who's more shallow.....

NeedANewFocus

guys or girls?

koosdel

Me.

Is there a prize?

i_love_vinegar

I think it depends on the individual.

Although, from my observations, women are typically more conscious when they are being shallow; men are often subconsciously shallow. ^.^

Carl01

Being shallow is not gender based,it is an individual thing and splits pretty evenly across the sexes.

karinaes

i am shallow. people say that looks don't matter when it comes to dating.. well, it matters to me!

umachanxo

I cannot possibly categorize every single man and woman into one group and say whether or not one is more shallow than the other. People have different traits and personalities and therefore some would be more shallow than others. You can't possibly come to a conclusion that one gender is more shallow than the other solely based on nothing other than, "guys or girls."

screwtop_gangsta

Definitely your mom

NeedANewFocus

Definitely your mom

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

NeedANewFocus

i am shallow. people say that looks don't matter when it comes to dating.. well, it matters to me!

thank you for your honesty!

jetscreaminagain

The more I read the forums the more sad I feel for humanity.

But to the question, my answer would be any person who reinterprets kind if graceless gestures of caring as sabotage. That sort of person wins the prize. Perhaps even besting the kind of person who would pose the question in the first place.

NeedANewFocus

I cannot possibly categorize every single man and woman into one group and say whether or not one is more shallow than the other. People have different traits and personalities and therefore some would be more shallow than others. You can't possibly come to a conclusion that one gender is more shallow than the other solely based on nothing other than, "guys or girls."

Very well said!

Leek11

Could be a guy or a girl, because you have those girls that are all like 'my perfect man would look like...' then you've got the girls that are like 'it's all about personality' then you have the guys that like the natural girls, and then the guys that call most girls 'dogs' etc, so really, i'd say that it was about even.

NeedANewFocus

I think it depends on the individual.

Although, from my observations, women are typically more conscious when they are being shallow; men are often subconsciously shallow. ^.^

that's intersting. is that to say that woman are knowingly shallow versus men don't realize when they are?

warmachinejt

I am very shallow and my quest to be aesthetic and get the body of a greek statue certainly doesn't help. I judge myself the most though and sometimes it turns me down -_-
actually i am not sure if bodybuilding has something to do with being shallow....cause we always gotta be checking our body and find faults...

calalily77

Id say its about even for both Genders. There is really no way of knowing for sure as everyone has different traits. I think everyone is to a certain degree. If you can honestly say you aren't shallow at all, I congratulate you. I'm not proud to admit it, but I know I am a bit shallow sometimes.

Rae6503

I'd say generally men.

bflicker11

Great question! I've met a lot of shallow men but I am shallow to a degree as well. I am told by my parents over and over that I'll grow to find someone attractive. That's not how it works for me. I'm drawn in by someone's looks and how they carry themselves FIRST. I've met a lot of awesome guys but if I'm not into their looks, it's not gonna happen. I judge myself as well, very harshly I might add.

PBJunky

Lust = Yes
Finding a soulmate = not so much, I've dated on both sides and found the average looking woman to be lot better partners...

complete_tease

I think everyone can be shallow. People that claim differently just don't want to admit it.

adjones5

People of both genders can be shallow as ****.

Indy_Mario

I think people got it for the most part. I think that being "shallow" is entirely related to one's mental maturity level, what sort of relationship they are looking for, and their self-esteem.

I actually know a few people who's entire mission in life is to get the "hot" guy (or girl) to make themselves feel better by being able to say/brag that they got the best human specimen they could land their eyes on.

But, I mostly know people who have found true happiness by being with someone not superficially beautiful, but intellectually, emotionally and physically (the whole package) their match.

Ultimately, beauty is not only superficial, but specific to the eye of the beholder! I would never turn down anyone based on looks alone, but I am interested more in "thicker" women (think size 12-18) than sizes 0-4.

servilia

It always depends on the individual.

But what do you mean by "shallow" anyways.. I don't think there's anything wrong with caring about how you look or caring how your partner looks.

screwtop_gangsta

I think people got it for the most part. I think that being "shallow" is entirely related to one's mental maturity level, what sort of relationship they are looking for, and their self-esteem.

