You know what aggravates me?

sofaking6

She probably didn't mean it that way. I'm sure she was just complimenting you.

That's what I think, too. I suspect she meant it as a way of saying you're not so big now, like in a nice way. Or maybe I'm naive

jowings

She probably didn't mean it that way. I'm sure she was just complimenting you.

This would be my impression too . Maybe she just wanted to be supportive by letting you know that you look great now? I completely understand how it can get tiresome hearing everyone's two cents, though ^^.

ONE03

I used to work at a retail store, and the ladies would always comment about me not needing to lose anymore weight. It didn't really bother me, because they were actually trying to be supportive, not trying to make me feel bad. So I guess it depends where the other person is coming from with their "you don't need to lose anymore weight", "you look good the way you are", etc... comments.

SarahBrown1979

I had a boss that told me the same thing. I shrugged it off because you're right, it is YOUR body and no one should decide your ultimate goal but YOU.

Maybe she's jealous and doesn't want you to look better than her?? Just sayin.

Keep your chin up and reach the goal YOU are comfortable with!!

AGREED!! U do U girl!!!

erinrose07

Crying babies aggravate me. And yes....what you said is aggravating too. My boss does this to me all the time. "You're too skinny...blah...blah...blah" as she eats a tub of pasta....

ahmpierce1

I know that it might be a compliment, but it makes me feel like I have to defend my desire to be healthy! 36 (now 26) pounds may sound like a lot, but my body type is such that it's hardly noticeable when I gain or lose weight...no one has noticed the 10 pounds I've lost...and no one noticed the 20 pounds I gained last year. That's just how I'm built.

Thanks for all the positive words everyone.
You all rock!!!

foraMEthatiLOVE

Wouldn't be awesome if there was a delete button for people in real life? :laugh:

Maybe she didn't intend in a bad way but people need to realize that our personal weight goals are none of anybody's business... unless we ask their opinion on something. But please DO NOT let her get to you, you've been awesome and very dedicated, and what matters is how YOU feel in your own skin. :flowerforyou:

kimber_av

There is a chance this person has an eating disorder. and possibly doesnt want you to get sucked into the addiction of losing weight because she knows how painful it is.

just a thought.

Amber82479

I think that a lot of people overestimate how different you will look in 10, 20, 30, or 50 pound loss. When I tell people I still have another 30 pounds to lose before I am at my goal, they say that's much too skinny..but it's not, they just perceive it to be a huge number. I think it is especially "deceiving" to others when you carry your weight well and don't look the weight you are at currently.

But I totally agree with you, people should not tell you things like that because then you're less likely to talk about it with them in the future. They should just congratulate you on your progress and encourage you to keep up the good work, instead of suddenly turning it around and making you out to be the other end of the spectrum..

^^ So true. When I told the few people that know my true weight what it was, they were flabbergasted that it was much higher than they thought it'd be. Truth is, most people just haven't got a clue what you weigh or what you should weigh. They're ignorant and not worth arguing with. Not that it doesn't offend and hurt your feelings along the way! Idiots.

irridia

my spouse thinks my goal weight 120-130 is off base, but it was my natural weight in highschool and I was mostly fit but definately 5-10 lbs over.
It is possible with the extra muscle that I should be more like 130-140 but I won't know for sure till I'm close to that weight.

I like the idea of throwing my Dr under the bus, because she's not going to meet any of them for one thing, and hippa wouldn't let her talk about it anyway ;-P

I also have the lovely "I'm trying to get off all my meds (insulin)" excuse.

Oh and on the everybody's obese thing: I'm really, really tired of the "It's okay to be fat" bs train. Because it's not. Even if you are healthy in every respect as far as glucose, cardio, and bp it's still doing horrible things to your joints and will eventually cause issues as you get older. Why suffer at all if you don't have to? NO its not okay for people to belittle you because of your weight or to hate yourself or other self destructive or abusive behavior, and no you are not a fatty, you are a person. It doesn't define who you are, That stuff does need to stop, but not at the expense of saying I'm 5ft 4 and 260lbs and that's okay, because it isn't.

Good luck and don't worry, just toss your DR under the bus or use a med excuse and they can't say anything else... unless they work in the health field, then I don't know what you do. :huh: