Picky 7 year old!
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My friend suggested buying like colored baby foods and adding them to what he eats and I am willing to do that.bossypants....
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really wow.. bossypants. havent heard that one before. Yeah I got helpful tips. I also got a lot of people telling me I am setting my child up for failure, making horrible choices, and making excuses. I, again, dont care if my son eats what he already eats, just wanted to add something healthy to what he eats. Grilled cheese and steamed veggies, or pepperoni pizza and fruit salad.
you could always try adding purees to the foods you do actually cook.This is an excellent book. http://www.amazon.com/Deceptively-Delicious-Simple-Secrets-Eating/dp/00612513480 -
figures....This is the last one I am replying too then I am done with everyone.0 -
Thank you! I have seen my son refuse to eat for a day and a half because I tried to keep him from eating what he liked. That resulted in him telling his school that I am refusing to feed him and me getting CPS called.
That's messed up how kids will retaliate like that. At 7? I still think it's a battle of the wills here. If he's going to pull THAT, then you aren't going to get him to eat things he doesn't like. Why? Well because he knows you won't go there.
If you try the hard core method again, I'd make sure to write a letter to the school before hand. Or try thiis on a friday so you have the weekend to battle.
Off Topic(sorry to hijack Op!) but we have a family friend, and her daughter made threats like that all the time when the mom wouldn't buy her the latest coach purse or w/e the hell her lil heart wanted that day.
Kids these days are very smart.. and it sounds like OP is doing the best she can with what she has. Plus schools have to investigate all matters of abuse, even if there was a letter, because it's the law.0 -
b00b0084. If you are angry because of some of the replies, why are you only replying to the negative posts?0
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This is just an example of "GENERATIONS OF BAD HABITS". Most of us are here to try to break that cycle.
Going back over the thread I realized that maybe it is the way the food is prepared. If you are not familiar with cooking techniques and ingredients, even adults won't like many foods. Example: Sauteed and roasted is always better than boiled or canned. Search online for healthy low cost recipes. See if you can just try something different 1 day a week.
I have been on MFP for over a year and have learned it takes work to break bad habits. You can do this. If you are serious about wanting to help your child and yourself It will take work on your part. But you have everything you need if you have a computer.
Search online. Don't ask anyone's opinion because you will get it. Good and Bad.
I found these websites I hope they are a start.
http://www.choosemyplate.gov/budget.html Is a government site with tips on eating right on a buget.
http://www.choosemyplate.gov/kids/kids_game.html Is a site where kids can enter what they eat, It's a game. Teaches them about healthy choices. My Grandson loves it. He's 10.
Good luck!:flowerforyou:0 -
Seriously? I am ashamed at some people on here. Calling names and making fun at peoples hard times. One day you will be in a situation that you NEVER planned on being in and how would you feel if someone kicked you while you were down. Sounds like some people really need to GROW UP. Wow.0
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Seriously? I am ashamed at some people on here. Calling names and making fun at peoples hard times. One day you will be in a situation that you NEVER planned on being in and how would you feel if someone kicked you while you were down. Sounds like some people really need to GROW UP. Wow.
Just about everyone falls on hard times at some point in their life. And while it totally sucks to be in that situation, the "poor me, I can't afford to buy healthy food" attitude just makes it worse. It's just an excuse not to get creative and actually think through your food buying process and how you can optimize nutrition for your family in your current situation.
Excuses are such a waste of valuable time and energy.0 -
That would not be a good food-stamp choice.... at all...
A jar of pureed baby food tends to run about .50 cents per 4oz jar
A 1# bag of fresh or frozen carrots, runs about $1.00 per 16oz bag. You SAVE $1.00 by purchasing fresh carrots and puree them on your own!
But you complained that you only have $200 or so a month for Food stamps? Its cheaper to purchase fresh and you get more for your food stamp allocation. But purchasing a 4 oz jar of baby food is the best idea you have? WOW!
Im not sorry to say this, but clearly you have painted a much bigger picture of yourself here.... Youre unwillingness to consider reality is just as bad as being the contributor to your child's poor eating habits. Yes, and with all due respect, because your child looks up to YOU and the things you do and dont do, the child will naturally follow suit. If you eat spaghettios, your child eats spaghettios.... why? Because you are making the purchases - purchases that are poor choices, they are quick and easy foods that all you have to do is reheat.... It requires extremely little effort and its a quick fix to keep your kid quiet from complaining and you avoid the battles...
