Spouse Influence

Minnesnowtagurl

My husband can be a bit non supportive at times as well, but then he realized I was leaving him in my dust. He has returned back to being more supportive since then.

The worst part are the people I work with sometimes. Often comments fly around..."Oh you're on a diet" blah blah... That gets annoying. Espeicaly when they are individuals who have not had experiances with battling the buldge, EVER.

Don't forget what is most important and that is yourself. My saying is "No one is going to lose the weight for you." As simple as that statement is, it is completely true. People can talk about your weight loss efforts in a negative manner, but at the end of the day you are the one that has to live with your choices.

fatty2fit88

my friends call my bf my 'bad eating enabler' because he always brings crap over and force feeds me when I try to eat healthy. He strongly believes in salad not being a 'meal' which I partly believe too. but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do right?? self control is the only thing that helps.

years ago when I got super fat, we would make oven chips and eat that with mayo and ketchup for the craic

AmythistRae

My husband and my kids have jumped on board full force..but especially Brian, he goes to the pool and works out with me every day and he eats only what i eat...He loves it....My daughter is the same and my kids who do not live at home eat what we eat on family supper and would never do anything to alter that...If your spouse understands you and why you need to do this then he or she has a job to do and that job is support.....it isn't about them it is about you...Your job is to make sure they are secure and their job is to support....anything else is too much of a imbalance..

KatFierce

My husband loooves his takeout and pizza, loves chips and dip and is completely addicted to soda, always saying at the end of the night how he "wants something good and dessert-y". My husband deff helped me pack on the pounds ( yes I choose to eat it, but him cooking junky foods was a huge factor in my weight gain). I was a vegetarian who ate pretty clean before we moved in together I got pregnant with our first son and became a meat eater again to help with my sever pregnancy induced anemia. My husband trys to give me a break by cooking and it was always hamburger helper, canned peas with a ton of butter and salt on them, crescent rolls, and juice, that to him was a healthy meal.
Now I have taken charge of my eating, we order pizza on pay day ( 2 thursdays a month) and I only have one or two slices and some salad or veggies no breadsticks or chicken wings . Yes having him eating poorly is hard to deal with sometimes but he has gotten alot better and I have gotten much better at resisting temptation

softsculptor

Yeah, I've gained about 10 lbs. I think it was partly due to having and active job, and working 60 hours a week, and then suddenly becoming a student, which is quite sedentary. The other part is that my boyfriend, who I moved in with, has very different eating habits. I used to eat omelets every night. Now, it is different. He makes pastries, ice cream, and makes me feel guilty if I don't eat them, "You don't like it?"

Anyway, he is French so he puts cream and butter in everything. He puts coconut milk in the carrot puree... sautees the figs in butter and sugar...never-ending. Olive oil in the tartar. Basically, he finds ways to add calories to almost everything we cook. Plus he eats later than I do in the evening. I am starving around 6 and he won't eat until 9, and so I ended up snacking on top of dinner.

I just had to put my foot down with the diet. He bought be a pastry, I refuse to eat it. He wants to put olive oil in the tartar, I remind him over and over again not to. Most of the time, I'm cooking, so I have control, but when he cooks, I don't eat it unless I know exactly what is going into the meal.

So yeah, I concur with a lot of the comments on here: it is about taking control, accepting you have different eating habits, and putting your foot down!

shazzahare

My hubby and kids been great. Hubby does all the cooking and has lost half a stone himself. My eldest son comes swimming with me, all good, great support .

softsculptor

Boyfriend is not supportive or happy about me trying to be healthy. He is like the opposite of a vegetarian, he has to have some kind of meat with every meal, unless it is a the big bag of doritos and humous snack . But he has started to change a bit this year because he put on weight after quitting smoking)
Plus he is unhappy I want to log my foods, he also complains I spend too much time exercising. I told him my goal is to look a bit athletic (lower bodyfat a few %) but he seems to think I'm going to become anorexic.

I would explain to him exactly what being anorexic is and how that is different from watching what you eat. This anorexia-phobia thing pisses me off so much! I hate it when men accuse you of being anorexic if you are watching what you eat, and getting your full daily calorie intake. Grrr!

Stacivogue

I have the same problem with a competitive spouse. The minute I started working out and trying to lose my pregnancy weight he started doing P90x, eating protein bars and getting really, really ripped. Meanwhile I'm just trying to get back to my regular wardrobe. Now he's joined a group which wants to be like the guys in "300." It drives me crazy.

moose9591

I am very lucky to have a wonderful wife who introduced me to Myfitnesspal and we are taking this journey together. Nothing like a having a team effort. Wish you all well who struggle with their partners. Remember this site offers support through it's members.