Are we really that bad?

audigal2008

I think it is fine to set boundaries. Why are you taking it personal?:huh:

It's sexism :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway:
I will only friend blondes from now on thou shalt change your hair color to be my friend from now on! :smooched:


PS: Just being random, :flowerforyou:

LMAO Blondes rule! Just sayin' :laugh:
Oh well, i do not look good as a blonde! Your loss!

iAMaPhoenix

Here's a thought....WHY DOES IT MATTER?
Are your insecurities that people wont like you greater than theirs, whatever it may be, for not wanting to you to FR them?

personally...it's their own loss.

So, I say to you bigboy...Suck it up buttercup!

And to the person who wrote this..."because heaven forbid a woman doesn't want to have to deal with a man. I'm floored by how annoying/borderline offensive I find this topic/question to be."

Are you guys just reading what you want to into the discussion or are you just wanting to stir up trouble. I was only making an observation and asking for input. People are entitled to only request goldfish as friends if they want to. I was only saying that I noticed it twoce today which was unusual for me to see in the 5 months I have been on MFP. That's all. I rarely make FR as I only have about 80 people on my list, and do not care to add many more. And if you find this question to be annoying/borderline offensive, use the back button and leave the discussion. Funny how you are the only one to see it like that...or do what you need to...report it as offensive and see if the MODs agree with you.

stresco

Yes we are! And worse. I cringe whenever I see a freind request in my GF mailbox from a guy.

stampede55

My other half is very jealous to the point I can't have a Facebook account so to save hassle the only male I have on here is my brother.

My wife and I eventually combined our facebook because we were both getting flooded with past mistakes and bs. It was getting to the point that cops were getting called. Drinking was always involved. We just decided to delete our mutual page due to all of the drama other people were bringing into our marriage. Social networking can seriously screw up a relationship.

AwesomeSauce4

I would probably say they are just looking for support from women. I have had a bad experience on here from a man so from here on out I will be selective about the men I would accept as friends here.

I agree with my girl Angie.. I have ran across a few Pervs ect....

XxXskinnyMiniXxX

Yes we are! And worse. I cringe whenever I see a freind request in my GF mailbox from a guy.

'-'

Bankman1989

OK...Today whilst reading forum stuff, I noticed that there were two ladies who stated in their profile that they do not accept FR from men. I know we hve been given the titles of pigs, dogs, trashy, *kitten*, sluts, cheaters, liars... but are we really that bad that you have decided that all of us come from the same mold?

Yup! i was denied by a female recently. She just didn't like to add guys. She said if she did she definitely would add me based on how sexy I am. Ok i made that last part up!

macpatti

I don't take it personally. There are a lot of different kinds of people on this website and I'm not going to get along with everyone. If someone wants to limit their friends list for whatever reason, that's their prerogative. Personally, I'm thankful for the little disclaimers people put on their profile. It tells me from the beginning whether they are worth my time or not.

Really? "Worth your time"?

XxXskinnyMiniXxX

I don't take it personally. There are a lot of different kinds of people on this website and I'm not going to get along with everyone. If someone wants to limit their friends list for whatever reason, that's their prerogative. Personally, I'm thankful for the little disclaimers people put on their profile. It tells me from the beginning whether they are worth my time or not.

Really? "Worth your time"?

Your comment isn't worth my time.

P.S this isn't directed toward macpatti.

shiggyshane

if your significant other is gna get jelous of friends of the opposite sex on a fitness website then shes got some real trust issues with herself/himself that they need to deal with.

Smh....

couldnt agree more..

Captain_Mal

I have both male and female friends on here and sometimes the men are better than the women. Although I've had a few creepy creepers that I've had to let go of. I'm much more selective now and keep less people on my list. Sort of like my FB, I don't literally know 500 people so why should I have 500 FB friends. I keep that list around 50 and plan on keeping this one around 30.

There could be various reasons why they don't accept friend requests from men and don't plan on having men as fitness pals.

Uerzer

Yup! i was denied by a female recently. She just didn't like to add guys. She said if she did she definitely would add me based on how sexy I am. Ok i made that last part up!

+1!! I get that message quite often!! Everyone LOVES pancakes!

chelekaz

I think that some ladies just might feel more comfortable being open about weight issues with other women. I do not think that it is an us against them deal.

mikeyml

I don't take it personally. There are a lot of different kinds of people on this website and I'm not going to get along with everyone. If someone wants to limit their friends list for whatever reason, that's their prerogative. Personally, I'm thankful for the little disclaimers people put on their profile. It tells me from the beginning whether they are worth my time or not.

Really? "Worth your time"?

Yep. I stay pretty busy and I when I have time to spend on MFP, I like to support my friends. If someone has some sort of exclusion policy on their profile page that includes me, why should I spend my time trying to befriend or support them? It doesn't make any sense to me. They do what they need to do, I do what I need to do.