So many of us gave you GREAT ideas for incorporating real healthy varieties of food, even on a food stamp budget that many of us acknowledged. But yet, you are so quick to say "Ill get a jar of baby food" - that is the worst idea I have ever heard - you will NEVER get this kid to actually deal with real foods by using baby food.
Until you can come to terms, and perhaps a massive reality check that you are definitely part of the problem with your child, you and your child will never learn to correct your mistakes... you will just keep making them because its either easier to use the bad foods to avoid a conflict you have created with your son, or its quick and easy and you just dont want to bother making an effort to actually make a real meal with real food.... Ive known people like you, always full of excuses.... I just sit back and let them air out their excuses and when they run out of air from talking.... I simply refuse to believe any of it because no matter what, thats all you are... full of excuses...
.50 cents for a jar of baby food vs. $1.00 for a 16oz bag of fresh or frozen carrots...... hmmmmmmm doesnt take an Accounting Degree to know what makes more financial sense when you are restricted on food stamps...
If you love your child and love yourself - you will stop purchasing JUNK FOOD like canned spaghettios, and actually make a real dish of pasta with marinara and add some vegetables to it.
Its time to get real, deal with reality here....
Im done with you- she doesnt want to be helped and doesnt want to deal with the fact she caused this for her and her son... the excuse of 'only have $200 food stamps per month' is a freakin' joke...0 -
Yeah, if you are going to put that info out there, at 486 posts, you should know that you are going to get some negative reactions. But seriously, who are we? We are no one or we are someone. It's you that chooses to make a particular post valid or not.0
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My friend suggested buying like colored baby foods and adding them to what he eats and I am willing to do that.bossypants....
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really wow.. bossypants. havent heard that one before. Yeah I got helpful tips. I also got a lot of people telling me I am setting my child up for failure, making horrible choices, and making excuses. I, again, dont care if my son eats what he already eats, just wanted to add something healthy to what he eats. Grilled cheese and steamed veggies, or pepperoni pizza and fruit salad.
you could always try adding purees to the foods you do actually cook.This is an excellent book. http://www.amazon.com/Deceptively-Delicious-Simple-Secrets-Eating/dp/0061251348
I think it's a great idea...and try a few jars and see if he even bats an eye....he probably wont. Then I'd buy fresh vegetables and puree them yourself, it'll save you a ton of money as baby food is costly.0 -
This is the last one I am replying too then I am done with everyone. I have $200 a month in FOOD STAMPS if you read that part. The internet is my fathers. McDonalds turned me away because I can not get day care for my son to work the hours they want. And "someone" is not always hiring people that can not drive. There are 5 places to work within walking distance, I interviewed with all 5 and was passed over. So I only make it to the store about 2x a month as well due to not driving, I have to depend on rides. I do not need help with healthy meals or cooking.I just wonder, how if you say you have no income, no job, you have $200 a month for food...how do you have the internet? Are you incapable of working? Go apply at Mcdonald's if you have to. SOMEONE is always hiring. The area I live in was hit HARD because of the economy and I know all the restaurants, fast food places, etc. still hire.
Is it just you and him? Because I was feeding a family of four off of a budget of $280/month. That includes a grown male, myself and my two children ages 7 and 8. This also included 10 lunches/week for them for school. That was a budget that I created for us because there's no need to spend a lot of money of food. I never once had a problem finding things to make and having left overs to get extra stuff.
If its just you and your son, that's $50 a week. That is plenty. Talk to your local grocery stores, they will tell you when they get produce in. On those days, they always have their older produce practically free, but you have to be there fairly early. I am assuming since you don't have a job you can go once your son in school. I buy this when I can and freeze what we won't eat that day or the day after.
Junk food is more expensive. Maybe you need help with healthy meals? Maybe you need help cooking? Google it.
Apparently 80% of the people reading this can not read. I did not ask to be put down or spoke down to. I asked for TIPS to add healthier food to what my son already will eat. Learn to answer what was asked or stop talking.
So, you have only $200 in food stamps..you have more money? Contribute more towards your groceries then! But, honestly you don't even have to. Hot dogs, spaghettios, pizza, etc aren't cheaper than food that's actually good for you. My first post to you WAS helpful. You are mostly responding to the negative things being said. You put all of your ignorance out for other people and you're going to get their opinion. You are angry because you aren't hearing what you want to hear. This is a PUBLIC forum, therefore anyone who wants to respond can. You asked for tips about feeding your son healthy food, yet you don't care that he eats junk? You need to stop supplying the junk and get him some real food.0 -
figures....This is the last one I am replying too then I am done with everyone.
