I Think My Husband Wants a Divorce

binary_jester

Agreed with most of what you said, but maybe he is scared of the fact you are talking to an invisible man.

seriously? come on man this isnt the time to take jabs at a person's religion

I agree 100% People need to draw strength from whatever source they need.

Signed the Atheist

LaDiablesse

It takes 2 to make a marriage or relationship work. When one person carries the burden that's when resentment starts. Seems it's already begun with your calling him an idiot. Counseling may help get the two of you on the same page & you can move forward from there.

KatyG0409

My prayers are with you and your family. May God bless you all and help your husband see that the only way to get over it is to go through it -- together. Many blessings.

adrian_indy

Agreed with most of what you said, but maybe he is scared of the fact you are talking to an invisible man.

seriously? come on man this isnt the time to take jabs at a person's religion

I agree 100% People need to draw strength from whatever source they need.

Signed the Atheist

Well, I can poke away because this whole thread is a little hilarious. A marriage and it's pros and cons are between that couple. The OP decided not to adress her grievances to her friends via personal message or on her personal thread, but rather broadcasted to the entire MFP commnunity that

A: She thinks her husband is an idiot.
B: She thinks God is specifically talking to her.

So first, if I were the husband, I wouldn't be invested in a marriage where my personal business, shortcomings, and personal problems are being broadcast by my signifigant other, the person that is supposed to be my truest supporter.

Second, I want to know what God said specifically. Was it a sign? Was it a voice? Did he say, "Pay the rent until next June and ease off the Applebees, thy will be done." I won't be interupting anyones church service anytime soon, but if this is on a public forum, I have some questions.

cindaboo1

Dear Lord, please intercede for this family and give them patience and acceptance to work through the issues they face. Amen

Couldn't have said it better.......~Amen.

catwrangler

Signed the Atheist

Signed the COMPASSIONATE EMPATHETIC Atheist :drinker:

as for the others, I also have a few descriptives......

mommared53

To the OP, I'll be praying for you and your husband. Stay strong and keep your faith in God. He can get you through this.

jewelzz

Im having a problem with "if he LETS me stay" you do realize you can do all that without him

Pollywog39

Well, I can poke away because this whole thread is a little hilarious. A marriage and it's pros and cons are between that couple. The OP decided not to adress her grievances to her friends via personal message or on her personal thread, but rather broadcasted to the entire MFP commnunity that

A: She thinks her husband is an idiot.
B: She thinks God is specifically talking to her.

FIRST of all, she's 23.
That, in and of itself, should be a clue to this whole dilemma..................I got married at 22, had a child at 23, another at 25. My marriage was a mess.
Things got better - because we grew up a little and faced the demands of every-day life with children and work and mortgage and all..................

My opinion? Get some counseling. Talk to your husband. TELL him how you feel. Get help with financial things and relationship issues. Talk to people who have been there, done that.


and, if you feel it's worth it..........DON'T give up!

Now, me? I stayed in a bad marraige for WAY tooooo long, because I felt I had invested so much time and effort in it, and my 'x' just didn't want to make it work anymore. He was in love with booze and drugs, not me. Oh well, live and learn

adrian_indy

Well, I can poke away because this whole thread is a little hilarious. A marriage and it's pros and cons are between that couple. The OP decided not to adress her grievances to her friends via personal message or on her personal thread, but rather broadcasted to the entire MFP commnunity that

A: She thinks her husband is an idiot.
B: She thinks God is specifically talking to her.

FIRST of all, she's 23.
That, in and of itself, should be a clue to this whole dilemma..................I got married at 22, had a child at 23, another at 25. My marriage was a mess.
Things got better - because we grew up a little and faced the demands of every-day life with children and work and mortgage and all..................

My opinion? Get some counseling. Talk to your husband. TELL him how you feel. Get help with financial things and relationship issues. Talk to people who have been there, done that.


and, if you feel it's worth it..........DON'T give up!

Now, me? I stayed in a bad marraige for WAY tooooo long, because I felt I had invested so much time and effort in it, and my 'x' just didn't want to make it work anymore. He was in love with booze and drugs, not me. Oh well, live and learn

I agree. But being in the marriage and demeaning him in public is ludicrous. I've seen it in men and women who have their foot already halfway out the door. It's a campaign to smear your future ex so if things go sour, you look like the good guy. If someone is truly committed to a relationship, you don't go out into public smearing your spouse.

I never in a million years, even when thing with my wife were a rocky, would trash her to people. Even when talking about these things to close friends, I didn't call her names. It would undermine the whole relationship and strain the trust. This whole thread just sounded like a preemptive strike against an future ex.

If he's you ex, bombs away, you don't owe him anything. But if you want the relationship to work, quit calling him a undisciplined idiot in public.

tomomatic

Hi. It sounds to me that he has some insecurities. For whatever reason, it almost sounds like he has something thats telling him that he doesn't deserve you (for me, that was the bridesmaid at our wedding...long story). For whatever reason, it sounds like he's unsure of himself and his place. Mentally, he's in a dark place and I think I felt the same way a couple years ago when I got laid off. I never questioned the marriage, but I was certainly wounded when I wasn't the bread winner for a while. I even thought to myself that I'd be worth more dead because at least I'd be providing financially.

I wouldn't have gotten through it without my wife and my friends. My kids were pains in the *kitten* that wouldn't stop bothering me when I was trying to do phone interviews but they gave me purpose, too. It sounds to me like he needs re-assurance, validation, and all that good stuff.

I'm praying for you and your husband.
(And don't let him sit around. Make him do some P90x or something)

sunkisses

I think you should call his bluff and give him the divorce.

_Timmeh_

Agreed with most of what you said, but maybe he is scared of the fact you are talking to an invisible man.

Agreed, and the invisible man spoke back.
This is between you and your husband, no one else.

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