If I need help don't post ignorant comments

lalinzki

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

tlc4ever

What you focus on only grows stronger.

Let it roll off your back and focus on the things you like.

muskiemama

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

I agree. I joined MFP for support on my journey, If i wanted snarky comments, I'd just listen to my family.

russelljclarke

Yes, it's happened to me, so I just unfriend them.

mestacy010

People have nothing better to do with their lives then hurt others!!

philOHIO

My MFP's support me, there are others on this site that don't, or are negative. Like every other site, there are the good and bad...

Buddie616

I had a friend that I had to remove because everytime I posted my workout she would always have a snide remark. It would be something like if you burned that many calories in that workout your heart would explode or LOL it was always something.

Collinsky

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

i don't really have any examples, but to answer the first question, it's generally one of 3 things:

1. They're pitifully unhappy people.
2. They're actually trying to be helpful, but don't convey themselves well in how they write. Or that's what would help them feel motivated, so that's what they give others, and they think that if that doesn't motivate you it's because you don't want to be helped.
3. They're not actually being degrading, you're being defensive or oversensitive because you don't like what they're saying.

Or, some combination of 2 or all of those. LOL

Contrarian

I'm sorry if someone was unkind to you.

While you have every right to express this frustration and to ask others to commiserate, I feel that this will only serve to reinforce negativity here.

Buddie616

Yes, it's happened to me, so I just unfriend them.

DITTO!!!!

jamielyn1369

I have only been on here one week and have said the same thing! For the most part, everyone is very positive and supportive, but there are a few! My problem is the criticism. Obviously, we are all on here to get support and lose weight (some a little, some a lot). But some people think their way is the only way and are indifferent to the metabolism and/or choices others make. If you have a bad day, you don't need someone telling you that you suck... you need them to either shut the hell up or support you. If you don't give in to occasional indulgences, you will overindulge later! Getting an order of fries occasionally is okay. And I am sick of the people that get on a soapbox about certain things, like no sugar at all because "I know what it does to your body". Don't cram your stuff down my throat and treat me like I am the idiot! Sorry for ranting, but I am sick of it. I've deleted several people because they commented on how I'm not giving it my all and in my first week, didn't always make the right choice (but I've always been under my calorie count!). People should just be respectful of others!

jessashcher

that is sad but you got to take what you want and ignore what you don't want, there are always going to be people like that. You just have to let it go, people generally make sarcastic comments when they are feeling pretty low about themselves, For some reason it seems to make them feel better.

MIMITIME

It has not happened to me personally but I do see these kind of remarks from time to time. I often wonder if it is sour grapes, ignorance or just plain rude.

misslyssa319

i've seen some folks totally berate someone looking for help. never happened to me but i was reading a thread where someone asked to have their food and exercise diary looked at and where they could improve. well someone (who i've noticed posts comments like it's their full time job!) went off on them. if you're still eating like this you're gonna stay fat sums up what was said. and they post like this often on the board. looks like they finally got where they want to be and decided to turn into the type of person mfp is not about. they need to just move on...

Acg67

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

cmriverside

I don't like threads that are meant to incite.

maidentl

i don't really have any examples, but to answer the first question, it's generally one of 3 things:

1. They're pitifully unhappy people.
2. They're actually trying to be helpful, but don't convey themselves well in how they write. Or that's what would help them feel motivated, so that's what they give others, and they think that if that doesn't motivate you it's because you don't want to be helped.
3. They're not actually being degrading, you're being defensive or oversensitive because you don't like what they're saying.

I think this about covers it.

lalinzki

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

i don't really have any examples, but to answer the first question, it's generally one of 3 things:

1. They're pitifully unhappy people.
2. They're actually trying to be helpful, but don't convey themselves well in how they write. Or that's what would help them feel motivated, so that's what they give others, and they think that if that doesn't motivate you it's because you don't want to be helped.
3. They're not actually being degrading, you're being defensive or oversensitive because you don't like what they're saying.

Or, some combination of 2 or all of those. LOL

HOW DOES THIS SOUND TO YOU?

you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over.

JaydeSkye

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

Threatened you????? LMFAO ... seriously??? Hahhahahahahahhahaaaa Let me guess, your abs instigated the fight? hahahahhaahahahaaa.

*seriously laughing I have tears coming out of my eyes*

lalinzki

I'm sorry if someone was unkind to you.

While you have every right to express this frustration and to ask others to commiserate, I feel that this will only serve to reinforce negativity here.

So we are not suppose to say anything? oh wait so everyone suppose to have happy experience right, but that's not the case. Because I post this topic I'm reinforcing negativity here because I feel that people should be more supportive and not more like haters. I don't get it..

lalinzki

What you focus on only grows stronger.