My thoughts exactly!0 -
Did the OP want advice or sympathy? I can't tell.0
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So you are in my head now? You know if I really want help or not? I did not cause my son to be picky and you do not know if I did or not. Have you been living in my house for 7 years? Were you the one that fed my son his entire life? No you were not, so you have no idea what he was and was not offered to eat in his lifetime. You do not know why he is picky or why he chooses to eat what he eats. A year and a half ago he ate alot better. He life was ripped from under his feet a year and a half ago and he got picky with his eating, he because angry, he got violent, and he started shutting down. So do not for one second think that you know what I do and do not want with this post.Im done with you- she doesnt want to be helped and doesnt want to deal with the fact she caused this for her and her son... the excuse of 'only have $200 food stamps per month' is a freakin' joke...
Stop pretending like you know what I am looking for. I asked a specific question and have answered questions by others honestly. I am not hiding anything nor have I tried to hide the fact that I eat "junk". I am simply looking for ways to get my son to try different foods and get back to the way he was with his eating habits a year and a half ago. So get off your throne and either be helpful or be quiet.0 -
Seriously? I am ashamed at some people on here. Calling names and making fun at peoples hard times. One day you will be in a situation that you NEVER planned on being in and how would you feel if someone kicked you while you were down. Sounds like some people really need to GROW UP. Wow.
First off, I didn't see any name calling. I could have missed something, but pretty sure there was none of that...?
Who's to say none of us have been in hard times? Spaghettios are $1 or more per can. A box of spaghetti is $1, a jar of spaghetti sauce is as low as $1, that will provide more than one meal...and you're telling me eating healthier can't be done on a tight budget? JUNK FOOD is NOT cheaper than healthy food!0 -
Again. Why do you insist on replying to the posts that aren't accomplishing anything?0
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Just stop replying to the negative ones. Try the pureed food and some of the games and I am sure it will change in no time. Keep your head up missy. I'm here for you!0
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So. A year and a half ago he ate alot better. He life was ripped from under his feet a year and a half ago and he got picky with his eating, he because angry, he got violent, and he started shutting down. So do not for one second think that you know what I do and do not want with this post.
Stop pretending like you know what I am looking for. I asked a specific question and have answered questions by others honestly. I am not hiding anything nor have I tried to hide the fact that I eat "junk". I am simply looking for ways to get my son to try different foods and get back to the way he was with his eating habits a year and a half ago. So get off your throne and either be helpful or be quiet.
In your way of thinking, because your son gets mad, he gets to have his way....
he gets violent, he gets to have his way
....that means you are letting your son dictate how things will go, will happen and you have given him complete control just to appease him.
Instead of making lame excuses for yourself and your son, make results happen... you received TONS of helpful hints but had an excuse for just about every one of them. You are simply allowing yourself to find excuses to get out of the doing the obvious.
BE the parent - BE the adult in the house - Be the person who is in charge... stop letting your son have the power to manipulate YOU into keeping him non-violent and not angry by giving in and letting him have his way!
Baby food is nothing but another jar that all you have to do is open up and mix in a can of spaghettios... no effort. on your part other than to spend about 50 cents worth of your foodstamp allocation
Your son will never learn by giving him a jar of baby food mixed in his can of spaghetiios...and unfortunately he is literally leading by example....
good luck lady....0 -
So. A year and a half ago he ate alot better. He life was ripped from under his feet a year and a half ago and he got picky with his eating, he because angry, he got violent, and he started shutting down. So do not for one second think that you know what I do and do not want with this post.
Stop pretending like you know what I am looking for. I asked a specific question and have answered questions by others honestly. I am not hiding anything nor have I tried to hide the fact that I eat "junk". I am simply looking for ways to get my son to try different foods and get back to the way he was with his eating habits a year and a half ago. So get off your throne and either be helpful or be quiet.
In your way of thinking, because your son gets mad, he gets to have his way....
he gets violent, he gets to have his way
....that means you are letting your son dictate how things will go, will happen and you have given him complete control just to appease him.
Instead of making lame excuses for yourself and your son, make results happen... you received TONS of helpful hints but had an excuse for just about every one of them. You are simply allowing yourself to find excuses to get out of the doing the obvious.
BE the parent - BE the adult in the house - Be the person who is in charge... stop letting your son have the power to manipulate YOU into keeping him non-violent and not angry by giving in and letting him have his way!
Baby food is nothing but another jar that all you have to do is open up and mix in a can of spaghettios... no effort. on your part other than to spend about 50 cents worth of your foodstamp allocation
Your son will never learn by giving him a jar of baby food mixed in his can of spaghetiios...and unfortunately he is literally leading by example....
good luck lady....
