PEERS THAT HECKLE YOUR DIET :(

slacker80

It drives me nuts when my peers make a comment like.."oh he's not eating, he's on a diet"  or any other comment that's related to eating less.

Diet doesn't even mean eating less, but it's always naturally the first thing that comes to mind.

Let me decide if i'm going to eat or not and how!   I Hate it when someone trys to decide for me, and with my particular group they're not trying to be supportive.  These comments always come out in a wiseguy tone.  

Recently I've needed to push around 3,000 calories a day on lean meats and complex carbs whenever possible.  I have to eat around the clock without junk food, and they have the nerve to suggest I don't eat. 

psuLemon

It drives me nuts when my peers make a comment like.."oh he's not eating, he's on a diet"  or any other comment that's related to eating less.

Diet doesn't even mean eating less, but it's always naturally the first thing that comes to mind.

Let me decide if i'm going to eat or not and how!   I Hate it when someone trys to decide for me, and with my particular group they're not trying to be supportive.  These comments always come out in a wiseguy tone.  

Recently I've needed to push around 3,000 calories a day on lean meats and complex carbs whenever possible.  I have to eat around the clock without junk food, and they have the nerve to suggest I don't eat. 

They people at my work always joke that I am a non stop eating machine, but they even admit they are jealous because I am one of the most fit in the place too..It also helps they know I can kick their *kitten* as well since I have a black belt.

rickyd88

A colleague 'accidentally' offered me a chocolate yesterday, then quickly pulled away the box whilst apologising because she had forgotten I was on a diet. In a way I'm glad she realised, but if I want to eat a chocolate I will eat a chocolate.

Later in the day I ended up eating more than I would of because I felt like I'd been deprived of it.

Troll

Deep breath darling!

I still get that, and i'm like, "SERIOUSLY? i was anorexic for TEN YEARS and you didn't say ANYTHING!?!?!"

All i can say is smile your sweetest smile and enjoy your dinner, whether they think you ate it or not

BTW, you look absolutely great, so whatever you're doing is working just fine

RAFValentina

I know what you mean... that or cruel jokes or relentless banter... like "Oh Val! Not going to the gym at Lunch AND after work today!? tut tut...."

hazelnut861

I bet you're the hottest of all your friends. It's annoying but let's see who has the last laugh. Food is fuel and the right fuel is important. Good that you remember that.

lexibelk

It's worse when it's family. Your friends are supposed to razz on you a little bit, but your family is supposed to be there for you. And I won't even get into how they can still be critical when you don't diet!

I guess it's hard for them to understand what we're going through. More than likely they are uneducated on the fact that you have to eat to be able to lose weight/get in shape successfully. You know, the whole 'people fear what they don't understand' thing.

sarahbetherck

I just give them my fat clothes when I size down :-)

Lainn

It is annoying and rude.

The other day someone in my family told me "You know you are just going to plateau anyway." Oh gee...thanks for that encouragement.

cutie2b

It is annoying and rude.

The other day someone in my family told me "You know you are just going to plateau anyway." Oh gee...thanks for that encouragement.

That's when you say, "Yes, when I reach my goal, I will stay at that weight."

slacker80

I bet you're the hottest of all your friends. It's annoying but let's see who has the last laugh. Food is fuel and the right fuel is important. Good that you remember that.

Thanks for the pleasent comment. Your too nice.

slashkiss

I just give them my fat clothes when I size down :-)

LOL - I actually did this already! I have only lost about 17 pounds but I have dropped nearly 2 pant sizes already and I gave some of my jeans to a co-worker. It felt GREAT to bring her those jeans after the past few weeks of her bashing the whole "dieting" fad. Since I gave her the jeans she hasn't said a negative word about dieting and in fact just always comments on how everytime she sees me I seem smaller!

slacker80

It is annoying and rude.

The other day someone in my family told me "You know you are just going to plateau anyway." Oh gee...thanks for that encouragement.

