Indian Culture Weight SHAME!

Crowhorse

I'm not Indian but I am a minority and sorry to take the focus off you chick-a-dee but I'm more offended that you're pin pointing a specific race and culture for this offense. People tell people they're fat all the time. or stupid. or ugly. Sorry that person just happened to not be white. Would have been less offensive then?

Since everyone is busy being offended, I'm offended by this post.

This was a round about way of calling her a racist because she happens to be white. What does that say about yourself and how you view anybody that's white?

I'm sorry that the original poster was white. Maybe she should try to dye her skin to satisfy you.

Would her post be less offensive to you if she wasn't white?

That beind said, it was a CULTURAL question.

Cultural upbringing has a BIG influence on how people react to other people, and in different situations. What might be considered rude in one cultural, can be completely acceptable in another.

While human nature is the same if you strip away all the cultural trappings, once you start adding those in, it starts molding how you will approach life.

Don't rip on someone because they are asking questions. It's an opportunity to learn and grow.

Or, you can make accusations, implied or blunt, and halt that learning process in it's tracks.

ninerbuff

Being overweight isn't really an issue in Asia. So don't be offended if anyone say "you're fat". It's just something they aren't used to and aren't afraid to tell you.

patience842003

How many lbs is a stone?

patience842003

That's great! I know some Italians who are pretty outspoken as well, but they make the most INCREDIBLE food and homemade spaghettis!!!

1prettysmile

Hey patience842003,

I can't speak for the Indian culture, however I've noticed in my experience that people from countries other than America do not think calling someone "fat" is offensive. I think we as Americans have just gotten use to sugar-coating it with words like, "overweight, heavy, big-boned, plump, etc." I had a Nigerian guy look at a picture of my sister and I and say, "You are fatter than your sister." I was shocked, but this person actually liked me and was just making an observation.

One day I was walking to the metro station with a group of co-workers and a guy that appeared to be Somalian yelled to me, "Fat, Black American women are beautiful!" with a huge smile on his face. Double whammy!!! LOL But what can you do? You just have to let it go.

igora_soma

How many lbs is a stone?

14 pounds

Ni_La82

It wasn't meant to be offensive. I get it too.

SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage

I'm not Indian but I am a minority and sorry to take the focus off you chick-a-dee but I'm more offended that you're pin pointing a specific race and culture for this offense. People tell people they're fat all the time. or stupid. or ugly. Sorry that person just happened to not be white. Would have been less offensive then?

Since everyone is busy being offended, I'm offended by this post.

This was a round about way of calling her a racist because she happens to be white. What does that say about yourself and how you view anybody that's white?

I'm sorry that the original poster was white. Maybe she should try to dye her skin to satisfy you.

Would her post be less offensive to you if she wasn't white?

That beind said, it was a CULTURAL question.

Cultural upbringing has a BIG influence on how people react to other people, and in different situations. What might be considered rude in one cultural, can be completely acceptable in another.

While human nature is the same if you strip away all the cultural trappings, once you start adding those in, it starts molding how you will approach life.

Don't rip on someone because they are asking questions. It's an opportunity to learn and grow.

Or, you can make accusations, implied or blunt, and halt that learning process in it's tracks.

^^ this

jiagetsfit

I'm sorry you had to face that. But we indians tell it like it is. I'm overweight and i always have uncles and aunties (not mine) telling me to lose weight. They don't even know you, but they make it their business to lecture you about the hazards of weight gain. Same goes when you are skinny. When i'm partying i don't want people telling me to watch what i eat. I usually just display a bored look look during those lectures and they take the hint and leave. If i say something, it will be disrespectful. Please remember this during your interactions with Indians. We mean no harm, just showing concern the way we know.

hookilau

I am Indian and I'm quite offended that you think it's the culture! Has it not occurred to you that it may just be his family?

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:laugh: that made me giggle!

hookilau

I'm sorry you had to face that. But we indians tell it like it is. I'm overweight and i always have uncles and aunties (not mine) telling me to lose weight. They don't even know you, but they make it their business to lecture you about the hazards of weight gain. Same goes when you are skinny. When i'm partying i don't want people telling me to watch what i eat. I usually just display a bored look look during those lectures and they take the hint and leave. If i say something, it will be disrespectful. Please remember this during your interactions with Indians. We mean no harm, just showing concern the way we know.

OMG yess! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

angela233Z

I am married to a man from India, and to my dismay most of the Indian culture (or those I have met) are really quite frank and forthright.

Yes you did make a generalization from the subset of Indian people you have met. That is racist

TiffieLand

Asians are the worst of it. Seriously! Even Strangers find it alright to shame someone for their weight. People just do it and almost nobody ever frown upon that , to say something to defend. Even if they're right, it doesn't make it alright to say it.

949BeachMom

Indian men that ive dated have been very blunt.