Does Anyone Get Annoyed...

Dexy_

Does anyone get annoyed when you see really skinny people on here?

I am NOT talking about people that are completing their weight loss journey (kudos to you!).

I am NOT talking about people that are recovering from eating disorders (good on you for getting help!).

I am NOT talking about people who are just looking to maintain their current healthy weight.

I am talking about people who are slim, always been slim, SERIOUSLY don't need to lose a pound or worry about maintaining weight and yet they are still on here, complaining about not being able to lose 5kgs. Especially when losing another 5kgs would put them even further into the underweight range.

ARRRGH!

/end rant

greeeek

I'm not annoyed by them, just insanely jealous! We all have our insecurities.

Dexy_

Oh I'm not trying to deny I'm jealous! Although it does annoy me that these women are so close to making themselves sick, especially because most of them don't grasp the seriousness of being dangerously underweight.

mandag9008

i wouldnt say annoyed, rather worried. If you are small or petite and feel the need to loose more weight it makes me think you may have a body issue or a mental insecurity. I hope that anyone who is going thru any issues or insecurities recieved the help they need. Having a nice body doesnt make you beautiful you make your self beautiful by the things you do and say. well good karma to you all!

Contrarian

Not really, because it isn't up to me to decide what anyone else should look like or feel like.

megz4987

No. This is my FITNESS pal. Not necessarily only weightloss.

Dexy_

Okay point proven, no one else doesn't like seeing underweight people complaining about being overweight.

Dexy_

No. This is my FITNESS pal. Not necessarily only weightloss.

So being dangerously underweight and wanting to lose more weight is part of "fitness" now?

reese66

And we know they been skinny all their lives how?

The site is for fitness, to gain and lose weight right?

A lot of people track their fitness on here so of they are fit more power to them!!!

Beezil

I get annoyed by judgmental folks. >.> Just cause someone is skinny and always has been surely doesn't mean they are healthy.

SkateboardFi

No. This is my FITNESS pal. Not necessarily only weightloss.

So being dangerously underweight and wanting to lose more weight is part of "fitness" now?

i'm fairly certain this is not what she said...at all.

LiL_MisS_C

I'm saddened by the women that are Pro-Ana on here...but that's about it.

kristinathenina

I do get annoyed at them because I know just how hard I have to work to lose anything at all. Now, I have gotten my fiance on MFP, he is 6'3 and weighs in at 155 right after eating a big meal, soaking wet, and clothed. I got him on here because he was just diagnosed at hypoglycemic and needs to keep an eye on what/when he eats. But his sister is the exact same body type and it just makes me irritated that no matter what I do, I will NEVER be that skinny

TDGee

No. I don't see the point in being jealous because someone is in better shape than I am. I don't know their story, it may be terrible. Not everything is perfect just because the outer packaging is immaculate.

BondBomb

Okay point proven, no one else doesn't like seeing underweight people complaining about being overweight.

That wasn't your initial question.

Rain_Howard

There are many people on here who are either already suffering from an eating disorder or dangerously close to developing one. Body dis-morphia also seems quite prevalent. But if they want to starve themselves, that is entirely up to them, I just choose to ignore them.

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RunLiftEat

I am not annoyed because I am here to do my thing, and encourage the people I choose to have on my friends list. People can do whatever they want.

Fatchickslim

You get that in everyday life not just on here and yes it annoys me, some little size 8 whinging about how fat her thighs are, BUT that person obviously has some self image issues and like another poster said this is My Fitness Pal and I would hope that we can all learn about wellbeing and health and be positivly influenced.
I know that in the past I have been very judgemental of people and that is my problem not theirs but I'm working on that, then I can't get annoyed about things that shouldn't concern me and be supportive instead!
If someone is not happy in their own skin and they come here to change that I would hope that they can find positive support if it's someone wanting to lose 5kg or 150kgs. :flowerforyou:

auntiebabs

Worried, Sad, frustrated,

That they are wasting time and energy obsessing over a losing couple of pounds which would endanger their health.

Instead of using that energy loving themselves and living a fabulous life doing fabulous things, learning fabulous things,and just being fabulous.

Your body should be SUBJECT not OBJECT.

Your value is NOT as ornament or status object...
If you happen to look great what a wonderful bonus, but your body is a vehicle that has to get you through the rest of your life (no trade-ins). You to take care of yourself so you can have a strong body so that you will be CAPABLE and able to DO everything that you want it to DO whether... Swimming, hiking, mowing the lawn, kayaking, rocking it in the sack, dancing, rock climbing, swinging your kids around, skiing, scuba diving, bicycling, climb trees.... whatever you want to do.

You need a healthy body to serve you, don't be a slave to how other perceive you because you'll never meet everyone's expectations.

Iamfit4life

No
I don't know what their issues are or why they are on here, and it's not my place to judge.

I will say that this place has probably helped a lot of people have a lot healthier of habits, including myself.

To be "annoyed" by such a person just seems a little wrong.
Try to remember that next time. People are on here for all sorts of reasons trying to get healthier. It doesn't always mean losing weight.