It sounds to me like her son suffers from PARENTAL DEFICIENCY SYNDROME and that's about it!0 -
poor kid....It sounds to me like her son suffers from PARENTAL DEFICIENCY SYNDROME and that's about it!0 -
Just stop replying to the negative ones. Try the pureed food and some of the games and I am sure it will change in no time. Keep your head up missy. I'm here for you!
About the whole baby food crap. Seriously? Have you ever tasted it? LOL I'm sorry but I couldn't force that stuff down my kids' throats. If you absolutely feel that's the way to do it, buy the actual fruit/veggie and puree it yourself, it's much cheaper...even though I think it's a horrible idea and won't fix anything. You're tricking him into eating something good for him by not telling him its there, not teaching him that he should. Though why should he if his provider doesn't?0 -
So. A year and a half ago he ate alot better. He life was ripped from under his feet a year and a half ago and he got picky with his eating, he because angry, he got violent, and he started shutting down. So do not for one second think that you know what I do and do not want with this post.
Stop pretending like you know what I am looking for. I asked a specific question and have answered questions by others honestly. I am not hiding anything nor have I tried to hide the fact that I eat "junk". I am simply looking for ways to get my son to try different foods and get back to the way he was with his eating habits a year and a half ago. So get off your throne and either be helpful or be quiet.
In your way of thinking, because your son gets mad, he gets to have his way....
he gets violent, he gets to have his way
....that means you are letting your son dictate how things will go, will happen and you have given him complete control just to appease him.
Instead of making lame excuses for yourself and your son, make results happen... you received TONS of helpful hints but had an excuse for just about every one of them. You are simply allowing yourself to find excuses to get out of the doing the obvious.
BE the parent - BE the adult in the house - Be the person who is in charge... stop letting your son have the power to manipulate YOU into keeping him non-violent and not angry by giving in and letting him have his way!
Baby food is nothing but another jar that all you have to do is open up and mix in a can of spaghettios... no effort. on your part other than to spend about 50 cents worth of your foodstamp allocation
Your son will never learn by giving him a jar of baby food mixed in his can of spaghetiios...and unfortunately he is literally leading by example....
good luck lady....
It sounds to me like her son suffers from PARENTAL DEFICIENCY SYNDROME and that's about it!
I don't think that's an accurate characterization at all. In all likelihood, OP is a very loving and capable parent. She's in a difficult situation, and she's hearing a lot of advice that she doesn't agree with. For the most part it's solid advice, but we can't make her see that. That does not in any way mean she's a bad parent. I think you're taking it too far with that statement.
ETA: That said, I still agree that OP needs to take her child's nutrition more seriously and stop making excuses.0 -
So. A year and a half ago he ate alot better. He life was ripped from under his feet a year and a half ago and he got picky with his eating, he because angry, he got violent, and he started shutting down. So do not for one second think that you know what I do and do not want with this post.
Stop pretending like you know what I am looking for. I asked a specific question and have answered questions by others honestly. I am not hiding anything nor have I tried to hide the fact that I eat "junk". I am simply looking for ways to get my son to try different foods and get back to the way he was with his eating habits a year and a half ago. So get off your throne and either be helpful or be quiet.
In your way of thinking, because your son gets mad, he gets to have his way....
he gets violent, he gets to have his way
....that means you are letting your son dictate how things will go, will happen and you have given him complete control just to appease him.
Instead of making lame excuses for yourself and your son, make results happen... you received TONS of helpful hints but had an excuse for just about every one of them. You are simply allowing yourself to find excuses to get out of the doing the obvious.
BE the parent - BE the adult in the house - Be the person who is in charge... stop letting your son have the power to manipulate YOU into keeping him non-violent and not angry by giving in and letting him have his way!
Baby food is nothing but another jar that all you have to do is open up and mix in a can of spaghettios... no effort. on your part other than to spend about 50 cents worth of your foodstamp allocation
Your son will never learn by giving him a jar of baby food mixed in his can of spaghetiios...and unfortunately he is literally leading by example....
good luck lady....
It sounds to me like her son suffers from PARENTAL DEFICIENCY SYNDROME and that's about it!
I don't think that's an accurate characterization at all. In all likelihood, OP is a very loving and capable parent. She's in a difficult situation, and she's hearing a lot of advice that she doesn't agree with. For the most part it's solid advice, but we can't make her see that. That does not in any way mean she's a bad parent. I think you're taking it too far with that statement.
