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KenziesMomma11

i literally look in the mirror or at photos (very rare they are) and i think "wow, youre ugly"

i see lots of others on this site that are overweight, but they are beautiful.

i think that if i were pretty being overweight wouldnt depress me this much.

am i nuts?

AZackery

You are not ugly. Don't compare yourself to others.

KenziesMomma11

You are not ugly. Don't compare yourself to others.

easier said than done...

Dave198lbs

you aint ugly...Ive seen ugly...and you aint ugly

WillieEverlearn

Yes, you are nuts, because you're not ugly.

jesscaponigro

I feel the same way all the time. But looking at your picture, you are not ugly at all!! I used to think getting thinner would make me feel pretty, but I realized that is not going to change it. So I started looking at the features that I know are beautiful, like my eyes, everyone always compliments me on them, so when I look in the mirror, and I think "Ugh I'm hideous" I focus on my eyes, and then I'm more like, "wow, I'm lucky to have such pretty blue eyes". It's hard to convince yourself of something you have stuck in your head. But you might be surprised how many people think you are beautiful and they are hideous! Try focusing on something that you think is beautiful about yourself when you look in the mirror. It's very easy to point out all of your own flaws and even harder to find the ones that really are perfect about you!

AmandaJoi25

You should never say that about yourself. You are who you are and you should love the way you look because there is only one of you. Don't think about what the standard of beauty is, everyone is beautiful in there own way.

KenziesMomma11

you aint ugly...Ive seen ugly...and you aint ugly

this made me crack up...thank you lol

KenziesMomma11

I feel the same way all the time. But looking at your picture, you are not ugly at all!! I used to think getting thinner would make me feel pretty, but I realized that is not going to change it. So I started looking at the features that I know are beautiful, like my eyes, everyone always compliments me on them, so when I look in the mirror, and I think "Ugh I'm hideous" I focus on my eyes, and then I'm more like, "wow, I'm lucky to have such pretty blue eyes". It's hard to convince yourself of something you have stuck in your head. But you might be surprised how many people think you are beautiful and they are hideous! Try focusing on something that you think is beautiful about yourself when you look in the mirror. It's very easy to point out all of your own flaws and even harder to find the ones that really are perfect about you!

honestly can't find a thing i like lol

jesscaponigro

Really take a look. You have beautiful hair, start there. Focus on that for the next week. Really it works, just try it.

KenziesMomma11

Really take a look. You have beautiful hair, start there. Focus on that for the next week. Really it works, just try it.

this also cracks me up...i was just complaining to my Husband about how awful my hair looks! i was a blonde before the baby, and really think it looks better on me...brightens up my face

GeneaCindy

#1 - you are not ugly
#2 - someone who was ugly could not have produced a baby that cute
#3 - be careful what you tell yourself - change the tape! If you want that beautiful baby to grow up with a healthy self-image, you have to be careful what you tell yourself - it might imprint.
#4 - I know it is a cliche, but seriously, beauty comes from the inside. You are lovable! You are worth it!
#5 - TOM check? Hormones out of whack? If you can't shake it after a couple of days, see your doctor.

Hang in there!

TheFitHooker

First and foremost you aren't ugly, I know that us telling you that won't change what you think you see in the mirror. But you aren't, I've seen much worse.

Now I'm just now recently starting to feel some what pretty, but it's more of a "Oh there has to be a pretty person in there." My self esteem has been low since I've been over weight / obese. I always have a hard time accepting complements, I'm working on it. It's easy to say "Thanks" but to truly to accept it, is hard. I find that the more my self esteem boosts, the easier it is becoming.

Beauty is more then skin deep, but you have a really beautiful face.

KenziesMomma11

First and foremost you aren't ugly, I know that us telling you that won't change what you think you see in the mirror. But you aren't, I've seen much worse.