StevLL

I think if someone wants to use the site and is supportive and inspiring they should be on here no matter their size. I believe I can learn from them and be supported by them too, so its all good.

Beezil

Worried, Sad, frustrated,

That they are wasting time and energy obsessing over a losing couple of pounds which would endanger their health.

Instead of using that energy loving themselves and living a fabulous life doing fabulous things, learning fabulous things,and just being fabulous.

Your body should be SUBJECT not OBJECT.

Your value is NOT as ornament or status object...
If you happen to look great what a wonderful bonus, but your body is a vehicle that has to get you through the rest of your life (no trade-ins). You to take care of yourself so you can have a strong body so that you will be CAPABLE and able to DO everything that you want it to DO whether... Swimming, hiking, mowing the lawn, kayaking, rocking it in the sack, dancing, rock climbing, swinging your kids around, skiing, scuba diving, bicycling, climb trees.... whatever you want to do.

You need a healthy body to serve you, don't be a slave to how other perceive you because you'll never meet everyone's expectations.

Well said. :flowerforyou:

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cschu544

Well, look at it this way. You saying you're annoyed by skinnier folks on MFP is equally as bad as the skinny folks posting something about how they're annoyed by all the fat people. Do you know what kind of reaction that would ensue? That person would be in for a world of angry messages.

The point I'm trying to make is, you can never judge a book by it's cover... or condemn someone for trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Mannnny women and men suffer from bodydismorphic disorder--which is what you see in the mirror, and what really exists are two very different things. A lot of what we do here, and in the weight-loss world, is strictly psychological. Mind over matter. The only thing you should be concerned with is YOUR health and weight loss. If others seem like they are moving in the wrong direction, try to help them, don't get annoyed.

For many of us this is our first time trying to get back in shape. And don't forget, just because you may be "skinny" doesn't mean you are in shape (which is what one of the previous posts was eluding to). A "skinny" person could have just as many health problems as a "fat" person, which, might I add is a label. People have names, they shouldn't be grouped into these stereotypical groups like "fat" and "skinny" and "cute" and "ugly". That's the first problem, and if we work to stop it here-- we will be able to carry it into our lives and start practicing what we preach.

My point is just, don't get annoyed-- help the people that need help, and if they don't want it, then it is no longer your issue as their MFP friend. We're all here to support, motivate, and inspire one another... posts and blogs that are negative like this just don't do anyone any good. When I'm annoyed with someone, I simply delete them-- that;s all you have to do.

Good luck

Dragn77

To answer the question, no I dont get annoyed when I see really skinny people on here, or anywhere for that matter.

How someone looks and how much they weigh just isn't something I get annoyed by.

heykatieben

Hmm... I'll comment from the other side. I'm a size 4 (in part bc I have small hips), and have a healthy BMI (though just above mid-range normal) and muscle - wonder if I'm the kind of person you're talking about. I wonder if people get annoyed when I talk about wanting to lose weight, though in real life, the majority of the time the friend I'm talking with wants to lose weight, too, and seems to be relieved that it isn't just her. I think there are very few people in this country - even the healthy-weight ones - that don't wish to be in better shape of some kind.

I don't think I have an eating disorder, but I have very slowly gained weight since college and I'd like to get in better shape to see my abs, feel more confident in a bikini, and be able to run a 5K in under 30 minutes. I'd also like to work on healthy habits now, so that that slow weight increase doesn't continue and bite me ten years from now. I'm really thankful for the body I already have, though I'm so close to a body I'd be even more proud of - so why not truly go for it?

I also really like MFP because it helps me with my emotions - logging my calories encourages me to deal with my emotions directly rather than to eat because of them... which helps me with other areas in life, in general. It also encourages me to be healthy in general... when health isn't a priority for me, I start drinking enough Diet Coke that my stomach hurts the next morning from it, and that's no good... healthy BMI or not.

Plus, knowing that I can do this one thing would give me more confidence for accomplishing other goals in my life.

I really love MFP. I think healthy habits - eating and exercise - and a community to support that and make that more possible - is a key area that, when mastered, just really improves everything in my life all-around. Thanks, MFP!

Elizabeth_C34

Quite frankly, after traveling to Europe an other parts of the world who are not dealing with an obesity epidemic of the same magnitude as the US, I've realized that Americans have a strange view of what is a "healthy" weight. We are so used to seeing people who are overweight that we think people who are healthy weight are "too thin." Not saying this is what is going on with the OP, but just making a related remark.

servilia

Quite frankly, after traveling to Europe an other parts of the world who are not dealing with an obesity epidemic of the same magnitude as the US, I've realized that Americans have a strange view of what is a "healthy" weight. We are so used to seeing people who are overweight that we think people who are healthy weight are "too thin." Not saying this is what is going on with the OP, but just making a related remark.

This is so true.

PetitePerfection

No. I don't see the point in being jealous because someone is in better shape than I am. I don't know their story, it may be terrible. Not everything is perfect just because the outer packaging is immaculate.

exactly!!

toniRAD

The only time I get annoyed with people saying it is when they know they look good but say they don't/they need to lose more weight just for attention. >< (Referring to SOME people, not everyone.)