In My family it's my oldest brother. Until recently he use to compete in cyclilng. He's gained quite a bit now, and saw me transform and it drives him nuts that now i'm the one into fitness and nutrition. So he constantly likes to tease and pull at the my skin and say "you're still fat, You're still fat, look at your butt man...you have no but, you have the A** of a lion" LOL I'm still trying to figure out what that means. I guess it means Boney or something.."A** of a lion, I still crack when I hear that one"

Sibling rivalry I guess...oh well

UponThisRock

This is why I try to keep things diet and fitness related to myself. I'll answer direct questions as briefly as I can, and I never offer advice unless asked for it.

I can't think of one fitness related conversation I've ever had IRL that was ever productive.

Sidesteal

Looking like you do and having someone give you crap for your diet doens't make sense unless you're hanging around powerlifters

EDIT: just saw your last post-- if it's your brother then I get it.


About a year ago when I was 1-2 months into training, and I was learning about leangains (IF) and the IIFYM concept, I had a chance to go out ot eat with some friends who knew that I was trying to get in shape. I looked nothing like I do now (I was skinny-fat with an impressive 39" gut).

Anyways, we went to a burger joint and I was able to get nutritional info and fit 3 cheeseburgers into my diet. It wasn't easy in terms of hitting my macros but I was able to pull it off so I did it. The bert-stares that I got were ridiculous and even when I tried to explain the concept of IIFYM, you could totally tell that people were thinking "wtf is this idiot doing".

I also recall explaining how meal frequency was a myth to these people but again, bert-stares.

Now that I'm in decent shape this doesn't happen anymore.

So in short, next time your brother or family heckles you, maybe you should just take off your shirt and tell them to shut up?

engineman312

guy at work tried to bait me a couple of weeks ago. he brought in pumpkin pie, and goes "oh, i hope you won't get mad. i know you can't have any because you're on a diet." he said it in that really condesending tone. i looked at him and went "eff no, i'm not mad! cut me a slice and pour me a glass of milk!! i fraking love pumpkin pie!!" i passed on the cool whip that he put on top of his though. and i passed on a second slice, while i explained to him about things like 'moderation' and 'portion control.'

Jessica2Skinny

I use to get that at my old office job. I was on a diet and already thinner than most people there.... I picked up a lollipop and someone passed my cubicle and said very nasty "'WATCH OUT JESSICA, THERE'S 35 CALORIES IN THAT LOLLIPOP!"

Jacquelyn913

This is why I try to keep things diet and fitness related to myself. I'll answer direct questions as briefly as I can, and I never offer advice unless asked for it.

I can't think of one fitness related conversation I've ever had IRL that was ever productive.

^^^THIS. Otherwise people put in their two cents when it's unnecessary. They try to tell you, how you should lose weight or whatnot, when they can tell you are obviously already doing a great job. Sometimes people just feel they need to comment about things they really shouldn't.

Jacquelyn913

I use to get that at my old office job. I was on a diet and already thinner than most people there.... I picked up a lollipop and someone passed my cubicle and said very nasty "'WATCH OUT JESSICA, THERE'S 35 CALORIES IN THAT LOLLIPOP!"

LOL!! I hate that. or the "Are you sure you should be eating that, aren't you on a diet?"

rml_16

A colleague 'accidentally' offered me a chocolate yesterday, then quickly pulled away the box whilst apologising because she had forgotten I was on a diet. In a way I'm glad she realised, but if I want to eat a chocolate I will eat a chocolate.

Later in the day I ended up eating more than I would of because I felt like I'd been deprived of it.

And if she hadn't pulled it away, would you be on here today talking about how she's trying to sabotage you? A lot of people would.

It's a lose-lose situation.

nerdieprofessor

You can't control what other people say/do/think regardless of whether they are encouragers/friends/family/co-workers/whatever.

So, just decide what your standard response is going to be to any weirdness or negativity and stick with it and move on. I suggest one of these:
1) say nothing, just smile slyly
2) say nothing and laugh
3) say something pithy, "Aren't you jealous, dear?" and walk away.
4) Show your determination,"Yes, and it's working, and I'm determined to see it through to my goal!"
5) Say something sarcastic,"Yes, some of us have goals..."

etc .

)

Keep up the good work!

MattGetsMad

I've been trying something new and there are several things I don't eat anymore; eg: meat, poutry, fish, dairy, and oil. So people often notice and ask questions. Most of the time they generally interested, sometimes they are trying to justify their own diet choices while simultaneously trashing mine. Either way, I'd prefer to be left alone to eat in peace.

