If I need help don't post ignorant comments

CMmrsfloyd

Keep the friends that are supportive and dump the ones that are not. Some people might actually like that kind of 'in your face' commentary (some people love a nice kick in the rear to get them on track) but others prefer a different type of 'advice'. If it's not someone you have a relationship with outside of MFP (friend, family, etc) it won't really hurt you to just unfriend them. Don't let a personality that you don't mesh well with bring you down.

Collinsky

THANK YOU, I JUST WANT TO BE THERE FOR EVERYONE, and if I have something bad to say, I'll just say keep working out, remember we are just human

Then you might want to keep in mind that some people THRIVE on in-your-face honesty. They don't want someone to not tell them if there's something they can do better. They want to be challenged, learn, improve, and having someone give them feedback -- even if it's not the pat on the back they were hoping for -- is an important part of that. I'm not like that, myself. I prefer 100% positivity, and when there's suggestions for improvement, I want it said in the way that motivates me. So I get that.

But MFP is here for everyone. Every type of person on this journey. And that means that there HAVE to be different kinds of responses to things, and that some of them will be what helps you, and some of them will be what helps others. So in the interest of helping everyone, you have to get comfortable with the idea that some people find the "you're eating like a little girl" guy to be insanely motivating, and that's okay.

And I'm going to try to be okay with the fact that most of the reason you're mad is because he said girl, because if he's said kid you probably wouldn't have been so triggered by it. The underlying misogyny in the whole thing is irksome, to say the least. I can't wait until the day when "like a girl" is NOT the worst thing someone can say to you, because girls are actually valued.

Acg67

hmmm seems you left out a part of the "offending" quote, sounds like good advice to me

"you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over. if not i suggest upping cals and getting in an adequate amount of protein while incorporating heavy resistance training "

lalinzki

Seriously, it's the internet...just let it drop...



Also, if you cant take a joke, there is some issues...


I don't mean that in a bad way, but are you taking steroids?

LOL..Nope..LOL..I think if I was I wouldn't be here trying to loose the weight.

lalinzki

hmmm seems you left out a part of the "offending" quote, sounds like good advice to me

"you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over. if not i suggest upping cals and getting in an adequate amount of protein while incorporating heavy resistance training "

What is the first thing I saw, I'm eating like a girl, but that's what my Boxing coach says to eat, also it you would of taken that girl type **** I would of been fine, but for you to tell me that I'm eating like a girl, telling my nutrition is all f up and my coaches nutrition knowledge don't mean anything yeah man I am going to be like WTF... That's what got me like WTF! OH HELL NAW THIS DUDE JUST CLOWN MY NUTRITION!..

elysecea

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

Threatened you????? LMFAO ... seriously??? Hahhahahahahahhahaaaa Let me guess, your abs instigated the fight? hahahahhaahahahaaa.

*seriously laughing I have tears coming out of my eyes*

serious, guess things need to be sugar coated as to not hurt people's feelings

@elysecea OP = original poster

Ok got the OP thanks ...but you are right about the sugar coating, makes me not want to post...people take so many things out of context when all most of these things are are opinions....humph.

Collinsky

hmmm seems you left out a part of the "offending" quote, sounds like good advice to me

"you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over. if not i suggest upping cals and getting in an adequate amount of protein while incorporating heavy resistance training "

What is the first thing I saw, I'm eating like a girl, but that's what my Boxing coach says to eat, also it you would of taken that girl type **** I would of been fine, but for you to tell me that I'm eating like a girl, telling my nutrition is all f up and my coaches nutrition knowledge don't mean anything yeah man I am going to be like WTF... That's what got me like WTF! OH HELL NAW THIS DUDE JUST CLOWN MY NUTRITION!..

He did not say most of the things you're saying he said. That is stuff that was in your head, that you projected onto what he said. There is a lot of assumption going on there. Since my husband is a boxing and MMA coach, I think I can say pretty securely that while they may know a whole lot, they don't know everything about everything. And if someone told him his nutrition/diet advice was off, you know what he'd do?? He'd do some research. He'd either find out he was right all along, or he'd revise what he was telling his fighters. Because for him, doing right by his fighters is more important that being right all the time.

If you doubt this guy's science, then ask him for any research or studies to back it up. You can have your boxing coach do the same, and then make a truly informed decision.

Or, like I said, go with a confident "Time will tell" instead of this umbrage if someone doubts you or your coach. If it's working, then it's working. Deep breaths.

And, as I mentioned before, it's totally obvious that this is mostly a reaction to the "like a girl" part. I know that when you were 13 that was probably an automatic call out, and a guaranteed fight -- but hopefully we can get past those middle school ideas at some point. Because it doesn't have to be like that.

lalinzki

People on MFP I'm not here to talk about one little incident, I'm just talking in general, people here are really nice, but also people tend to forget not everyone has the Will Power to say no to foods or whatever. . Not all people like in YO FACE FOO type of attitude. Like I said I'm here to support not to make you feel worse..

THE END!

lalinzki

hmmm seems you left out a part of the "offending" quote, sounds like good advice to me

"you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over. if not i suggest upping cals and getting in an adequate amount of protein while incorporating heavy resistance training "

What is the first thing I saw, I'm eating like a girl, but that's what my Boxing coach says to eat, also it you would of taken that girl type **** I would of been fine, but for you to tell me that I'm eating like a girl, telling my nutrition is all f up and my coaches nutrition knowledge don't mean anything yeah man I am going to be like WTF... That's what got me like WTF! OH HELL NAW THIS DUDE JUST CLOWN MY NUTRITION!..

