Whats with all the mind game playing men!

edenxoxo

Seriously..... Do men play mind games on or women read too much into EVERYTHING?

I don't see myself as someone who exageraates a situation... I am quite grounded and feel that I reflect a lot on a situation before making an opinion or deciding what to do but when it comes to guys... the saying is true. "Men REALLY are from Venus and Women are from Mars"

Men.. any feeback would be helpful.. I'd rather be on the same planet if I am ever going to find happiness

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

some *people* play games, and others don't. Hopefully you can find someone that doesn't and not waste your time on those who do. And it's not just men, plenty of women do it too. It's tough, but important, to find someone with whom you can have an honest and open relationship, no games. IMO of course.

If you want some specific feedback from the men perhaps you should explain the situation?

smc1277

Men play mind games constantly. The only answer is to be better at it them.

ket_the_jet

I think, like most things in life, the answer falls somewhere in the middle.

Some men play mind games. Some men don't. Some women read too much into everything. Some women don't. It's difficult [and unfair] to make those kinds of generalizations based solely on a few experiences.

Personally, I don't think that I play games. I am honest--to a fault, depending on who you ask--and straight-forward in my intentions. I am non-committal by nature and make my decisions based upon what feels right in the moment. I analyze the future but don't sacrifice the present.

Does that mean every guy is like me? Certainly not. After all, you'll never catch me wearing sweatpants.
-wtk

Deckershann

Men are awesome.

I know I read far too much into things.

Mars and Venus, gods of war and love. If men are from Mars, and women are from Venus...we still need each other to balance out!

deathstarclock

Hey women play games too wtf

TavistockToad

Seriously..... Do men play mind games on or women read too much into EVERYTHING?

I don't see myself as someone who exageraates a situation... I am quite grounded and feel that I reflect a lot on a situation before making an opinion or deciding what to do but when it comes to guys... the saying is true. "Men REALLY are from Venus and Women are from Mars"

Men.. any feeback would be helpful.. I'd rather be on the same planet if I am ever going to find happiness

an example would be useful...

i havent come across any game playing men - they tend to like to keep things simple... beer, sport, sex, food... not necessarily in that order. and women DEFINITELY read too much into things - myself included!!!

micahnelson

I think your first step is overgeneralizing. Stop seeing men and women, just see individuals. Obviously, gender can factor into how a person acts- but it isn't always the predominant trait. Upbringing, emotional baggage, personality - the list goes on into perpetuity. Don't try to understand ALL men, just try to understand this man. I couldn't care less about understanding women in general- I am just trying to understand my wife. For the record, it isn't working very well, but at least I have limited my goal to something possibly achievable within my lifetime.

sjohnny

I think women try to make men a whole lot more complicated than they really are. Bottom line is that most of us really aren't all that complex. That's not to mean we're shallow or anything it's just that usually what we say is what we mean. It's not code. There are guys that like to play mind games but I see that as an awful lot of effort for not much return. It seems that women generally do read a lot of stuff into stuff that probably isn't there.

edenxoxo

Men play mind games constantly. The only answer is to be better at it them.

My motto is "u can't play games with me if I don't re-roll the dice" but I am finding this hard to stick to...

I think people play games to avoid getting hurt and APOLOGIES MEN, I know women do it too..... I just wish people were straight up and took a risk once in a while...

*sign*

bigdawg025

Men AND women play mind games at different times. The human mind is a huge abyss, and it's impossible to figure out everything that's going on in there at any given time. Believe me, though, it's definitely not just men by any means. I think it has A LOT to do with a person's insecuriities as well.

nikki778

Its a mixture of both You just need to acknowledge it which you have, Rise above it & don't even bother.

mrmanmeat

Seriously..... Do men play mind games on or women read too much into EVERYTHING?

I don't see myself as someone who exageraates a situation... I am quite grounded and feel that I reflect a lot on a situation before making an opinion or deciding what to do but when it comes to guys... the saying is true. "Men REALLY are from Venus and Women are from Mars"

Men.. any feeback would be helpful.. I'd rather be on the same planet if I am ever going to find happiness

haha. For every man that does, there's a women (or two) that does the same.

Best of luck though

Shariegreen

I think the only generalization that is fair to make about anybody (men or women) is that generalizations are unfair.

arosmith79

I think its a combination of both. There are some men out there that feel its ok to play mind games with women for whatever reason they can come up with. The other side of the coin is that I do believe women read too much into a situation or over analyze things too

i_love_vinegar

The generalization is that men dont play mind games, but some do play mind games.

Therefore, the OP is not generalizing so much as questioning a generalization

edenxoxo

I think your first step is overgeneralizing. Stop seeing men and women, just see individuals. Obviously, gender can factor into how a person acts- but it isn't always the predominant trait. Upbringing, emotional baggage, personality - the list goes on into perpetuity. Don't try to understand ALL men, just try to understand this man. I couldn't care less about understanding women in general- I am just trying to understand my wife. For the record, it isn't working very well, but at least I have limited my goal to something possibly achievable within my lifetime.

