Advice Desperately Needed!

MsBaby117

Sounds to me like he just wants to make sure you stay right where you've been for years - on the back burner...My advice...Distance yourself from him. You may be overlooking someone who's right for you while you're waiting around for him...

emilyc19

one of my guy friends did this to me. I told him that I would not be with him until he made a decision and if he really wanted me i told myself that he would have broken up with his girlfriend for me, no questions asked. He is trying to get the best of both worlds.

auntdeedee87

Sounds to me like he just wants to make sure you stay right where you've been for years - on the back burner...My advice...Distance yourself from him. You may be overlooking someone who's right for you while you're waiting around for him...

This!

Do not be this guy's back-up.

You are a woman of worth, and you deserve to be someone's first choice.

pain_is_weakness

He does sound confused. I say do not do anythign and maybe distance yourself until he is ready to make a firm decision!

He either needs to brake it off with her and be with you, or keep going with her and stop trying to double dip

SCR56

Here's what you do:

Keep posting updates. This is fascinating and there's not much on tv...

I agree with this.... it sounds like it will be a great story I don't have any real adivce, except go with your gut.

pain_is_weakness

I have been in this situation (in high school but still, it is what it is)

3 outcomes

1. you sleep together hoping he choses you (just to see if sometihng is there) and then he choses her anyways

2. he breaks up with her (for a while) and you guys give it a chance, after you sleep together again he will chose her

3. he breaks up with her, for a long time, and you wait to see if it happens, then he shows you genuine interest (not just pressured interest because he feels trapped)

solpwr

This guy has a girl friend who moved from another state so she could be closer to her boy friend.
This guy also has a friend who's a girl, that's you.

He's having second thoughts about his girl friend.

He tells you that he has feelings for you, while he's seeing SOMEONE ELSE. That's not good. Are you sure you have such a good opinion about the guy?

If he told you about the second thoughts, and you're his friend, that's what friends are for, to confide in.

He's mixed up. He's not thinking clearly. Not using the big head.

Be very careful. He needs to figure out what ever he needs to figure out about the relationship he's in. You should be considering him Off Limits.

Some day, when he's processed through all of this, it might be different. In the meantime, let him work through his drama.