where the door is~
Can you take a little step back and understand that by your own admission you have not treated people right.
Please understand that not everyone is going to forgive and forget at the same rate or at all...such is life.
Here is a perfect example of what is the "thing".
This person also may not know anything about anything and made a post that is not all that out of sorts.
Your reaction was to lash out.
Do you see what has to change to be the person you seem to want to be?0 -
This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.
Peace out. . I am not looking for attn. . I can leave at anytime.. I am trying to make amends. . I love this site~0 -
Random drunk posting?
you know what. . If you feel the need to be rude and non supportive you know where the door is~
Can you take a little step back and understand that by your own admission you have not treated people right.
Please understand that not everyone is going to forgive and forget at the same rate or at all...such is life.
Here is a perfect example of what is the "thing".
This person also may not know anything about anything and made a post that is not all that out of sorts.
Your reaction was to lash out.
Do you see what has to change to be the person you seem to want to be?
Carl. . I will say this. . you are honest and you are sweet. . I have followed your posts on the forums. . I will continue to be me. . What I am saying is that I love people. . I have made mistakes and am attempting to rectify them.. .some will be. . some won't be. . .Thanks for being a friend.0 -
This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.
Peace out. . I am not looking for attn. . I can leave at anytime.. I am trying to make amends. . I love this site~
Perhaps it would be more useful to make amends while sober.0 -
This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.
Peace out. . I am not looking for attn. . I can leave at anytime.. I am trying to make amends. . I love this site~
Perhaps it would be more useful to make amends while sober.
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And perhaps you aren't here and don't get to say whether I am sober or not~0 -
You're not making amends, you're thanking those that already love you for supporting you, and being short with those that disagree. Mostly, just like every day.0
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you know what. . If you feel the need to be rude and non supportive you know where the door is~
Yeah...I'm sure you know where the door is too. Nothing is worth stirring up drama, especially since no one knows what your even talking about?This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.
And chill out...there are all kinds of random drunk posts on here...thought this was one of them.0 -
Umm jade, I truly wish you the best in finding where you can most comfortably be you and accept your flaws and the flaws of others while at the same time striving to be your best self and encouraging others to be their best selves. I'm certain you have that in you.
Out of a desire to help you get there and not wishing to hurt you, I want to tell you some stuff I've observed. I hope you'll read it tomorrow or another time when the emotions and whatever else aren't so strongly coloring your judgment. What I've seen is this: you've been all over the map. Sort of a reincarnation of Martha Stewart suggesting reading and crafting as a way to manage an urge to overeat. It came off as if you were trying so hard to project a perfect, straight and narrow path of a.life that it seemed that you were judging others AND that you were hiding something really big not just from others but from yourself. Then you seemed kind of frantic in shaping / maintaining your image. I'm thinking around the meet jade thread time. It was SO perky and unremittingly positive. You dodged folks who brought up their real beefs with you, which was just more frustrating to them. And then the facade fell apart and there was that weird *kitten* butter thing. Again, you were trying too hard and putting a happy face on it, but it was the opposite of what you'd put out there before. Folks don't know which jade they're getting and that makes it impossible to have a genuine relationship.
I'm so sorry to hear how bad your year was: break up, addictions mistakes and damaged relationships. That's a lot. But I'm heartened that you're being real. What I wish for you is a small group of real friends that you can appropriately disclose like this and get the support you need. Here is hard because its so public and there are people who have been hurt and confused by your choices, they don't know what to do with this or what to believe or if they want to risk being close. You need a different forum for your support on something so deeply personal.
I'm a big believer in the power of therapy and treatment. Consider them. Particularly look into whether DBT is offered where you are and if it could fit in your life. DBT is hugely powerful and can help you be more interpersonally effective as well as continue on even if others don't respond like you hope. Please attend to your needs first and then build or rebuild relaationships with people based on you being authentic and attending to the relationship needs. THEN and only then come back to goals like "get this fat off of me". First be healthy. Then focus on a healthy weight.0 -
You're not making amends, you're thanking those that already love you for supporting you, and being short with those that disagree. Mostly, just like every day.
