who's more shallow.....

tmarie2715

I'm not shallow when it comes to looks on other people. But here's a list of shallow reasons I won't date somebody
-poorly dressed (this doesn't just mean poor people, I'm poor and I dress fine. it's not that you have to look great, just make sure your clothes are visibly clean and they match)
-Eats with mouth open
-Doesn't sound intellectual when they speak
-Listens to bad music
-Looks like they don't take good care of their hair (I don't really mind any color or texture of hair, just as long as you make it look like you take care of it)
-Didn't go to college/finish high school
-Likes Twilight
-Has a Southern Accent (just not my thing)
-Uses the word "seen" incorrectly (example, "I seen a snake when I went outside")
-Is afraid of snakes or rats
-Wears his little sisters' jeans (please, dear God no.)
-Is super religious (I'm Christian, but I can't stand people who are super religious. I don't mind dating outside of my religion either.)

I'm also shallow when it comes to my looks. I almost never leave the house without straightening my hair, and I definitely won't leave if I haven't showered in a day.

Second liking Twilight. Yuck!

gumigal82

Both men and women can be extremely shallow--and conversely both sexes have those who are not. Depends on the person. I tend to believe that most women know if they are shallow while most of the shallow men don't...or they choose not to acknowledge it;)

I am not shallow....just a perfectionist/ my own worst critic! Guess that makes me vain?

elimendoza31

I think people got it for the most part. I think that being "shallow" is entirely related to one's mental maturity level, what sort of relationship they are looking for, and their self-esteem.

I actually know a few people who's entire mission in life is to get the "hot" guy (or girl) to make themselves feel better by being able to say/brag that they got the best human specimen they could land their eyes on.

But, I mostly know people who have found true happiness by being with someone not superficially beautiful, but intellectually, emotionally and physically (the whole package) their match.

Ultimately, beauty is not only superficial, but specific to the eye of the beholder! I would never turn down anyone based on looks alone, but I am interested more in "thicker" women (think size 12-18) than sizes 0-4.

VERY WELL SAID!!! :flowerforyou:

Football_N_Guns

It's pretty equal across the board.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

I'm not shallow when it comes to looks on other people. But here's a list of shallow reasons I won't date somebody
-poorly dressed (this doesn't just mean poor people, I'm poor and I dress fine. it's not that you have to look great, just make sure your clothes are visibly clean and they match)
-Eats with mouth open
-Doesn't sound intellectual when they speak
-Listens to bad music
-Looks like they don't take good care of their hair (I don't really mind any color or texture of hair, just as long as you make it look like you take care of it)
-Didn't go to college/finish high school
-Likes Twilight
-Has a Southern Accent (just not my thing)
-Uses the word "seen" incorrectly (example, "I seen a snake when I went outside")
-Is afraid of snakes or rats
-Wears his little sisters' jeans (please, dear God no.)
-Is super religious (I'm Christian, but I can't stand people who are super religious. I don't mind dating outside of my religion either.)

I'm also shallow when it comes to my looks. I almost never leave the house without straightening my hair, and I definitely won't leave if I haven't showered in a day.

are you suggesting that there are days you don't shower??? LOL

I usually shower every day, but I might skip a day if I feel like *kitten*. Like when I have the flu and I feel like I'm going to puke just because I stood up, I don't want to shower that day cuz the heat makes it worse. And, when those days come, I refuse to leave the house, which is probably a good thing anyway.

SassyCalyGirl

I'm not shallow when it comes to looks on other people. But here's a list of shallow reasons I won't date somebody
-poorly dressed (this doesn't just mean poor people, I'm poor and I dress fine. it's not that you have to look great, just make sure your clothes are visibly clean and they match)
-Eats with mouth open
-Doesn't sound intellectual when they speak
-Listens to bad music
-Looks like they don't take good care of their hair (I don't really mind any color or texture of hair, just as long as you make it look like you take care of it)
-Didn't go to college/finish high school
-Likes Twilight
-Has a Southern Accent (just not my thing)
-Uses the word "seen" incorrectly (example, "I seen a snake when I went outside")
-Is afraid of snakes or rats
-Wears his little sisters' jeans (please, dear God no.)
-Is super religious (I'm Christian, but I can't stand people who are super religious. I don't mind dating outside of my religion either.)

I'm also shallow when it comes to my looks. I almost never leave the house without straightening my hair, and I definitely won't leave if I haven't showered in a day.

are you suggesting that there are days you don't shower??? LOL

I usually shower every day, but I might skip a day if I feel like *kitten*. Like when I have the flu and I feel like I'm going to puke just because I stood up, I don't want to shower that day cuz the heat makes it worse. And, when those days come, I refuse to leave the house, which is probably a good thing anyway.

I was just messin with you.:flowerforyou:

servilia

It always depends on the individual.

But what do you mean by "shallow" anyways.. I don't think there's anything wrong with caring about how you look or caring how your partner looks.

that's a good follow up question. how would you define "shallow"?

I could be wrong when it comes to the dictionary definition, but when I decide whether someone is shallow, it's usually when someone disregards a person's personality and values and focuses only and exclusively on external factors, such as the quality of a person's clothes, their looks or their family's social/wealth status in making judgments about people and their interaction with these people. I don't think it's shallow to consider looks important in a partner, because the physical aspect has to be there, but to be with someone only because of these external factors, or to refuse to befriend someone based on these factors, is shallow IMO.

Bonita_Lynne_58

Being shallow is not gender based,it is an individual thing and splits pretty evenly across the sexes.

^^^^This! I hesitate to generalize. But if I wanted to argue just for the sake of argument or to aggravate my husband, I'd say men. Though seriously I don't think it's based on gender at all.

karinaes

It always depends on the individual.

But what do you mean by "shallow" anyways.. I don't think there's anything wrong with caring about how you look or caring how your partner looks.

that's a good follow up question. how would you define "shallow"?

I could be wrong when it comes to the dictionary definition, but when I decide whether someone is shallow, it's usually when someone disregards a person's personality and values and focuses only and exclusively on external factors, such as the quality of a person's clothes, their looks or their family's social/wealth status in making judgments about people and their interaction with these people. I don't think it's shallow to consider looks important in a partner, because the physical aspect has to be there, but to be with someone only because of these external factors, or to refuse to befriend someone based on these factors, is shallow IMO.

well said. i definitely wouldn't date someone if i didn't find them physically attractive...
but, i also wouldn't date a total dud simply because he was way gorgeous "/
with that said.. my bf is extremely handsome and he studies Civil Engineering (as do I ! ) and has a great personality yay me! and yay him! hehehehe