Now I'm just now recently starting to feel some what pretty, but it's more of a "Oh there has to be a pretty person in there." My self esteem has been low since I've been over weight / obese. I always have a hard time accepting complements, I'm working on it. It's easy to say "Thanks" but to truly to accept it, is hard. I find that the more my self esteem boosts, the easier it is becoming.

Beauty is more then skin deep, but you have a really beautiful face.

Thank you.

I have a very hard time with complements as well. I actually get aggitated when my Husband calls and says "hey sexy lady" or something else like that....its weird huh LOL

jesscaponigro

Really take a look. You have beautiful hair, start there. Focus on that for the next week. Really it works, just try it.

this also cracks me up...i was just complaining to my Husband about how awful my hair looks! i was a blonde before the baby, and really think it looks better on me...brightens up my face

Well you can always change your hair color back to blonde! If that's what makes you happy do it! I think no matter what you are told you have it stuck in your head that you are not pretty. Try having an open mind and seriously find something on you that you find attractive, or better yet, ask your husband what he thinks is beautiful on your face!

KenziesMomma11

#1 - you are not ugly
#2 - someone who was ugly could not have produced a baby that cute
#3 - be careful what you tell yourself - change the tape! If you want that beautiful baby to grow up with a healthy self-image, you have to be careful what you tell yourself - it might imprint.
#4 - I know it is a cliche, but seriously, beauty comes from the inside. You are lovable! You are worth it!
#5 - TOM check? Hormones out of whack? If you can't shake it after a couple of days, see your doctor.

Hang in there!

You are 100% right. Its just so damn hard to see past the weight. I feel like my face looks like lumpy icecream...if that even makes sense. my eyeballs are just kinda mooshed in there and my nose is huge! ROFLOL

Dont get me wrong, I am married with a baby...somebody thinks I'm beautiful, but I feel like I carry weight EXTRA badly.

mznisaelaine

Like everyone else above said, your not ugly. Your really beautiful. Just tell yourself that everyday

KenziesMomma11

Really take a look. You have beautiful hair, start there. Focus on that for the next week. Really it works, just try it.

this also cracks me up...i was just complaining to my Husband about how awful my hair looks! i was a blonde before the baby, and really think it looks better on me...brightens up my face

Well you can always change your hair color back to blonde! If that's what makes you happy do it! I think no matter what you are told you have it stuck in your head that you are not pretty. Try having an open mind and seriously find something on you that you find attractive, or better yet, ask your husband what he thinks is beautiful on your face!

Finances are tight with little one and the woman I was sitting for has decided to quit her job and move to Atlanta...but my Husband okayed me getting my hair highlighted next week, before we travel to IL for Christmas with his family.

I could never ask my Husband that question, I'm too chicken. What if he paused?!?!!!

KenziesMomma11

Like everyone else above said, your not ugly. Your really beautiful. Just tell yourself that everyday

thank you, i'm trying.

i also havent gotten showered, dressed, hair done, and makeup on too often since my daughter was born in march...so i think that plays into it a little bit.....also our area is full of DONE UP stay at home moms...so even in the grocery store i feel akward

kmbrooks15

#1 - you are not ugly
#2 - someone who was ugly could not have produced a baby that cute
#3 - be careful what you tell yourself - change the tape! If you want that beautiful baby to grow up with a healthy self-image, you have to be careful what you tell yourself - it might imprint.
#4 - I know it is a cliche, but seriously, beauty comes from the inside. You are lovable! You are worth it!
#5 - TOM check? Hormones out of whack? If you can't shake it after a couple of days, see your doctor.

Hang in there!

You are 100% right. Its just so damn hard to see past the weight. I feel like my face looks like lumpy icecream...if that even makes sense. my eyeballs are just kinda mooshed in there and my nose is huge! ROFLOL

Dont get me wrong, I am married with a baby...somebody thinks I'm beautiful, but I feel like I carry weight EXTRA badly.

The good thing is that as you lose weight, it will likely show first in your face.