You know what. . you don't know me and that is not true. . I would love to talk to people that have issues with me and put things on the table and iron them out. . .0 -
Sorry you are feeling bad. I've been in recovery for 22 years. I try to go on with my life and not look back, just drags me down and I can't change things. Just who I am right now. Good luck.0
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you know what. . If you feel the need to be rude and non supportive you know where the door is~
Yeah...I'm sure you know where the door is too. Nothing is worth stirring up drama, especially since no one knows what your even talking about?This is a time for... PANCAKE BUNNY.
No idea who you are, or what this is about, just that this isn't the first of this type of thread to be made and it won't be the last. It's a regular occurrence on any forum. It always goes like this: person starts thread about how they're sick of everyone and they're leaving. Then person continues hanging around, soaking up the attention and drama that ensues.
Nobody's holding a gun to your head to make you stay. If you don't like it, go with some dignity and don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya on your way out.
Well since you don't know me it would make sense that you would not know what I am talking about. .0 -
Random drunk posting?
you know what. . If you feel the need to be rude and non supportive you know where the door is~
Can you take a little step back and understand that by your own admission you have not treated people right.
Please understand that not everyone is going to forgive and forget at the same rate or at all...such is life.
Here is a perfect example of what is the "thing".
This person also may not know anything about anything and made a post that is not all that out of sorts.
Your reaction was to lash out.
Do you see what has to change to be the person you seem to want to be?
Carl. . I will say this. . you are honest and you are sweet. . I have followed your posts on the forums. . I will continue to be me. . What I am saying is that I love people. . I have made mistakes and am attempting to rectify them.. .some will be. . some won't be. . .Thanks for being a friend.
It usually takes as long to fix a problem as it did to make it so don`t expect everything to change overnight.
Respect is commanded,not demanded so my only advice is if you are truly looking to get along better before you press that green "POST REPLY" button take a moment and read what you are writing and ask how you would react if someone had directed the same at you.
Some may never accept it,so it goes and humility can be a difficult pill to swallow but what do you want for the bigger picture of things?0 -
Umm jade, I truly wish you the best in finding where you can most comfortably be you and accept your flaws and the flaws of others while at the same time striving to be your best self and encouraging others to be their best selves. I'm certain you have that in you.
Out of a desire to help you get there and not wishing to hurt you, I want to tell you some stuff I've observed. I hope you'll read it tomorrow or another time when the emotions and whatever else aren't so strongly coloring your judgment. What I've seen is this: you've been all over the map. Sort of a reincarnation of Martha Stewart suggesting reading and crafting as a way to manage an urge to overeat. It came off as if you were trying so hard to project a perfect, straight and narrow path of a.life that it seemed that you were judging others AND that you were hiding something really big not just from others but from yourself. Then you seemed kind of frantic in shaping / maintaining your image. I'm thinking around the meet jade thread time. It was SO perky and unremittingly positive. You dodged folks who brought up their real beefs with you, which was just more frustrating to them. And then the facade fell apart and there was that weird *kitten* butter thing. Again, you were trying too hard and putting a happy face on it, but it was the opposite of what you'd put out there before. Folks don't know which jade they're getting and that makes it impossible to have a genuine relationship.
I'm so sorry to hear how bad your year was: break up, addictions mistakes and damaged relationships. That's a lot. But I'm heartened that you're being real. What I wish for you is a small group of real friends that you can appropriately disclose like this and get the support you need. Here is hard because its so public and there are people who have been hurt and confused by your choices, they don't know what to do with this or what to believe or if they want to risk being close. You need a different forum for your support on something so deeply personal.
I'm a big believer in the power of therapy and treatment. Consider them. Particularly look into whether DBT is offered where you are and if it could fit in your life. DBT is hugely powerful and can help you be more interpersonally effective as well as continue on even if others don't respond like you hope. Please attend to your needs first and then build or rebuild relaationships with people based on you being authentic and attending to the relationship needs. THEN and only then come back to goals like "get this fat off of me". First be healthy. Then focus on a healthy weight.
Thank you for your honesty. . Okay the crafting is truly me. . I have a business. . I make accesories. . That is how I make my living. . I am in school to be a physical trainer. . and I am a Christian mom. . That is me. . for better or worse. . so people are going to accept me or not. .I used to be massively fit and a boxer . . .now I am striving to get that back. . I got royally hurt in relationships the past couple years. . so yes. that hurts, but the LORD heals. . Therapy is crap~0 -
Umm jade, I truly wish you the best in finding where you can most comfortably be you and accept your flaws and the flaws of others while at the same time striving to be your best self and encouraging others to be their best selves. I'm certain you have that in you.
