No Sex Drive

astarte09

So lately, I have been feeling soo sexy and amazing. Last night my boyfriend finally said he could really see a difference. He has ALWAYS said I was sexy, and was turned on by me. Lately though, I am not interested. I have absolutely no desire for anything sexual.. Is this normal??? :ohwell:

astarte09

So lately, I have been feeling soo sexy and amazing. Last night my boyfriend finally said he could really see a difference. He has ALWAYS said I was sexy, and was turned on by me. Lately though, I am not interested. I have absolutely no desire for anything sexual.. Is this normal??? :ohwell:

hmo4

Here here. How old are you? My poor hubby....need i say more. There's only so many headaches, TOM, and stomach aches you can have. He's on to me , I know it!

astarte09

Im only 23!!! Ill be 24 next month! My boyfriend keeps thinking it is HIM, but it isnt. He is the sexiest thing I have ever seen! I just dont know what I can do to want it again:blushing:

hmo4

Are you stressed? You're too young for that!! I'm 41 so I've had a long run already at ...you know. Maybe it's just a little phase?:huh:

Mangoaddict

There can be phases like that in a relationship. It's normal. However, keep an eye out for it. You don't want to go too prolonged. Try watch a sexy flick/romantic movie. That always works!

little_wolfie

I'm going through the same thing and I'm 22. no advice, just wanted to tell you you're not alone!

astarte09

I am sure hoping so. I am ALWAYS stressed..ahahha.. I work 40 hours, and take 18 credits this semester;...plus still work out.. Before, I didnt always want it, but once it happened, I liked it. Lately, nothing...

Poison5119

What kind of bc are you using? Certain forms of bc sometimes lower the libido, especially if its a sudden onset.

Me, I give up. Menopause, I'm convinced, destroys sex drive.

astarte09

I'm going through the same thing and I'm 22. no advice, just wanted to tell you you're not alone!

:laugh: Thats good to hear.,, I have still been giving it to him, for him.

And im on the Nuvaring..I have been on it for 2 or 3 years, and have never had this problem.. Isnt there a tea or something? hahaha

PunkinHeadsMOMMA

So define "lately". I know I go through spurts of "don't even think about it buddy". And also times of can't get enough. I think that's natural (your bodies hormone production). If it's not a coming and going kind of thing, then maybe you should think about going to see your gyno. They are there for more than just the yearly pap. They know a bunch more about hormone levels and the inner workings of the female body than sometimes we as women do.

hmo4

My husband has this fallacy that we are supposed to be at our peak sex drive at this age. God knows where these rumors start. EVERYONE I know feels the same at this age. Get a porn movie, that might do it...

astarte09

Thats what I told him last night. Its only been like for a week. Not too long...but he gets so upset when I tell him no! I am hoping this passes within the next week...Its just odd that I am not enjoying it when we are doing it! That has never happened before.

hmo4

That's nothing. Probably hormonal.

armywife

I'm going through the same thing. My husband came home from overseas in October and I've put on 15 pounds, so I blame that, and my girlie parts were in hybernation for 15 months and haven't quite come out of it. Poor guy, he tries, but I'm just not into sex. I love me some snuggle time though.

magichatter06

I think, personally for me it has been the BC...ortho tri cyclen lo (sp?) I mean before that, I was pretty excitable & now it's like...pft :yawn:

lol

astarte09

Maybe Ill hit one of those "stores" and get some stuff...Maybe I will feel into it if I can find some lingerie that looks great on me!!

Porn does nothing for me... This is Vegas, I grew up seeing that stuff.. Stupid Vegas! tainted me! :laugh:

msarro

Agreed. My girl isn't always the friskiest... but thats what porn and strip clubs are for
lol

havingitall

Me, I give up. Menopause, I'm convinced, destroys sex drive.

Glad it hasn't for me!

hmo4

Guys don't really like to snuggle without getting it first-that's why I love my dog so much-no expectations. This is really the only thing we fight about. Unfortunately, he has a very high sex drive and mine has faded away. I'm on meds that take it away though. He still doesn't get it though, that I can't help it. Guys think that if you don't put out, you don't love them. How much more reassurring do they need? I wash his underwear and watch his various sport's highlights for God sake!:laugh:

astarte09

I think, personally for me it has been the BC...ortho tri cyclen lo (sp?) I mean before that, I was pretty excitable & now it's like...pft :yawn:

lol

I was on that when I was younger.. It didnt change anything..But ive been on this forever and at first I was crazy, but now, I love it. I cant see that being it all of a sudden

JamieArmbruster

I think it is pretty normal to go through phases like this. You are a busy lady! You go to work, school, workout! I went through that when I was in nursing school and working full time and trying to keep the house going, sometimes I was just tired and not in the mood! My trick is to do something for myself to make myself in the mood, take a hot bath, light some candles, put on something sexy... this way it was on my terms not my hubby's. Good luck!

