Littlte bit of advice

Chaosdrone

I have a situation. lol I like this black girl in my trade school and i never dated a black girl before. from what people tell me me doing my thing on mfpi seem to inspire her to get into shape and i was told she is intrested in talking to me. what do i do?

wickedcricket

really?! um... talk to her like any other girl? it's NOT a thing unless people MAKE it a thing. Age, race has NOTHING to do with it- people are people. Just talk, find out if there's any interest and let nature take it's course. It's not rocket science

Katbaran

Just take it one step at a time. Start by chatting and see where it goes. Good luck!

ket_the_jet

lol I like this girl in my trade school and i never dated a girl before.

I fixed that for you. Gotta go with wickedcricket's advice. If you treat her differently than you would another race or ethnicity or religion, etc., you're off to a bad start.

Since it sounds like you've never dated before, I would remind you that the average woman costs $12,500/year to date. In comparison, the average dog costs just over $10,000 over its lifetime and porn is free on the internet.

Good luck.
-wtk

Chaosdrone

never dated a black girl.

juliecat1

lol I like this girl in my trade school and i never dated a girl before.

I fixed that for you. Gotta go with wickedcricket's advice. If you treat her differently than you would another race or ethnicity or religion, etc., you're off to a bad start.

Since it sounds like you've never dated before, I would remind you that the average woman costs $12,500/year to date. In comparison, the average dog costs just over $10,000 over its lifetime and porn is free on the internet.

Good luck.
-wtk

I seriously love Ket. :flowerforyou:

ricepattikay

Black, white, red, yellow, we're all the same on the inside. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. Talk to her just like you would anyone. We are only aware of the color difference because we were raised to be. Can you imagine if your parents had taught you that you could only be attracted to blue eyed people and it wasn't ok to date someone with brown eyes, that would just be silly wouldn't it??? Think about it. Go with your heart Just a little Mom advise.

Begood03

I agree, just talk to her and see how it goes.

Chaosdrone

i will during break

Andythefitfamilyman

never dated a black girl.

what does it matter if the chick black????

dls06

We are all human.:noway:

Chaosdrone

i grew up in a all white lifestyle and went to my trade school and never talked to black people in real life. now i have been working on my multicultrueal awareness here and i am bridgeing hte gap that i had with black poeple.

Andythefitfamilyman

i grew up in a all white lifestyle and went to my trade school and never talked to black people in real life. now i have been working on my multicultrueal awareness here and i am bridgeing hte gap that i had with black poeple.

dont worry just because a woman have a different color skin doesnt mean they are going to sprout talons, wings, and a tail

Moofey

lol I like this girl in my trade school and i never dated a girl before.

I fixed that for you. Gotta go with wickedcricket's advice. If you treat her differently than you would another race or ethnicity or religion, etc., you're off to a bad start.

Since it sounds like you've never dated before, I would remind you that the average woman costs $12,500/year to date. In comparison, the average dog costs just over $10,000 over its lifetime and porn is free on the internet.

Good luck.
-wtk

This made me laugh... Alot haha.

i_love_vinegar

Just be yourself It sounds like she likes you~I would recommend treating her well...buy her a cute present that you know she would like and tell her she is pretty etc.~

I know how it feels having different cultures, so I dont think there is any reason for ppl to get offended by this~The question makes sense, but luckily the answer is very simple as I said (be yourself)^^

Good luck

VeganInTraining

You go up to her and say "yo' beezy, you're looking mighty fine. I hear once you go black you never go back, how about you take me to the moon!"

Save her the trouble and don't talk to her. You're not worth her time! Color should have nothing to do with how you go about trying to date her.

Also I really hope this is a joke, a very stupid joke, but a joke...really multicultural awareness? you gotta be kidding me

VeganInTraining

i grew up in a all white lifestyle and went to my trade school and never talked to black people in real life. now i have been working on my multicultrueal awareness here and i am bridgeing hte gap that i had with black poeple.

what is she a social experiment?

Chaosdrone

no its job corp a melting pot for all cultures

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HMonsterX

Pay for sex. It's cheaper in the long run.

VeganInTraining

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AGREED.

Ok, so the poor guy was never exposed to other cultures. Give him a break, he's trying! He likes her, he's obviously not racist. Everyone needs to stop pretending they are color blind. How many of you who responded has actually ever dated someone of a different race??

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My husband is puerto rican, my boyfriend before that was black (which seriously didn't process in my head until he asked if I had dated a black guy before), one before that Egyptian, my brother in law in Arab....should I go on?

AlsDonkBoxSquat

AGREED.

Ok, so the poor guy was never exposed to other cultures. Give him a break, he's trying! He likes her, he's obviously not racist. Everyone needs to stop pretending they are color blind. How many of you who responded has actually ever dated someone of a different race??

My husband is puerto rican, my boyfriend before that was black (which seriously didn't process in my head until he asked if I had dated a black guy before), one before that Egyptian, my brother in law in Arab....should I go on?

Okay, so you had the benefit of being exposed to people of other races, cultures, and ethnic backgrounds, congradulations. Not everyone comes from an area that is diverse and this can lead to insecurities. While I too have dated people with various ethnic and religious background that does not make me suprerior, just more fortunate (imho).

Dear, just talk to her. She's a woman with all the same working parts as any other woman you've met and all the same individualities.

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TheRoadDog

Race stops being an issue, when we stop talking about race.

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Krizzle4Rizzle

Race stops being an issue, when we stop talking about race.

Smartest thing I read today.

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myofibril

Just talk and flirt with her like you would do any other girl.

Cultural issues DO generally come into play (though not always) no matter what people tell you. However, that is usually the case when the relationship is more established and progressing as opposed to the initial stages.

Good luck.

ket_the_jet

Race stops being an issue, when we stop talking about race.

Smartest thing I read today.

I'm a huge fan of TheRoadDog and his sage advice, but this is one that I partially of disagree with. The point is not to be "color-blind." You should experience and appreciate everyone's race, culture, ethnicity, religion, etc., equally. You don't have to necessarily like someone's practices, but respect the right to be different.

And, sparing detail, yes I have and do date outside of my cultural boundaries.
-wtk

Leanne1795

i grew up in a all white lifestyle and went to my trade school and never talked to black people in real life. now i have been working on my multicultrueal awareness here and i am bridgeing hte gap that i had with black poeple.

dont worry just because a woman have a different color skin doesnt mean they are going to sprout talons, wings, and a tail

No, we woman just do that for fun. :devil:

i_love_vinegar

My husband is puerto rican, my boyfriend before that was black (which seriously didn't process in my head until he asked if I had dated a black guy before), one before that Egyptian, my brother in law in Arab....should I go on?

My first boyfriend: Chilean
Second boyfriend: Cantonese (Chinese)
All the guys I have dated have been from other countries (guys from Germany and Thailand were my first dates).

Right now I am hoping to date one of three guys I like: two are from China, one is from South Korea. I am also living in my 3rd country right now...

I see in color, but not because I am racist. I have never gone out with a guy and NOT noticed his race/ethnicity~actually, the different appearance/culture is what I find most attractive ^^

So...as for the OP...just because he sees her as a "black girl" doesn't mean he is racist either (Just because he doens't have the past intercultural dating experience like some of us shouldn't matter).