Relationship advice

Mallory0418

No depression or anxiety meds. Since he's in the military he gets checked for every little thing regularly.

kenzietea

Therapy! Sometimes it is as simple as he doesn't know how to vocalize what the problem is. Or maybe YOU aren't communicating correctly. Or maybe a therapist would make him feel comfortable enough to tell you what the problem is. Who knows, but going to a few sessions can't hurt, and therapy doesn't mean you are screwed up or doomed to failure. It is good for everyone to check in once in a while. Nobody and no relationship is perfect. If you can't afford it/insurance doesn't cover it, there are plenty of centers that charge based off of what you can afford, many times you even get therapy for free.

That being said, are you bringing this up a lot? Some men don't work well under pressure. Maybe quit talking about the lack of affection for a while. Give it a month and see if backing off has helped. Sometimes it helps a lot! Also, do you ever make the first move? Maybe you coming onto him will take some of the pressure off

My fiance and I went through something similar. I continue to lose weight and get in shape, and he seemed to have lost interest. Apparently I was just bringing it up all the time, and the pressure was causing him to worry more than fix the problem. The second I shut up, was the second things got much much better and are continuing to get better (he also unfortunately had a time period where he was under a lot of stress with a new job and hadn't worked out as much, also contributing factors to his lack of libido)

babyworms

I'm so sorry to hear you're having these issues. My partner and i have been together nearly 18 months and we're getting married in January, and we've recently finally dealt with the same issue. He kept blaming his lack of 'interest' in stress, work, so much going on etc, and finally when there was nothing else to blame we sat down and had a huge talk about it.
I ended up going to see my parents in another state for an undecided amount of time for us to actually think about whether we wanted to be together, whether he felt he could change and put in more of an effort for my sake, and whether i could manage being in a relationship where not all my needs were met.

Long (LONG) story short, the fact that i actually put out the words "Should we actually get married?" and told him in no uncertain terms that if he didn't make me feel appreciated/sexy/good about myself, there was a high chance that i would leave him one day, made him really realise what he was doing to me and how much he was hurting me.

Things are a million times better now, and he puts in so much more effort... so maybe making your hubby REALLY see what sort of impact his actiions are having on you could help?