Some people put up with this nonsense very graciously, then there's me. What I've started doing (selectively) is telling people that I had a heart attack! (I was clearly heading down that road so no one ever argues w/ me) It's terrible, I know, but as soon as they hear you had a heart attack, their whole perception changes! Now you are a Brave Survivor, instead of a stupid vegan.

I'm not suggesting this to anyone and I'm not mocking heart attack sufferers, I just thought I'd share.

morgthom75

This is why I try to keep things diet and fitness related to myself. I'll answer direct questions as briefly as I can, and I never offer advice unless asked for it.

I can't think of one fitness related conversation I've ever had IRL that was ever productive.

This definately. I don't make a big deal about it, and most people only notice that I'm smaller, not that my eating habits are any different. Although, everyone ask me what my "secret" is. There is no secret!

Faintgreeneyes

Misery loves company! So if you are changing, and others want what you have but aren't will to work for it, then they will try to bring you back down with them.
I know all about sibbling rivalry- my sister goes at me all the time, I just learned to tune it out, or make smart remarks back that shut her up.

I am with sidesteal- you should just take off your shirt the next time someone is putting you down... should shut them up real quick!

Keep up the great work- you look amazing! You have lots of supportive people here, and if your real life friends cant support you, then screw em!

Articeluvsmemphis

All i can say is smile your sweetest smile and enjoy your dinner, whether they think you ate it or not

Lol, funny. people think I don't eat a lot. . . but I don't care. . . I just try to explain to them that you can more good thing, be full, and lose weight, not a big secret. we're so brainwashed by what "good" food is, and it's so normal to just eat whatever you feel like opposed to what we should be eating for health, etc

AddA2UDE

Great post Sidesteal (as usual).

Notice Side said, he doesn't get crap anymore? That's my plan. Wait for those conversations until I have done what Side has done. I try (as hard as it may be sometimes) to not go "there" with friends/family. They can't really understand what we are doing right now (nor, can we really expect them too). They will figure it out soon enough....................

UponThisRock

This definately. I don't make a big deal about it, and most people only notice that I'm smaller, not that my eating habits are any different. Although, everyone ask me what my "secret" is. There is no secret!

Tell them you bust your *kitten* in the gym and stay hungry all day. Usually shuts them up pretty quick.

Shanna_Inc86

Can I just say its comforting in an odd way that a MALE posted this. This topic has been posted several times, myself included, but usually by women. Its NOT good that people give ya *kitten* but I really didn't think men were critcized like women are.

To avoid the conversation of why I refuse to eat certain meat, I've just started telling people I'm vegetarian. Vegetarian they accept better than, "Well, yes, I do eat meat, but only if its organic or wild game" Very odd. Then come the questions to why and blah blah blah

OR even better, I'll have friends or family about to eat fast food or junk food, look at me and say "Not a word! I know you're on a health kick" I haven't said anything, I haven't made a face...nothing. Don't blame me for your guilt. LoL

@Engine: I love pie....LOL I can turn down chips, greasy fried goodness....sweets and pie though...I have to have just a little or I want to binge out.

Trechechus

Yeah. My dad has taken to saying the word "diet," because he knows it drives me crazy. I'm not on a diet. That indicates that there will be an end, and that I'm following one of those dumpy fads. I'm not. I'm making a life-style change and trying to pick healthier choices so I can be healthy for the rest of my life.

HMD7703

I feel really bad now... and I am on a strict diet too. But I went to a company dinner and asked a co-worker if he was on a "diet" when he ordered plain chicken breast and steam veg / no butter. He just smiled and said he was eating healthy.

Now I have to wonder if I insulted him - probably. Ugh.

:frown:

Hellbent_Heidi

Can I just say its comforting in an odd way that a MALE posted this. This topic has been posted several times, myself included, but usually by women. Its NOT good that people give ya *kitten* but I really didn't think men were critcized like women are.

Yeah, this kind of surprised me too. I find its usually the people who don't appear to have any willpower or drive that make these comments.

BTW..to the OP: You look Amazing!!