You have very nice hair, but if you feel you look better blonde, get it colored again. You could set that as a reward for making your first mini-goal! You need to reward yourself as you go along, and you want to avoid food rewards. Getting your hair colored would be a good first reward. My first will be a mani/pedi; I hit my goal this week, but I'm requiring that I maintain it for a week before I go (doggone scales like to play tricks on me and go up and down a bit!). Think of something else that makes you feel beautiful and set that as your second mini-goal reward.

I also agree with the poster who said that someone ugly could not produce such a beautiful baby...she is adorable, and so is her mama!

MaraDiaz

Okay, I checked out your photos, and when you don't smile you look bewildered and unhappy. Not pretty. When you smile, you glow and you look like a really sweet person. Very pretty.

Not saying paste a smile on 24/7, cause you know what? It's not your job to look pretty all the time. Unless you're getting paid for it, in which case, smile away.

You have a lovely skin tone, I like your hair color personally, but if you don't, you could always dye it, either permanent or a wash out dye, your choice. You're also bright-eyed and despite being overweight, you give the impression of being healthy and energetic. Well, you'd have to be, to keep up with your baby plus babysitting!

Are you a six foot tall supermodel? Er, no. Most of us aren't. If we were, guess what? Supermodels wouldn't make any money, they'd be a dime a dozen. I hear that industry is tough enough without added competition. Leave them to their starvation-induced surprise fainting sessions (ever seen Project Runway outtakes?) and wish them luck, they need it so they can make enough money to offset the health problems that come with their line of work.


Also, look at your husband objectively. Chances are, he's not going to be making it onto the cover of GQ, either. Why? Because most men, like most women, don't look like that. Lucky for male models! Even if he is one of the very few who could make it in modeling, so what? Do you think he's only going to love you if you look airbrushed all the time? If so, what do you want him for? Sounds exhausting!

I'm not saying beauty doesn't make life easier, because it can. I'm not saying I've never looked in the mirror and cursed my body because it's never been the perfect height, weight, and proportions, because I have. But it never changed anything, it never did me a bit of good. I could have just concentrated on getting in shape the healthy way and spent my energy on something else instead of on looking in the mirror and wishing I'd picked the right freak of nature parents for those perfect beauty genes.

teresastrowz46

look at your baby...do you think your baby is ugly?

because your baby looks EXACTLY like you. and both of you are beautiful. i am being 100% genuine when i say you are so beautiful. your post was titled ugly...i looked at your picture and thought, huh?? this girl better not think she's ugly. and i started reading and was shocked. i know it's hard to see what others see but please hear me when i say YOU ARE NOT ugly. listen to your husband when he calls you sexy lady. and listen to all of us...this many people wouldn't lie! keep your chin up...tell yourself everyday you are beautiful!!!!!!!!

going2befit

You're not even close to being ugly. You're very pretty, and will just get even prettier as you continue to lose weight.

nmerley

I am a stay at home mom and know what u mean by not gettin done up. I run a childcare also so very seldom do u c me with make up on or dressed up. Half the time my hair is in a pony, no make up, and lounge clothes. I finally got the attitude of screw what others think as long as Im happy in my life that is all that matters. Heck half the time I wear my slippers to the store...LOL I use to feel like u but I started lookin at other things in my life and honestly found I was truely blessed. Chin up it will only get better. Look at the positive not the negative

KenziesMomma11

Okay, I checked out your photos, and when you don't smile you look bewildered and unhappy. Not pretty. When you smile, you glow and you look like a really sweet person. Very pretty.

Not saying paste a smile on 24/7, cause you know what? It's not your job to look pretty all the time. Unless you're getting paid for it, in which case, smile away.

You have a lovely skin tone, I like your hair color personally, but if you don't, you could always dye it, either permanent or a wash out dye, your choice. You're also bright-eyed and despite being overweight, you give the impression of being healthy and energetic. Well, you'd have to be, to keep up with your baby plus babysitting!