Please don't think I am generalising men and women into only 2 groups... simply putting it out there that women and men as 2 sex's sharing charactweristics of another...

MY EXAMPLE:

Man: Constantly flirting, asks u out for drinks......
Women: Accepts after maybe playing a little hard to get
Man: Speaks to me this morning.. then nothing since 11:30

Truth is I know I am reading to much into it this time and he may possible text me back later on tonight but without going into the completed back ground of everything that has gone on.... I CANNOT work the guy out... If he's "Just that into me" Fine... I can handle it.... just don't get why some men & WOMEN get kicks out of leading people on when they have no intention of persuing anything further...

Nerdy_Rose

You mention "finding happiness."

Find happiness within yourself, enjoy life, someone to share it with will follow.

Mastadonous58

Men Women come from completely different expectations don't look at it as a problem but use your common sense when trying to talk to the opposite sex... Never believe everything people say and verify all info with another source... Yes it is crazy and a little cynical but that is what keeps you on your toes

Tangerine302

Maybe it's mind games, but it might be lack of communication as well.

brunnemeyer

Men are a lot simpler than you think.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Seriously..... Do men play mind games on or women read too much into EVERYTHING?

The answer is yes to both. Everyone plays mind games, and when messages are indirect and unclear people read into a situation what they want to read into it and not the reality.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

You mention "finding happiness."

Find happiness within yourself, enjoy life, someone to share it with will follow.

This is so true. Real happiness comes from peace and love from within, everything else is just the creamy filling added bonus.

juliecat1

MY EXAMPLE:

Man: Constantly flirting, asks u out for drinks......
Women: Accepts after maybe playing a little hard to get
Man: Speaks to me this morning.. then nothing since 11:30

Men and women both game play. Not all of them but its pretty fairly split. I mean..... your own example up there is pretty full of game and 'reading into things'.
So, he asked you out, spoke to you this morning and now a couple of hours have passed and he hasnt talked to you about it since? So? I guess I dont get the problem. Hes interested or he wouldnt have asked you out. Be satisfied in that and go about your day.

EmpressOfJudgment

MY EXAMPLE:

Man: Constantly flirting, asks u out for drinks......
Women: Accepts after maybe playing a little hard to get
Man: Speaks to me this morning.. then nothing since 11:30

Truth is I know I am reading to much into it this time and he may possible text me back later on tonight but without going into the completed back ground of everything that has gone on.... I CANNOT work the guy out... If he's "Just that into me" Fine... I can handle it.... just don't get why some men & WOMEN get kicks out of leading people on when they have no intention of persuing anything further...

Wait, so it was less than 24 hours since you last heard from him and you characterize that as "playing games?" That sounds normal for the start of a relationship. I've had guys who texted and IMed me constantly from the start and they usually turn out to be needy nutjobs. What's the rush. Let things develop and try not to care too much. If it's going to happen, it'll happen. I hardly think this sounds like he's playing mind games.

Tiggerrick

Please don't think I am generalising men and women into only 2 groups... simply putting it out there that women and men as 2 sex's sharing charactweristics of another...

MY EXAMPLE:

Man: Constantly flirting, asks u out for drinks......
Women: Accepts after maybe playing a little hard to get
Man: Speaks to me this morning.. then nothing since 11:30

Truth is I know I am reading to much into it this time and he may possible text me back later on tonight but without going into the completed back ground of everything that has gone on.... I CANNOT work the guy out... If he's "Just that into me" Fine... I can handle it.... just don't get why some men & WOMEN get kicks out of leading people on when they have no intention of persuing anything further...

SELF CHECK TIME!!! What are YOUR expectations? Every 1hr texts, every night texts, every other night? It's your expectations that are not being met. Does HE know them? Are they realistic?

Qarol

Women: Accepts after maybe playing a little hard to get

You're just as guilty, dear...

myofibril

You mention "finding happiness."

Find happiness within yourself, enjoy life, someone to share it with will follow.

Yes, exactly.

If you have a clear idea of who you are, what you do and do not find acceptable and act on it accordingly then life becomes so much simpler.

Some men will play games, some will not. It won't matter if you know yourself. If a man plays games and you do not find it acceptable then go on your way until you come across someone who does meet your criteria. Given their are literally billions of men in he world you are bound to come across a good fit eventually.

Wingmistress

I think I agree with some people play games and some people don't. Some people read to deep into situations and some don't. I think that if you meet someone and there is sincere interest on both parts, there is no need for "the game". If there is a "game" to begin with, chances are, you're wasting your time with that person and you should just move on.

liftingbro

IME, women are much more likely to be playing mind games and/or reading too much into what guys say.

Not to say guys don't play mind games but women are 10x worse.

BigDaddyBRC

In my experience....women Always read into everything Way too much. It's that whole thing about how guys dont use their brains as much...its because we dont care to overthink everything. We'd rather go with the flow than bring up something form 100000 years ago about how we didnt open the door the ONE time and have you explode into how we dont love you anymore.