she said 'YOU DON'T NEED TO EAT THAT'

reese66

I'm optomistic (sp?) thinking she did not want you to sabatoge yourself! A good friend would tell you that - maybe she was not very diplomatic about it. :>/

I agree with this. Especially if this is someone who knows that you ate trying to lose weight. My other half always says things like that, he's not trying to be rude, he just thinks he is helping. I always tell him I can eat what I wish and that moderation is the key.

I would give her the benefit of the doubt and if happened again just explain politely you van male your own food choices.

Taryn1627

I would have said 'I'm starving and I havent eaten all day, a handful of chips isnt going to hurt me'. That's it.

I totally agree with this!!!!

sunkisses

I love women. Such close friends they can go on vacation together. Then they get catty over a bag of chips and it's friendship over!

& I love when guys generalize women by the group. 'Cause - you know - we're all the same. *fake laugh*

rbryntes

You sound like you don't want to be friends anymore, so don't.

wickedcricket

ok - it was VACATION! ONE week out of the year when I don't log, try not to gain 50 lbs (didn't gain a pound) but I eat & drink alcohol & enjoy myself.
IF I had wanted a FAT MENTOR, I'd have taken you guys or MY MOM. IT WAS VACATION- SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!
ALSO, I don't think comments like that are in any way helpful. It was rude, uncalled for and hurtful. HOW is that supposed to help? not something I would EVER say to someone, much less a friend - even if I thought it (which I don't) HOW RUDE to imply (or even think) that I deserve junk food others do not. I am somehow MORE worthy of unhealthy food because I wear a size 5 - nevermind that I drink beer all day instead of meals and smoke 3 PACKS OF CIGARETTES A DAY, CAN'T EVEN CLIMB A FLIGHT OF STAIRS.
I am 100 times more fit than this PRUNE.

rbryntes

I am 100 times more fit than this PRUNE.

Right, this comment and the comments you made in the OP make me feel like you have already decided to stop being friends with her. So don't worry about if we approve or disapprove. Just stop being friends with the person. Life is too short to have friends for whom you have obvious contempt.

njean888

Well I think you missed your chance to say something because you should have said something at that moment. But your 100% correct. I wear a size 4 and have no more right to stuff myself with crap than someone who needs to lose more. Junk is junk, unhealthy is unhealthy, it makes no difference who is eating it and she was just being a little insensitive B---H when she said that!

melanie_J

losing 20lbs is GREAT, but I do think you should have planned the trip better for healthy snacks. It's good to lose weight, but doing it the right way with eating through out the day is best. You can't deprive your body of what it needs. Your friend was wrong to blurt that out the way she did, but if you didn't express your feelings about it right then in there, it's best to let it go, but explain you'd like encouragement rather than judgement. Best of luck to you!

But the whole point is that she had the money to go eat something, but her friend did not, so she was trying not to be selfish and go out and eat a meal by herself, leaving her friend still munching on a bag of potato chips. I don't think her friend saw her point of view, nor did she see her friends point of view. Her friend may have thought that the bag of chips was gonna be the only thing for her to eat the rest of the trip....I dunno, I can see both perspectives.

It is frustrating through to have someone pretty much dictating what you can and cannot have when they shouldn't have an opinion.

GG70

Say "you don't need to eat those either but you've been stuffing your face with them all day".

I LOVE THAT RESPONSE! HYSTERICAL!!!

LemonSocks

ok - it was VACATION! ONE week out of the year when I don't log, try not to gain 50 lbs (didn't gain a pound) but I eat & drink alcohol & enjoy myself.
IF I had wanted a FAT MENTOR, I'd have taken you guys or MY MOM. IT WAS VACATION- SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!
ALSO, I don't think comments like that are in any way helpful. It was rude, uncalled for and hurtful. HOW is that supposed to help? not something I would EVER say to someone, much less a friend - even if I thought it (which I don't) HOW RUDE to imply (or even think) that I deserve junk food others do not. I am somehow MORE worthy of unhealthy food because I wear a size 5 - nevermind that I drink beer all day instead of meals and smoke 3 PACKS OF CIGARETTES A DAY, CAN'T EVEN CLIMB A FLIGHT OF STAIRS.
I am 100 times more fit than this PRUNE.

From what you've implied it was a single off-handed comment. My boyfriend will often says things like that - not because he's being rude but because he knows how torn up I'll be over eating stupidly. I can also say that if I am tired or drained I can be pretty snappy to him (and she may well have been tired). You could have just told her it was hurtful and she could have explained why she said it.

But the way you talk about your 'friend' is incredibly rude which leads me to believe there is some other issue you have with her. One off-handed comment does not cause so much hate to emerge.