Anyone with travelling spouse?

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  • ackeebee
    ackeebee Posts: 1,042 Member
    I am the traveling spouse. You spelled, traveling wrong, btw.

    actually both spellings are acceptable!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    All right. Enough.

    My point was 100% ignored and a whole bunch of you attacked me for it.

    Stop the name calling (to me). Stop accusing me of 'douching' on this post. Stop telling me how in YOUR country the word was not spelled wrong.

    I pointed out that there's technology out there to make sure you do not spell things wrong (online). Firefox is free.

    Seriously, people? Every single one of you that lashed out at me was completely rude. I simply said I'm sick and tired of people spelling things wrong on this website. I know it's easy to do. We are not all perfect.

    Each and every one of you that was rude to me on here can just jump in a lake. I was being helpful to the poster in my first post. I spoke from experience because I'm married and I travel for work.

    Your first post in this thread was jumping on the OP for her spelling. I wasn't rude to you at all. I merely pointed out that the word in question can be spelled both ways, and neither way is wrong.

    The only person being rude here is you. Now, please stop making this thread about you and your hurt feelings.

    The OP is coping with a difficult situation, and your efforts to derail this thread are becoming tiresome.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    Seriously, people? Every single one of you that lashed out at me was completely rude. I simply said I'm sick and tired of people spelling things wrong on this website. I know it's easy to do. We are not all perfect.
    My mother always taught me to pick my battles.

    Is it worth pointing out to the OP? What might be gained? In this case, nothing worthwhile.
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    I pointed out that there's technology out there to make sure you do not spell things wrong (online). Firefox is free. I simply said I'm sick and tired of people spelling things wrong on this website.

    Please just admit you didn't need to correct anyone's spelling, and that doing so was rude. If you're so sick and tired of people spelling things wrong on this website, stick to your own wall. We all make mistakes (as you did with grammar), so I suspect you'll see it again.

    To the OP~ I hope you're finding the support you need from others in the same situation. I think surrounding yourself with good friends, neighbors, family, etc is great.
  • Onesnap
    Onesnap Posts: 2,819 Member
    I'm not trying to derail the thread.

    Okay, my second post was offering advice.

    Someone quoted me in an earlier post talking about rude people on MFP. Sadly, that person's post about rude people has been peppered with completely rude responses. Just another example of people wasting time on the forums and being horrible to each other.

    I hope each of you has a lovely Thanksgiving if you celebrate.

    For those of you that picked a fight with me that honesty think I was hurt or offended I was not. This is a serious topic, and I wish each of you would drop this fight and just try to help the OP.
  • anzabeth
    anzabeth Posts: 45
    Settle down! :smile: Just trying to point out that we all make mistakes. If you are going to nitpick others' posts, you should be ready to accept the fact that any errors you make are fair game!
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    Ahem....to get back to the point....
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    As a Navy wife, I know exactly how you feel. At times, the only thing that's kept me from losing my mind is exercise. Sweating it out is a great way to get your endorphines (sorry if that's misspelled...sigh) going and release your frustrations! The key is to keep yourself busy. Take your child for a walk or go to a park. Or find a hobby just for you. Hang in there. It does take a lot of strength to live this way but you can do it. :smile:
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    I Googled "coping with traveling spouse" and was surprised at how many tips there are out there. I would think that searching for advice for military spouses would be valuable as well.

    Keep your chin up! :flowerforyou:
  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    Yes. It gets easier (for you) but harder for the kids as they get older. Which means it gets harder for you, pretty much. :-)

    Support and respite are the only tips I can offer. Some YMCAs offer free child care with membership, so you can continue to work out (great for your mood) and get some quiet time in your head. It's pretty affordable, and you can meet other people to build your network.

    Good luck to you, and your family.
  • Laceylala
    Laceylala Posts: 3,094 Member
    I'm the traveling spouse - working in the mining industry as well as it happens. We have a five year old daughter and it is definitely hard on my husband when I am gone. Especially if I travel more than once in a three month period - I will have traveled four times in a five month span by January so he is definitely feeling the stress. We have to have either a family member or someone come in because my husband goes to work at 3am, so they have to take our daughter to school...having that extra person in the house is both a help and a hinderance.

    Some of the things we do to help lessen the load is to make sure that we cook a bunch of easy to make dinners that can either be microwaved or put in the oven while they are doing their nightly bath and showers, etc. So at the very least the meals issue is taken care of as easily and as quickly as possible.
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