Are you a six foot tall supermodel? Er, no. Most of us aren't. If we were, guess what? Supermodels wouldn't make any money, they'd be a dime a dozen. I hear that industry is tough enough without added competition. Leave them to their starvation-induced surprise fainting sessions (ever seen Project Runway outtakes?) and wish them luck, they need it so they can make enough money to offset the health problems that come with their line of work.


Also, look at your husband objectively. Chances are, he's not going to be making it onto the cover of GQ, either. Why? Because most men, like most women, don't look like that. Lucky for male models! Even if he is one of the very few who could make it in modeling, so what? Do you think he's only going to love you if you look airbrushed all the time? If so, what do you want him for? Sounds exhausting!

I'm not saying beauty doesn't make life easier, because it can. I'm not saying I've never looked in the mirror and cursed my body because it's never been the perfect height, weight, and proportions, because I have. But it never changed anything, it never did me a bit of good. I could have just concentrated on getting in shape the healthy way and spent my energy on something else instead of on looking in the mirror and wishing I'd picked the right freak of nature parents for those perfect beauty genes.

you are very well spoken, and thank you!

my husband does happen to be ridiculously handsome...i had our wedding photo in my office when i was an MA before my daughter was born and not a single woman entered my office without commenting on handsome he was....sorta made me wanna barf lol

i know its clearly unhealthy to think these things about myself....but its 100% what i think, i dont know how to change it...i try..

KenziesMomma11

I am a stay at home mom and know what u mean by not gettin done up. I run a childcare also so very seldom do u c me with make up on or dressed up. Half the time my hair is in a pony, no make up, and lounge clothes. I finally got the attitude of screw what others think as long as Im happy in my life that is all that matters. Heck half the time I wear my slippers to the store...LOL I use to feel like u but I started lookin at other things in my life and honestly found I was truely blessed. Chin up it will only get better. Look at the positive not the negative

i was babysitting and also love the lounge clothes....no use in getting done up when youll for sure be pooped on, peed on, sneezed on, food thrown on....

i also love the slippers to the store...i wear faux-crocks

Iamfit4life

You aren't ugly at all. However we all get those feelings. Dress up from time to time. Slap a little make up on.
When I stayed at home with my kids doing those things made a huge difference.

You are a mother and a wife. However in all of this you need to keep your identity. You need to have more confidence in order to be the mother and wife you want to be.

KenziesMomma11

You aren't ugly at all. However we all get those feelings. Dress up from time to time. Slap a little make up on.
When I stayed at home with my kids doing those things made a huge difference.

You are a mother and a wife. However in all of this you need to keep your identity. You need to have more confidence in order to be the mother and wife you want to be.

i fully agree, i just dont know where i went? if you see me...send me back pls

Iamfit4life

You aren't ugly at all. However we all get those feelings. Dress up from time to time. Slap a little make up on.
When I stayed at home with my kids doing those things made a huge difference.

You are a mother and a wife. However in all of this you need to keep your identity. You need to have more confidence in order to be the mother and wife you want to be.

i fully agree, i just dont know where i went? if you see me...send me back pls

Your child is very young, and you are still there. Right now a lot of your life is about nurturing them. Do you have girlfriends? Can you get out for a girls night out?
Ask your husband for even a few hours a week to even just go shopping by yourself, or running. Whatever. You need to spend a little of time for YOU.

krystico

Are you nuts? Yes - you're a beautiful woman! If you learn to 'love yourself' as you are RIGHT NOW, making changes (physically, emotionally, etc...) will come easy. Think positive darlin', and good things will come your way!

tattooedtwiin

#1 - you are not ugly
#2 - someone who was ugly could not have produced a baby that cute
#3 - be careful what you tell yourself - change the tape! If you want that beautiful baby to grow up with a healthy self-image, you have to be careful what you tell yourself - it might imprint.
#4 - I know it is a cliche, but seriously, beauty comes from the inside. You are lovable! You are worth it!
#5 - TOM check? Hormones out of whack? If you can't shake it after a couple of days, see your doctor.

Hang in there!

Well said, and AGREE! You are NOT ugly. :noway: