Easily one of the worst days of my life

GTOgirl1969

I woke up and was immediately verbally attacked by my husband. He called me every filthy name in the book, all because I couldn't get my daughter to get up for school the first time I called her. When I tried to stand up for myself, he threw a glass of water in my face and told me to "cool off". How demeaning! Sounds like something you'd do to a dog:frown: He also threatened to punch me in the face, I thought he was going to swing on me. I have always said that him hitting me is a deal breaker. I am leaving for good. I would rather be alone than be with him for another day.

GTOgirl1969

I woke up and was immediately verbally attacked by my husband. He called me every filthy name in the book, all because I couldn't get my daughter to get up for school the first time I called her. When I tried to stand up for myself, he threw a glass of water in my face and told me to "cool off". How demeaning! Sounds like something you'd do to a dog:frown: He also threatened to punch me in the face, I thought he was going to swing on me. I have always said that him hitting me is a deal breaker. I am leaving for good. I would rather be alone than be with him for another day.

Benson

So sorry GTO This guy clearly doesn't deserve you. Be strong and do what you have to do!

songbyrdsweet

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry! I would be SO MAD. I probably would be the first one to throw a punch in that position. When my mom got into her most abusive relationship, she packed up a bag of our clothing and snuck out of the house while he was sleeping, then took me out of school and we stayed in a safehouse. It was drastic, but necessary. Please don't let anything hold you back.

Jackie_W

After all the crap his son put you through too!!! :mad:
Absolute cheek! :explode:
Not all men are like this huni, there are some pretty good ones out there, just not always easy to find em.
Take care, I hope you get things sorted - one way or the other :flowerforyou:

age1389

Yes please do it this time:flowerforyou: Think of your girls if nothing else:brokenheart:



-Adrienne

3babybeans

I would rather be alone than be with him for another day.

Then DO something about it! You don't want your girls growing up in this environment, do you?! YOU are the only one that can leave. YOU are the only one that can shield your girls from what he's putting you through. YOU are the only one that can stop it! It is only getting worse & you know it.

I know what I just said might be harsh to you. I've been reading about this d-bag for awhile now. He's not getting any prettier.

TamTastic

Awwww hun! You have GOT to get out of there! You are worth so much more!!!!:frown:

TROUBLE2

although I can not say that I have ever had anyone physically abusive towards me I can say that I have had the pleasure... if you will, of being on the recieving end of a verbally abusive "X" and yes it happens to men as often as it does to women, no one should have to deal with that.

ALSO throwing water in your face and threatening to punch you is Assult. which to the police its near equivelent as far as pressing charges. before you go down this route I urge you to exhaust all other resources.

I do not agree with anyone man OR woman hitting anyone else. the ONLY time acceptable would be for self defence and even then you should exhaust every possible resource before confronting someone with violence. that being said I am not agains throwing down with someone if they threaten either my well-being or that of someone whom I love.

has he gone to therapy? or counseling for this? have you both gone to counseling? it maye do you some good as well because a counselor has many resources that they know of that most people would not normally know. I do not know its just a sugestion. sometimes talking about it can open doors that you otherwise would not have known existed.

but hang in there and in the mean time is there somewhere you could take your kids? parent's house? sibling's house?

GTOgirl1969

I'm packing my stuff as we speak. My dad is going to help me move. I thought I would be able to love him good enough but apparently I couldn't. I'm going to live with my brother in Spring Hill and put the kids in school up there. Sorry to keep repeating this crap to you guys but y'all are pretty much the only friends I have right now. He hasn't forbidden me to have friends, but he's made it damn near impossible through his attitude.

We have not gone to counseling because he refuses to claim his part in all our problems. He says he gets p.o'd because I provoke it and if I just kept my mouth shut it would be OK. I told him, the last time I checked that the right to free speech still applied to me and I will say what's on my mind. I am tired of going through life biting my tongue to avoid problems with him.

3babybeans

This problem isn't YOU loving HIM enough...the fact is, he's a jerk. He's a bully. He's a bad husband & a bad father. YOU don't deserve ANY of that & neither do your daughters.

Pack up, move out & STAY AWAY! You can do this!

GTOgirl1969

Pack up, move out & STAY AWAY! You can do this!

My only regret is now that I have to deal with him for the next twenty years or so. I wouldn't trade my girls for anything but if I knew then what I know now about him, I would have turned around and ran away.

Shannon023

I'm packing my stuff as we speak. My dad is going to help me move. I thought I would be able to love him good enough but apparently I couldn't. I'm going to live with my brother in Spring Hill and put the kids in school up there. Sorry to keep repeating this crap to you guys but y'all are pretty much the only friends I have right now. He hasn't forbidden me to have friends, but he's made it damn near impossible through his attitude.

We have not gone to counseling because he refuses to claim his part in all our problems. He says he gets p.o'd because I provoke it and if I just kept my mouth shut it would be OK. I told him, the last time I checked that the right to free speech still applied to me and I will say what's on my mind. I am tired of going through life biting my tongue to avoid problems with him.

I think once you finally get away from him you'll be so much happier. You've taken more then enough crap from that man. :flowerforyou:

TexasAngelBeth

Do what you have to I am so sorry you have had to deal with this...
I will keep you in my prayers

Poison5119

..and if we are your only friends, that speaks volumes for the desperation of your situation. You've struggled with this for awhile now, and time isn't going to wait for you. Look how far you've come, how beautiful you are! Standing up for yourself and staying isn't going to change things. He mistreats you, period, and you're right, you can do better alone than with him. I've been in your shoes, hun. I left one just like him, with the clothes on my back and my two babies under 3yr old in tow. That was 16 yrs ago, and I've never regretted it, nor did I fall without him. We're here for you 100%, and you are in my prayers.

xoxo Julie

ChubbyBunny

OH MY GOODNESS!
You are soo lucky I am not your neighbor.... I would of shot a warning shot across his manhood!
How could he treat you with such utter disrespect!
I heard a bit about how his son was acting towards you...
There is NO excuse in the world for anyone to have to put up with that....
:mad:

Side note... I wouldn't wait for him to take the first swing... cause in some cases it's the only one you get.

Carl01

No person,especially a lady should ever endure that kind of treatment.:mad:

He ought to be damn grateful that there was a lady who was willing to share her life with him.
I hope he gets a taste of his own miserable,ugly self someday.

Carl01

dupe

ChubbyBunny

I'm packing my stuff as we speak....

Oh! I was about to invite you to come out here! :laugh:
I am glad that your family is being so helpful and supportive, that is a good thing.
Shows the type of stock you come from...
Be safe.

:flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

Hell yes girl, get away from that emotional abuser!!
Throwing water in your face is no different than throwing a fist. He's emotionally abusive. Get away.
I'm so glad your daddy is coming to help you pack and move out.

GTOgirl1969

I'm so glad your daddy is coming to help you pack and move out.

and my dad has a concealed weapons permit too...so hubby better watch out:bigsmile:

mommared53

I agree with the others. You really have to get away and stay away this time. You're lucky in that you have family to help you. Please don't go back to this abusive person! Your daughters should not grow up thinking this kind of abuse is ok. I've seen my daughter deal with an abusive relationship and I'm so glad and relieved she finally escaped from it. She's now married to a wonderful, loving man and she's never been happier. I'm going to be praying for you. Please let us know how you're doing. And please, please, please do not go back once you're gone.

God bless you. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

Betty

LuckyLeprechaun

just wanted to be one more voice saying we support you, we want you to have a happy and safe life, and we are all here for you. screw counseling, get out of there. Your daughters are going to learn from you what it is like to be a wife/woman in this world, and by standing up for yourself, you teach them that they too have the right to be safe and loved, and they will never allow someone to treat them badly, because their Mother showed them that!! Remember that this too shall pass, and you will have happy days again. My thoughts are with you!

Phoenix_Rising

I'm so glad your daddy is coming to help you pack and move out.

and my dad has a concealed weapons permit too...so hubby better watch out:bigsmile:

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

GTOgirl1969

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

Shannon023

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

I'd say it's too late for that. :flowerforyou: Leave and don't look back.

Carl01

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

Only if he sends him to Jesus.

Phoenix_Rising

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

I'd say it's too late for that. :flowerforyou: Leave and don't look back.

Yeah, and what are you doing posting here anyways? GET PACKING YOUNG LADY!!! We are ready for the "I'm at my brother's house now..." post!

wannabeeskinny

i deal with this too
He has shouted at me for SO LONG and SO LOUDLY he made himself hoarse at times
ugh
Im here if you need anyone to talk to
BIG HUGS sweetie

Phoenix_Rising

And there ain't NO daddy out there who allows some stupid man to mess with his baby girl!!!!

my dad is a retired Marine too....maybe I should have him have a "come to Jesus" meeting with my husband!

Only if he sends him to Jesus.

For anyone who didn't know, I Carl!

jodazary

i can understand what you are going thru since i once went thru the same thing only mine was phyiscally abusive i packed up and left everything but my boys i finished raising them to be wonderful respectful young men and you can do the same yeah it was / is hard at times but i wouldnt go back to him for all the money in the world stay strong and good luck to you