Out of a desire to help you get there and not wishing to hurt you, I want to tell you some stuff I've observed. I hope you'll read it tomorrow or another time when the emotions and whatever else aren't so strongly coloring your judgment. What I've seen is this: you've been all over the map. Sort of a reincarnation of Martha Stewart suggesting reading and crafting as a way to manage an urge to overeat. It came off as if you were trying so hard to project a perfect, straight and narrow path of a.life that it seemed that you were judging others AND that you were hiding something really big not just from others but from yourself. Then you seemed kind of frantic in shaping / maintaining your image. I'm thinking around the meet jade thread time. It was SO perky and unremittingly positive. You dodged folks who brought up their real beefs with you, which was just more frustrating to them. And then the facade fell apart and there was that weird *kitten* butter thing. Again, you were trying too hard and putting a happy face on it, but it was the opposite of what you'd put out there before. Folks don't know which jade they're getting and that makes it impossible to have a genuine relationship.
I'm so sorry to hear how bad your year was: break up, addictions mistakes and damaged relationships. That's a lot. But I'm heartened that you're being real. What I wish for you is a small group of real friends that you can appropriately disclose like this and get the support you need. Here is hard because its so public and there are people who have been hurt and confused by your choices, they don't know what to do with this or what to believe or if they want to risk being close. You need a different forum for your support on something so deeply personal.
I'm a big believer in the power of therapy and treatment. Consider them. Particularly look into whether DBT is offered where you are and if it could fit in your life. DBT is hugely powerful and can help you be more interpersonally effective as well as continue on even if others don't respond like you hope. Please attend to your needs first and then build or rebuild relaationships with people based on you being authentic and attending to the relationship needs. THEN and only then come back to goals like "get this fat off of me". First be healthy. Then focus on a healthy weight.
I think this is a very kind and honest post.0 -
You're not making amends, you're thanking those that already love you for supporting you, and being short with those that disagree. Mostly, just like every day.
You know what. . you don't know me and that is not true. . I would love to talk to people that have issues with me and put things on the table and iron them out. . .
Actually, I do know you ... just because I don't directly comment TO you does not mean I can't see you on the forums. If people have issues with you, I'm sure you can tell - you PM them and say, "hey, do you have a problem with me?" and if they do, they'll say so. And you hash it out in private, like adults. Posting a general "Good Bye, Cruel MFP" during a food and alcohol-induced pity-party will not solve anything.
Or, here's an even better idea - get over it. It's the internet.0 -
You're not making amends, you're thanking those that already love you for supporting you, and being short with those that disagree. Mostly, just like every day.
You know what. . you don't know me and that is not true. . I would love to talk to people that have issues with me and put things on the table and iron them out. . .
Actually, I do know you ... just because I don't directly comment TO you does not mean I can't see you on the forums. If people have issues with you, I'm sure you can tell - you PM them and say, "hey, do you have a problem with me?" and if they do, they'll say so. And you hash it out in private, like adults. Posting a general "Good Bye, Cruel MFP" during a food and alcohol-induced pity-party will not solve anything.
Or, here's an even better idea - get over it. It's the internet.
Sorry just because it is the internet does not mean that people get to trample on others. . people need to be just as considerate of others feelings. . and oh ya MFP is a support group. . not an I am going to act like an *kitten* group~0 -
Ok jade. You're doing it again. Everyone who's made a suggestions you don't like doesn't know you or what they suggest is crap. Sure you knit and crochet accessories but it and the lord aren't keeping you on an even keel right now. I hope this thread isn't deleted or someone can copy and paste it fo you so that when you aren't drunk or frantic you can seethe patterns in your own behavior.
Crap though my regards may be, I hope you'll reconsider and I wish you the best. As of now I wash my hands of it though.reminds me too much of work.0 -
I think apologies are more sincere when they are done in a message, not on a huge forum where everyone will read it and pat you on the back....seems like what you did might have been pretty bad, and sitting here having a pity party for yourself won't help either.....sure, go eat ice cream and give up, then we are going to see you in here months later saying how you need to get back on track and how hard it is blah blah blah.....this is the internet, DON'T GET EMOTIONAL OVER IT. You should be here to lose weight, not to delve into the problems that can occur from forums....stay on mfp and just stay away from the forums0
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Hey - it looks like you're really hurting. I realize you think therapy is crap, but if God isn't doing the trick to help heal you right now, I'd like to think he'd want you to seek counseling. Of course, you gotta be ready to accept your flaws and address them.