Phoenix_Rising

Sometimes it's just due to routine, in my opinion.
When life gets routine and boring, so does sex.

Maybe a vacay would help, even a day trip? A romp in the woods or somewhere a little more risky?

Or maybe you are just exhausted and value sleep time more than sex time, lol.

astarte09

Guys don't really like to snuggle without getting it first-that's why I love my dog so much-no expectations. This is really the only thing we fight about. Unfortunately, he has a very high sex drive and mine has faded away. I'm on meds that take it away though. He still doesn't get it though, that I can't help it. Guys think that if you don't put out, you don't love them. How much more reassurring do they need? I wash his underwear and watch his various sport's highlights for God sake!:laugh:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...EXACTLY!!! hahahahahahahahahah

magichatter06

I think, personally for me it has been the BC...ortho tri cyclen lo (sp?) I mean before that, I was pretty excitable & now it's like...pft :yawn:

lol

I was on that when I was younger.. It didnt change anything..But ive been on this forever and at first I was crazy, but now, I love it. I cant see that being it all of a sudden

Yeah you're probably right... I guess each woman's makeup is different!

astarte09

Sometimes it's just due to routine, in my opinion.
When life gets routine and boring, so does sex.

Maybe a vacay would help, even a day trip? A romp in the woods or somewhere a little more risky?

Or maybe you are just exhausted and value sleep time more than sex time, lol.

I really value my sleep.. Plus I have a 3.5 year old step daughter..Im just tired...

hmo4

Sometimes it's just due to routine, in my opinion.
When life gets routine and boring, so does sex.

Maybe a vacay would help, even a day trip? A romp in the woods or somewhere a little more risky?

Or maybe you are just exhausted and value sleep time more than sex time, lol.

I totally believe it. My hubby makes me feel like it's another duty or chore. I've been on vacay, still doesn't help. I don't know what to do either. I even had my hormones tested. And I really enjoy it when we are together, I just don't want to. Best 5 min of my life actually:laugh: :laugh: Just kidding-God he'd KILL me if he knew I was saying that. It's at least 7 or 8!:laugh: jk again.:laugh: :laugh:

Shannon023

I tend to run either hot or cold too. :embarassed:

I think hormones play a large part in our libido. A "little" (subjective :laugh: ) red wine doesn't hurt to get me in the mood either. :bigsmile:

Shannon023

Sometimes it's just due to routine, in my opinion.
When life gets routine and boring, so does sex.

Maybe a vacay would help, even a day trip? A romp in the woods or somewhere a little more risky?

Or maybe you are just exhausted and value sleep time more than sex time, lol.

I totally believe it. My hubby makes me feel like it's another duty or chore. I've been on vacay, still doesn't help. I don't know what to do either. I even had my hormones tested. And I really enjoy it when we are together, I just don't want to. Best 5 min of my life actually:laugh: :laugh: Just kidding-God he'd KILL me if he knew I was saying that. It's at least 7 or 8!:laugh: jk again.:laugh: :laugh:

:laugh: :laugh: You're cracking me up.

I know there are times too after I've been at work, then came home made dinner, helped with homework, etc..that I want a little "me" time when da kid's asleep. Sex sometimes feels like another thing that has to be done. :indifferent:

hmo4

My husband ALWAYS mawls me after a few beers after hockey. He stinks like a brewery, and thinks he's Don Juan. :laugh: Let me sleep. He asked me too have on some lingerie on for when he got home last night. Ummmm, no. I'm cold, tired and have no desire. I'll get the lotion.:laugh: :laugh: jk

MFS27

Thats what I told him last night. Its only been like for a week. Not too long...but he gets so upset when I tell him no! I am hoping this passes within the next week...Its just odd that I am not enjoying it when we are doing it! That has never happened before.

A week isn't that long - EVERY month I go through phases:

Week 1: Warm
Week 2: Hot!
Week 3: Warm
Week 4: TOM - hands off
Week 5: Freezing Cold - Don't Even Think About It Buddy

And the cycle repearts.
Like clockwork - hubby jokes he can set his watch to my "womanly cycle", lol.

Maybe a little bit of info about hormones, etc. will help your BF see that it isn't YOU or HIM. It's natural to have ebbs and flows of desire.