Want to hear your opinion on this

ninerbuff

We signed my daughter up for an extra curricular class once a week. There's about 15 students in the class and all parents are required to provide snacks on a designated week. So when the instructor mailed out the schedule for the parents, one parent responded by letting everyone know that her child is allergic to Macadamia nuts and some other foods with nuts in them.
So my wife and I discussed it and are in disagreement about what should be done. IMO, if a child could have an issue with food allergies, the parent of that child should make the snack for that child and not rely on whether or not other parents in the class go out and buy the right snack that won't affect her child. If it were my child with the issue, I wouldn't take the chance.
My wife disagree and says that she did the right thing by letting us know and that we should comply to keep the child safe. There are many options that can be got for snacks and shouldn't be a big deal to shop for them.

So what do you think? Oh and I'm not gonna "rub it in" if more people agree with me. I'm just curious to see if I'm off base.

koosdel

I don't see any real issue.

You were notified of a possible danger, and I'm sure the girl knows what to eat.

SarahNicole317

I'm with your wife. Otherwise the child will feel like the oddball. What"s the big deal?

kylee_marie

you both have good points but i can say that as a mother, if my child had a nut allergy (which are usually pretty severe) i would never just trust that because i sent out a message, that everyone would pay attention to it. i would always provide my own snacks..i wouldn't want to inconvenience anyone but more importantly, i would want to keep my child safe!

jedi9393

i agree with you. No way am I gonna leave the safety of my child in the hands of others!! What if someone forgets and depending on the age of the kid, they can be very irresponsible. If my kid had an allergy I would make sure that he had the right snacks and let everyone know.

Some people have allergies that just cause a mild reaction, but some people can be hospitilized and even die. No way, thats whats wrong wtih people now days. You cant expect others to nanny your children or look out for their welfare like you would.

mmmichelle8486

As a parent you would say that you would rather pack for your child and have them be safe, which is understandable. However, how would your child feel being the only one in the group that is singled out and cannot enjoy the common snack for the day? For fairness, and equality for that child, you should really prepare a snack that is safe for all. They did the right thing by alerting parents of any known allergies, and parents should all respect that so all the children are included.

epoeraven

I'm with your wife. Otherwise the child will feel like the oddball. What"s the big deal?

Agree. As long as you know in advance, you can plan accordingly.

RachelT14

My son has some food allergies as well as being vegetarian (which sometimes causes problems as not everybody knows about gelatine etc being unsuitable) If i was in a situation like that i know i would prefer to provide a snack for him every week to make sure he was safe, and also be happy to provide a snack on my designated week for all the kids as requested.

When they have a party at school i am always asked to pop in and check all the food packages to make sure they know which things, if any, he needs to avoid.

DannyMussels

I've worked in kitchens my whole life. Nuts, garlic, soy etc are usual ones so I'm used to it.

It's resonsible of them to aware everyone ahead of time. It's safer if NOBODY has food with the allergens inside.

Depending on the age group, they could swap snacks, or cross-contamination could happen. Even sharing a drink, table, napkin..water fountain, etc...could cause something, if someone has something on their hands.

Therefore I'm gonna say its important that no food with that ever really turn up in that class.

That being said, then its fair for everyone, and they should prepare food as they normally would, not the individuals parents making a special snack.

Also, there's a lot of trust and responsibility in allowing other parents to make food for your children. Regardless of their eating habits or allergies.

Nuts is an easy one though. You're lucky its not soy or gluten, then it'd be a stretch to find products and ingredients without them.

mytwobabies

I agree with your wife. Being a preschool teacher we do exactly what was done. Parents bring snack for the whole class and we let them know if there are any allergies to keep in mind.

orhstay87

If I were you, I would just go ahead and comply. How hard can it be to find a snack without nuts in it? BUT, if I were the mother, I'd send a snack with my child just in case someone did send something she couldn't eat.

melissabell1984

This is a tough one ... I agree with both of you ... by being able to partake of what everyone else is, it will make the child feel less centered out, but as the parent, I would bring a back up snack, just in case. These parents have to be 'on' all the time in their daily lives with the allergies that I think it would be less one thing to worry about for them if everyone pitched in to work together. :-)

CronoCX

Sounds like a touchy subject but, honestly it shouldn't be a big deal. If the the other student that is allergic and knows he/she is allergic to macadamia's then their shouldn't be a problem. Just if anything don't give your daughter with anything with macadamia's so she won't share it. I'm sure if the kids are old enough, they should be able to understand! Wish you luck!

scrapendipity

No question, I wouldn't take chances if it were my kid and would make her own snack if she had special food requirements.

AdrienneKaren

I'm with your wife. It's not like there aren't a thousand other foods to take for snack time. Fruits and vegetables are healthy and generally allergy free.

Mom2rh

How hard is it, really, to accommodate that request? Seriously, bring fresh fruit and cheese on your appointed week. Healthy. No allergens. Easy. It sounds like you don't want to do it just because you were asked. Why?

AI1108

Yeah I think it's one of those gray areas in life. You could play nice and just get a snack that the child can also have or decide to not give a hoot and bring a snack that she'd be allergic to and tell her its not your fault she's allergic. To me, the fact that the parent responded was a request to keep her child in mind. I'd personally just be like sure whatever and bring something that she can enjoy as well.

LaComadreja14

I have to say I agree with you: her kid, her responsibility.

Not to mention, if I were her I would not put my kids health in anyone elses hands.

My dog, for instance, is one of my 5 furkids (as I dont have skin kids) and he is allergic to nearly everything, therefore- If I can't take him with me on vacation, I don't go on vacation because I dont expect anyone to pick up slack on it. I choose to get a dog, I have to take care of him. I have to make sure that he is safe and healthy because he is my responsibility- no one elses.

dad106

I work in a school with special education students who all have food allergies of one sort or another.. So heres my take on it.

I personally think that the parent should be the one buying the snack for the child, because the parent and the parent only knows for sure what the child can have. If the parent decides that others can buy/bring a snack for the child, then the parent should read all ingredients to make sure there is no cross contamination or anything before the child eats it, even if it is a food that the parent has previously deemed safe.

aliciagetshealthy

you both have good points but i can say that as a mother, if my child had a nut allergy (which are usually pretty severe) i would never just trust that because i sent out a message, that everyone would pay attention to it. i would always provide my own snacks..i wouldn't want to inconvenience anyone but more importantly, i would want to keep my child safe!

This!