I'm not trying to be an *kitten* - I've been through some *kitten*, and I know what 'reaching out' looks like. BUT, you either reach out and say, "I'm sorry I sucked so bad and hurt people, let's move on"... and then act like you mean it, or it's going to come across disingenuous. I hope you get up tomorrow with a fresh outlook and put a step in the direction of showing people the great person you choose to be.0 -
Ok jade. You're doing it again. Everyone who's made a suggestions you don't like doesn't know you or what they suggest is crap. Sure you knit and crochet accessories but it and the lord aren't keeping you on an even keel right now. I hope this thread isn't deleted or someone can copy and paste it fo you so that when you aren't drunk or frantic you can seethe patterns in your own behavior.
Crap though my regards may be, I hope you'll reconsider and I wish you the best. As of now I wash my hands of it though.reminds me too much of work.
I said I have respect for what you said. . It was the other person that didn't know me from adam that I made the comment too. . . Yes. . My accessories are not crap m'DEAR. . that is my business. . that is what I do.0 -
I think apologies are more sincere when they are done in a message, not on a huge forum where everyone will read it and pat you on the back....seems like what you did might have been pretty bad, and sitting here having a pity party for yourself won't help either.....sure, go eat ice cream and give up, then we are going to see you in here months later saying how you need to get back on track and how hard it is blah blah blah.....this is the internet, DON'T GET EMOTIONAL OVER IT. You should be here to lose weight, not to delve into the problems that can occur from forums....stay on mfp and just stay away from the forums
No sorry the person with the major issue that doesn't feel like forgiving me. . blocked me from PMing them to work it. out. . .0 -
Which means they don't' even want to see you, so why address them at all? This is the internet, its not like you hurt your sisters feelings and need to mend them, who gives a frazzle nazzle about that person, they are a stranger. You did this for attention...I think apologies are more sincere when they are done in a message, not on a huge forum where everyone will read it and pat you on the back....seems like what you did might have been pretty bad, and sitting here having a pity party for yourself won't help either.....sure, go eat ice cream and give up, then we are going to see you in here months later saying how you need to get back on track and how hard it is blah blah blah.....this is the internet, DON'T GET EMOTIONAL OVER IT. You should be here to lose weight, not to delve into the problems that can occur from forums....stay on mfp and just stay away from the forums
No sorry the person with the major issue that doesn't feel like forgiving me. . blocked me from PMing them to work it. out. . .0 -
Ok jade. You're doing it again. Everyone who's made a suggestions you don't like doesn't know you or what they suggest is crap. Sure you knit and crochet accessories but it and the lord aren't keeping you on an even keel right now. I hope this thread isn't deleted or someone can copy and paste it fo you so that when you aren't drunk or frantic you can seethe patterns in your own behavior.
Crap though my regards may be, I hope you'll reconsider and I wish you the best. As of now I wash my hands of it though.reminds me too much of work.
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Honestly Jade,before you post another thing if you are sincere would you read over how you react to things.
You can not walk in,say "Hey all,sorry for being offensive" and expect everyone will throw out their arms.
Change does not come easily so if you mean it you will have to work very hard at doing it.0 -
Okay here it is . . . I don't want a *effin pity party. . I just want to get along with everyone. . . I have my own CRAFTing ACCESSORY BUSINESS. . . .and am going to CERTIFY as a trainer. . so I am going to peace out of this thread. . Thank you for all your comments and support. . Shan. . love you babe. . .
Other than that. . Thank you Cris you are rocktastic. . Contrarian. . thanks. . . I am done with this though. . I am usually not one to even talk about my internal feelings. . I am one to shut it all down. . so to come here was tough. . So I will take the good the bad.. will slide off my shoulder. .thanks good night. May your weightloss journey be amazing.0 -
so, you realize this thread has generated 1100 views?
Let it go ......rise above it people.....
Peace Out. ( without the swear word or asterisk )0
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