am I crazy? or is he?

stcar

These two kids on my street walk their pair of mastifs down the street and onto the main rd. The kids get yanked all over. My kids stay in the yard due to these dogs and the fact im paranoid.

Or your just a good mom.:flowerforyou:

mastiffs are scary, yes. we have a puggle.

LosingWeight2012

Thankyou. I dont know how to send a flower smiley on my nook but back at you.

stcar

I think it's a fair request to ask. Plus, if the dog is protective, it can benefit the child, no matter the age. I am assuming a good age because not many parents let their 5 year old's walk around the block. Unless you are in a very VERY good neighborhood. I don't think you should stress it. You are right, parents can't be "friends". That's why my generation and ones younger than me are becoming so completely worthless. Parents haven't been doing their jobs as PARENTS. I see every day a case of a mom smoking pot with her 17 year old daughter. WHAT PARENT DOES THAT?!

exactly, parents ask you to do something, kids roll there eyes or sigh or whatever, then they should do what they're told...like we all did when we were growing up. he's 11 and it's a good neighborhood. the way I see it, is once he's raised to be responsible and kind and gets a roof of his own over his head, then we can be friends. until then, its my job to parent him.

LosingWeight2012

Those are so cute. Big dogs scare me. I sound like such a victem tonight but i was attacked by a doberman pincher when i was 9. Reflecting on my childhood is scary lol. Im not trying to bring you guys down. As far as your ex goes he might be jealous. He wants to break your rules to try to make you feel weak. You know hes probably bitter that he lost someone as pretty as you

stcar

Those are so cute. Big dogs scare me. I sound like such a victem tonight but i was attacked by a doberman pincher when i was 9. Reflecting on my childhood is scary lol. Im not trying to bring you guys down. As far as your ex goes he might be jealous. He wants to break your rules to try to make you feel weak. You know hes probably bitter that he lost someone as pretty as you

thank you that's sweet and I'm very sorry to hear about everything that you went through as a child!

LTGPSA

Yes.

LOL

LTGPSA

Next time, make him carry the 50lb bag of bricks so he can compare.

Nice

fionarama

depends on the age of the kid. I don't go for the My Way or the HIghway school of parenting, I feel its otherwise known as bullying. Whose dog is it? Who wants to have a dog? Is the boy keen on the dog anyway?
Maybe he doesnt' even like the dog.

LTGPSA

If your son is properly trained and responsible enough to be trusted to walk the dog - then I don't see an issue here (as far as you asking him to take the dog with him). It's a win-win, the dog needs a walk and your son is then not alone. The situation with your ex is likely a small piece of the big picture of why you are no longer together. Parenting between couples needs to be of a united front....said the lady who chose not to have kids. Point being, no you are not crazy. Kids need responsibilities during their growing up period IMHO. Hang in there Mom and don't let the ex's antics get to you. :flowerforyou:

Amy911Gray

It's funny how these stories bring back all the anger and bad feelings 14 years later...He's overriding your authority. Best to get rules straight in the beginning, otherwise, it gets worse...trust me on that!

Adina81

Maybe he didn't want the dog ending up at his house?!

I am trying to be the 'devils advocate' here because my brain can't seem to find logic. There is always two sides to a story; we only have one.

yager8725

a family works together!!! An older gentlemen once told me "no workie, no eatie" lol

ARDuBaie

I would ask my children to take out the garbage on the way to the ex's car. He would complain, but it was my home and I made the rules. Garbage was one of their chores. If the chore is something that they are routinely assigned, and I assume that your son was assigned from time to time to walk the dog, then they should do it. Funny it is the ex that's complaining, not the child.

dia77

Yes.

NOOOOOOO!

rml_16

Sounds like the ex is looking for a reason to fight with you.

fit4mom

If your son is properly trained and responsible enough to be trusted to walk the dog - then I don't see an issue here (as far as you asking him to take the dog with him). It's a win-win, the dog needs a walk and your son is then not alone. The situation with your ex is likely a small piece of the big picture of why you are no longer together. Parenting between couples needs to be of a united front....said the lady who chose not to have kids. Point being, no you are not crazy. Kids need responsibilities during their growing up period IMHO. Hang in there Mom and don't let the ex's antics get to you. :flowerforyou:

LOVE THIS! AMAZING ADVICE! Why am I shouting. :blushing: Exclamation points scare me. Welcome to Walkens house of panteloons. Sorry LOVE SNL quotes. And their secret cause nobody gets them.

TheRoadDog

Don't let your issues with your mate carry over to your child.

I'm sure you are both guilty to some degree. You need to get on the same page and make raising your child the most important issue.

vzucco

If your son lives with you now after the divorce, it sounds like your ex is just trying to buy brownie points and be the "cool parent." Walking a dog is fun, don't really see why else he would say that!