ETA: That said, I still agree that OP needs to take her child's nutrition more seriously and stop making excuses.
I'm not saying she's a bad parent necessarily, we don't know their daily life. Feeding your child out of pure convenience is lazy. Saying he will only eat pizza..make healthy pizza, not the kind that comes frozen and you throw in the oven. He'll eat spaghettios? Make spaghetti. Spam is just plain nasty. Laziness does not equal good parenting. Letting him control her decisions because he gets violent, throws tantrums, etc. and not doing anything about it, is bad parenting. Has he been tested for behavior problems? ADHD? Take him to someone that can help him. You can't say that you can't afford it because first off, public schools are obligated to provide certain things regarding that, secondly, you get food stamps so I can't imagine you don't receive medicaid.0 -
I was a horribly picky child. I don't know how my mother put up with me. Like a few others have said, try to get him involved in the cooking process. I remember one of my favorites as a kid was english muffin pizzas. You could buy whole wheat muffins, low fat mozzarella, tomato sauce, and a few healthy toppings (grilled chicken, ham, green peppers, tomato slices, etc) and have him help you put them together.
You could also try just renaming the foods when you give them to him. Just like McD's - they aren't apple sticks, they're "apple fries". It sounds way more appealing to a kid.0 -
Seriously? I am ashamed at some people on here. Calling names and making fun at peoples hard times. One day you will be in a situation that you NEVER planned on being in and how would you feel if someone kicked you while you were down. Sounds like some people really need to GROW UP. Wow.
I haven't seen a single post where someone is calling her a name or making fun of her, all of them have given advice on what they think would help her kid not be so picky. She clearly wasn't looking for advice, she was looking for someone to say "oh it's ok, as long as the kid is eating i wouldn't worry about it" or something along those lines.
I LOVE when people come on forums pretending to ask for advice and then go all bat **** crazy claiming everyone is just trying to put them down or whatever else when in reality the OP is always looking for a specific answer and then when they get the truth they don't like it so they go all gun-ho defensive and then a couple people chime in with their 'there there, internets people is mean!"
you are the ones who need to grow up.0 -
I did not post this just to be told "its ok at least he is eating" And not all of these posts had advice, a great deal of them were demeaning and bashing me as a parents. I got tips out of this that I will put into use. As a matter of fact we just got back from the store and got fruits and veggies. My son helped pick some out. But just because he helped pick them out does not mean he is going to try the,. To claim that you know what is going through my head or going on in my life are the ones that upset me. You do not know me or my situation. Just because you would do think differently does not mean that is the only way it can be done. And to the woman that said my son is suffering from "PARENTAL DEFICIENCY SYNDROME" up yours.Seriously? I am ashamed at some people on here. Calling names and making fun at peoples hard times. One day you will be in a situation that you NEVER planned on being in and how would you feel if someone kicked you while you were down. Sounds like some people really need to GROW UP. Wow.
I haven't seen a single post where someone is calling her a name or making fun of her, all of them have given advice on what they think would help her kid not be so picky. She clearly wasn't looking for advice, she was looking for someone to say "oh it's ok, as long as the kid is eating i wouldn't worry about it" or something along those lines.
I LOVE when people come on forums pretending to ask for advice and then go all bat **** crazy claiming everyone is just trying to put them down or whatever else when in reality the OP is always looking for a specific answer and then when they get the truth they don't like it so they go all gun-ho defensive and then a couple people chime in with their 'there there, internets people is mean!"
you are the ones who need to grow up.0 -
Again, you're only replying to the negative. The replies are what you make them. Good luck with your efforts though.0
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I have an almost 7 year old, and he too is very picky. But I'd say in the past year it has gotten better. I tell him that if he wants dessert, he first has to try something new to see if he likes it. If he doesn't like it, that is okay, but I want him to try it.
So I have been able to get him to try (and like!) marinated grilled chicken; sauteed pork in a beef sauce; chicken parmesan; hummus; broccoli with light ranch dip; carrot "chips" with light ranch dip; and a few other things that are escaping me right now. So my advice would be to ask him to please try something new, something you think he will like. If he refuses, he refuses, but I tell my son I want him to try these things before he gets to have dessert. Good luck!0 -
I just got him to try pinapple, he likes pinapple juice, but did not like actual pinapple.0
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Then I would say today was a success! Tomorrow give him more pineapple juice and ask him to try the pineapple again. Supposedly you have to try something 3 times before you like it. Or (and this probably won't be popular) dry the pineapple off and dip it in melted chocolate or another fruit dip and see if he likes it that way!0
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