He did not say most of the things you're saying he said. That is stuff that was in your head, that you projected onto what he said. There is a lot of assumption going on there. Since my husband is a boxing and MMA coach, I think I can say pretty securely that while they may know a whole lot, they don't know everything about everything. And if someone told him his nutrition/diet advice was off, you know what he'd do?? He'd do some research. He'd either find out he was right all along, or he'd revise what he was telling his fighters. Because for him, doing right by his fighters is more important that being right all the time.

If you doubt this guy's science, then ask him for any research or studies to back it up. You can have your boxing coach do the same, and then make a truly informed decision.

Or, like I said, go with a confident "Time will tell" instead of this umbrage if someone doubts you or your coach. If it's working, then it's working. Deep breaths.

And, as I mentioned before, it's totally obvious that this is mostly a reaction to the "like a girl" part. I know that when you were 13 that was probably an automatic call out, and a guaranteed fight -- but hopefully we can get past those middle school ideas at some point. Because it doesn't have to be like that.

So why say it in the first place?

mscoco10

Yes a lot of people think they are the food police. No one needs stupid comments. I just delete them. My time is money and they have no value to me.

Collinsky

So why say it in the first place?

Because maybe it doesn't mean that to him. Just because that's what you assume doesn't mean that's where he is coming from AT ALL. In my country it's good to give a thumbs-up gesture. In another country, that is just about the rudest thing you can do. It's ignorant to assume everyone means the same thing by the words they use, especially once you throw context into it.

The thing is, it doesn't matter. That thread, other threads, it doesn't matter. So what if he was rude? Maybe he's a troll trying to start something. (FTR, I don't think that.) Maybe there are people who get their jollies from causing problems on forums. You have two choices: let it get to you, or let it go.


And you ignored everything I've said in all my comments, except this one piece about the "little girl" phrase. This is either really funny or really sad. Guess what? I'm going to let it go, because it's so unbelievably futile.

Gigi_licious

i tried to help someone today and then the OP threatened me and called me names...

I saw that too!!! He called you an a-hole when you offered him advice. He looked a lot like the OP of this thread too. But I know that can't be right, I believe the other guys name was Kujo.

kstep88

Weight loss/Nutrition is a lot like politics.... If you post in the forum, you will get postive and negative critisism. It sucks sometimes, but that's how it works. (just like politics, which is what I am in school for) I try to ignore the rude people or ask them to get off my post. If you don't have anything postive or helpful to say...then don't say anything. That's my motto.

Gigi_licious

hmmm seems you left out a part of the "offending" quote, sounds like good advice to me

"you're eating like a little girl, which is great if that's what you want to look like after your cut is over. if not i suggest upping cals and getting in an adequate amount of protein while incorporating heavy resistance training "

What is the first thing I saw, I'm eating like a girl, but that's what my Boxing coach says to eat, also it you would of taken that girl type **** I would of been fine, but for you to tell me that I'm eating like a girl, telling my nutrition is all f up and my coaches nutrition knowledge don't mean anything yeah man I am going to be like WTF... That's what got me like WTF! OH HELL NAW THIS DUDE JUST CLOWN MY NUTRITION!..

He did not say most of the things you're saying he said. That is stuff that was in your head, that you projected onto what he said. There is a lot of assumption going on there. Since my husband is a boxing and MMA coach, I think I can say pretty securely that while they may know a whole lot, they don't know everything about everything. And if someone told him his nutrition/diet advice was off, you know what he'd do?? He'd do some research. He'd either find out he was right all along, or he'd revise what he was telling his fighters. Because for him, doing right by his fighters is more important that being right all the time.

If you doubt this guy's science, then ask him for any research or studies to back it up. You can have your boxing coach do the same, and then make a truly informed decision.

Or, like I said, go with a confident "Time will tell" instead of this umbrage if someone doubts you or your coach. If it's working, then it's working. Deep breaths.

And, as I mentioned before, it's totally obvious that this is mostly a reaction to the "like a girl" part. I know that when you were 13 that was probably an automatic call out, and a guaranteed fight -- but hopefully we can get past those middle school ideas at some point. Because it doesn't have to be like that.

So why say it in the first place?

If you're going to quote him, then you also need to quote YOUR response where you started with calling him an *kitten* in your first sentence then proceeded to tell him that if he got in the ring with you, you would kick his *kitten* (that's not the exact quote, everyone is free to find his thread on it...something about ending the day in 300 calories and up). So don't come over here and play innocent. Just because YOU are hypersensitive does NOT give you the right to call him an *kitten*, imply that you want to challenge him in the ring, then hop over here and play victim! Suck it up tough guy!

ETA: His thread about 300 cal a day was deleted. Likely because of him calling someone an *kitten*.

Collinsky

And since the overwhelming response in the thread that sparked this one is that you are overreacting, being defensive, being offensive, trusting your coach too much on the diet part, and taking bad advice... this is Feedback from the Universe. You harm yourself by ignoring it.

Look at it this way: in the ring, you get constant feedback - from your body, from your opponent, from your corner, etc... if you ignore any of that feedback, you are not as effective as a fighter. The more feedback you miss, the more you are going to get your backside handed to you. This is true in ALL OF LIFE. In everything. You are getting feedback, consistent, insistent feedback, and if you let your ego keep doing what it's doing, it's causing you to miss that feedback that can cause you to be the most effective machine you can possibly be. Life is all about choices, and you can actually choose to investigate instead of flying off the handle. Deeply secure men simply don't need to do that. There's feedback from yourself right there.

lalinzki

WELL TO THE PEOPLE THAT I OFFENDED I'M SORRY :embarassed: I did took it over board and yeah I should of let it go but I didn't . But its not just about my little incident its about the many post I have read with some negative comments . SO MOVING FORWARD..gots to get ready for the gym, I can't wait.