JustEllieK

I accept both male and female friend request. But personally, i notice the guys here make more creepy comments to me. Only had a few creepy girl comments. And when a 50 year old dude is hitting on me, an 18 year old college student, i tend to shy away from male friend requests.

But i do have a lot of great male friends on my list that can give nice compliments without being creepy about it. I accept most friend requests and if they get to creepy i just delete them. I give everyone a chance:)

Its just some women's personal preference.

macpatti

I don't take it personally. There are a lot of different kinds of people on this website and I'm not going to get along with everyone. If someone wants to limit their friends list for whatever reason, that's their prerogative. Personally, I'm thankful for the little disclaimers people put on their profile. It tells me from the beginning whether they are worth my time or not.

Really? "Worth your time"?

Yep. I stay pretty busy and I when I have time to spend on MFP, I like to support my friends. If someone has some sort of exclusion policy on their profile page that includes me, why should I spend my time trying to befriend or support them? It doesn't make any sense to me. They do what they need to do, I do what I need to do.

Oh, I agree that by giving the disclaimer on their page, they save others time from sending a friend request. My point of contention is suggesting that they are not "worthy". Just sounded a bit arrogant. But, I get what you're saying.

horndave

Boys have cooties didn't you know that :noway:

LMAO.

ItsCasey

if your significant other is gna get jelous of friends of the opposite sex on a fitness website then shes got some real trust issues with herself/himself that they need to deal with.

Smh....

OR it COULD be that they are doing it out of respect for their significant other... maybe.

Exactly. The jealousy card is way overplayed around here. Sometimes I think it really is true that you are what you accuse other people of being.

rml_16

I put that under the same category as women who won't be friends with other women because we're "all" catty backstabbers and drama queens.

All women aren't catty backstabbers and drama queens? Good to know!

Shocking revelation, isn't it?

ItsCasey

If my boyfriend couldnt RESPECT that I have male friends then he wouldnt be my boyfriend. Lol.
I dont know why it would be a respect factor to have a friend of the opposite sex if there wasnt a trust issue.

There's a monumental difference between having male friends in real life whom your boyfriend knows all about and having male "friends" on the Internet whom he knows nothing about and whom YOU don't know much about yourself.

Uerzer

I accept most friend requests and if they get to creepy i just delete them. I give everyone a chance:)

That sounds good to me :bigsmile: (she hasn't deleted me yet )

stampede55

If my boyfriend couldnt RESPECT that I have male friends then he wouldnt be my boyfriend. Lol.
I dont know why it would be a respect factor to have a friend of the opposite sex if there wasnt a trust issue.

There's a monumental difference between having male friends in real life whom your boyfriend knows all about and having male "friends" on the Internet whom he knows nothing about and whom YOU don't know much about yourself.

Perfect explanation!

woou

Well, some women may also have progress pics posted on their page in their undies & may not feel comrfotable with men being able to see them.

that is a good point.

JustEllieK

I accept most friend requests and if they get to creepy i just delete them. I give everyone a chance:)

That sounds good to me :bigsmile: (she hasn't deleted me yet )

Haha key word....yet

iAMaPhoenix

Well, some women may also have progress pics posted on their page in their undies & may not feel comrfotable with men being able to see them.

that is a good point.

Not really...everyone knows anything posted on the internet is accessible by the whole world...Even Scarlet Johannsen knows this and she did not even post them online. Well, it has been an interesting topic and I think we all may have learned a thing or two. Heck, I even got a few FR out of it which means I will be making cuts tomorrow for my new awesome friends. Holla later.

Uerzer

Well, some women may also have progress pics posted on their page in their undies & may not feel comrfotable with men being able to see them.

that is a good point.

Not really...everyone knows anything posted on the internet is accessible by the whole world...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SGlrAhtQC24

_Timmeh_

I didn't realize interwebz friends of the opposite sex that could possibly be half way across the country on a fitness site where everyone uses a board name was such a big deal

SinIsIn

Maybe they are lasbians and prefer only the women folk?!



ooooor maybe they have jealous husbands/boyfriends?!?!? :huh:

lilRicki

I didn't realize interwebz friends of the opposite sex that could possibly be half way across the country on a fitness site where everyone uses a board name was such a big deal

neither did I, but I sure did read the ENTIRE thread :yawn:

krissagirl0709

if your significant other is gna get jelous of friends of the opposite sex on a fitness website then shes got some real trust issues with herself/himself that they need to deal with.

Smh....

Right..I dated my sons dad and lost so many of my guy friends because of his jealousy and threats..it really sucks now because I only have a couple good female friends the rest were male until his jealousy took over.. blahh..I need more friends now!!! I think female friends are awesome too I just dont meet enough or I have such a huge different lifestyle then females my age.. I miss my "male friends" I like a variety of friends =]