Let it roll off your back and focus on the things you like.

I FEEL YOU HOMEGIRL! Also I feel this needs to be address so how we can deal with people who are just not nice. If you have a bad juju comment keep it to yourself or break it down to a short answer..I m just saying

elysecea

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

I am new to this site....please tell me what OP stands for LOL

lalinzki

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

I agree. I joined MFP for support on my journey, If i wanted snarky comments, I'd just listen to my family.

LOL..might as well right

Acg67

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

Threatened you????? LMFAO ... seriously??? Hahhahahahahahhahaaaa Let me guess, your abs instigated the fight? hahahahhaahahahaaa.

*seriously laughing I have tears coming out of my eyes*

serious, guess things need to be sugar coated as to not hurt people's feelings

@elysecea OP = original poster

lalinzki

People have nothing better to do with their lives then hurt others!!

the thing is that I though here in MFP is all about having each others back since we are in a website, which means we have to look else where for support why not support and not break others.

Collinsky

Ok why do people think that degrading or even trying to degrade here is OK?Do they hear what they type? Does that sounds good to you but what about others?. Have this happen to you? Please share your most offensive or sarcastic or just plain bad examples or bad help in your post.

i don't really have any examples, but to answer the first question, it's generally one of 3 things:

1. They're pitifully unhappy people.
2. They're actually trying to be helpful, but don't convey themselves well in how they write. Or that's what would help them feel motivated, so that's what they give others, and they think that if that doesn't motivate you it's because you don't want to be helped.
3. They're not actually being degrading, you're being defensive or oversensitive because you don't like what they're saying.

Or, some combination of 2 or all of those. LOL

HOW DOES THIS SOUND TO YOU?

you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over.

Is your question addressed to me? And are you asking about it in the context of the thread it was posted in?

It's sounds honest, and not at all couched in social niceties. I personally don't love that style, but when that sort of thing happens to me I have to let it go. If someone says something that feels rude or offensive or irritating to me - but NOT technically incorrect, dishonest, or misrepresenting - then I might tell them their rudeness makes it difficult to hear what they're saying, and then I would let it go. My life is too awesome and full and SHORT to try to police other people's way of saying things, or their opinions. If you think that he is wrong, and that you are in fact eating enough, and that you're going to achieve your goals with what you're doing, then your best response is "Time will tell, bro." and then let that be exactly what happens. I've gotten a lot of negative feedback on choices I've made at times, and either I have to be confident enough in those choices to let it ride and let time be the decider, OR I have to suck it up, tell my ego to take a chill -- then take a hard look at what is going on, and make changes.

Worrying about HOW feedback comes to you is smoke and mirrors. It's a distraction. It's not always easy, especially if something pushes a button with us, but you can't get bogged down in other people's wording or what they think.

melsinct

If you have a thin skin, then anonymous message boards on the internet are not for you. Sure, a small percentage of people here are mean. Hell, some are downright insane! However, there are many, many good kind people here and they far outnumber the mean ones. The longer I am on MFP, the more I find myself coming to the message boards less and less. Much of the time I just check on my friends and what they are up to.

reneelee

Yes i have read some and felt like responding, but choose to ignore the commet and read the others. If you feed into the commet it makes them happy, because the fight is on ignore them and they will go away.

psuLemon

Seriously, it's the internet...just let it drop...



Also, if you cant take a joke, there is some issues...


I don't mean that in a bad way, but are you taking steroids?

lalinzki

My MFP's support me, there are others on this site that don't, or are negative. Like every other site, there are the good and bad...

You have to take the good with the bad, I'm just saying I want to help not make people quit..That's all I'm saying

lalinzki

I have only been on here one week and have said the same thing! For the most part, everyone is very positive and supportive, but there are a few! My problem is the criticism. Obviously, we are all on here to get support and lose weight (some a little, some a lot). But some people think their way is the only way and are indifferent to the metabolism and/or choices others make. If you have a bad day, you don't need someone telling you that you suck... you need them to either shut the hell up or support you. If you don't give in to occasional indulgences, you will overindulge later! Getting an order of fries occasionally is okay. And I am sick of the people that get on a soapbox about certain things, like no sugar at all because "I know what it does to your body". Don't cram your stuff down my throat and treat me like I am the idiot! Sorry for ranting, but I am sick of it. I've deleted several people because they commented on how I'm not giving it my all and in my first week, didn't always make the right choice (but I've always been under my calorie count!). People should just be respectful of others!

THANK YOU, I JUST WANT TO BE THERE FOR EVERYONE, and if I have something bad to say, I'll just say keep working out, remember we are just human