I actually know a few people who's entire mission in life is to get the "hot" guy (or girl) to make themselves feel better by being able to say/brag that they got the best human specimen they could land their eyes on.

But, I mostly know people who have found true happiness by being with someone not superficially beautiful, but intellectually, emotionally and physically (the whole package) their match.

Ultimately, beauty is not only superficial, but specific to the eye of the beholder! I would never turn down anyone based on looks alone, but I am interested more in "thicker" women (think size 12-18) than sizes 0-4.

^^This!


Indy_Mario, you are so dreamy! :flowerforyou: :smooched: :blushing:

Lift_hard_eat_big

Shallowness knows no gender boundary, both genders have individuals who are shallow, and both genders have individuals who are completely focused on inner beauty and are non-superficial seeking.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

I'm not shallow when it comes to looks on other people. But here's a list of shallow reasons I won't date somebody
-poorly dressed (this doesn't just mean poor people, I'm poor and I dress fine. it's not that you have to look great, just make sure your clothes are visibly clean and they match)
-Eats with mouth open
-Doesn't sound intellectual when they speak
-Listens to bad music
-Looks like they don't take good care of their hair (I don't really mind any color or texture of hair, just as long as you make it look like you take care of it)
-Didn't go to college/finish high school
-Likes Twilight
-Has a Southern Accent (just not my thing)
-Uses the word "seen" incorrectly (example, "I seen a snake when I went outside")
-Is afraid of snakes or rats
-Wears his little sisters' jeans (please, dear God no.)
-Is super religious (I'm Christian, but I can't stand people who are super religious. I don't mind dating outside of my religion either.)

I'm also shallow when it comes to my looks. I almost never leave the house without straightening my hair, and I definitely won't leave if I haven't showered in a day.

californiansun

I think it's equal, I think men say it more than women so they get the bad rep. I have a lot of guy friends and all of them are shallow. I have a few girlfriends, one is extremely shallow (must be buff, etc) and the others aren't so much. They are more about personality than looks. I am not extremely shallow, but I want someone with good hygiene and isn't 500 pounds.

Beastette

Are we talking about shallow as it applies to looks? If I assume that's what the OP means, then everyone is. Because there are evolutionary reasons why people are attracted to other people with certain physical characteristics. We are all wired that way, at least at the start of a relationship.

Is the assumption that the word "shallow" only applies to looks a bit...shallow? :laugh:

I'll tell you that "handsome" pretty much never hurts. However, the more time I spend with someone, the more my perception of their appearance changes based on their personality. A witty, creative, and loyal guy/girl becomes more and more beautiful to me over time.

NeedANewFocus

It always depends on the individual.

But what do you mean by "shallow" anyways.. I don't think there's anything wrong with caring about how you look or caring how your partner looks.

that's a good follow up question. how would you define "shallow"?

NeedANewFocus

everyone has such great insights on this! :happy:

Is the assumption that the word "shallow" only applies to looks a bit...shallow? :laugh:

way to think outside the box..... lol

tmarie2715

People of both genders can be shallow as ****.

Seconded. I used to think that guys were so much more likely to cheat than women, but after working as a cocktail waitress and just being in college I soon learned women are just as likely...

I guess I am saying that lesson taught me not to believe sterotypical gender roles.

SassyCalyGirl

I'm not shallow when it comes to looks on other people. But here's a list of shallow reasons I won't date somebody
-poorly dressed (this doesn't just mean poor people, I'm poor and I dress fine. it's not that you have to look great, just make sure your clothes are visibly clean and they match)
-Eats with mouth open
-Doesn't sound intellectual when they speak
-Listens to bad music
-Looks like they don't take good care of their hair (I don't really mind any color or texture of hair, just as long as you make it look like you take care of it)
-Didn't go to college/finish high school
-Likes Twilight
-Has a Southern Accent (just not my thing)
-Uses the word "seen" incorrectly (example, "I seen a snake when I went outside")
-Is afraid of snakes or rats
-Wears his little sisters' jeans (please, dear God no.)
-Is super religious (I'm Christian, but I can't stand people who are super religious. I don't mind dating outside of my religion either.)

I'm also shallow when it comes to my looks. I almost never leave the house without straightening my hair, and I definitely won't leave if I haven't showered in a day.

are you suggesting that there are days you don't shower??? LOL