Friends with your ex's

Kushgetti

I thought this would be a great topic, are any of you friends with your ex's???? Does that affect your eating or how you view yourself???? I have great relationships with all my ex's 4 one reason or another. No need in being angry @ them. I rather be friends then enemies, better life that way. Then later on down the road if something sparks again, you have your friendship as a foundation

mmk137

I don't hate him, but we are never going to be friends, and that's because he doesn't want to be friends.
So I'm civil for the kids.

Kushgetti

That's great can never force a friendship....but really great ur civil 4 the children

MsWhiteParks

My ex is my best friend EVER. He's godfather to my daughter and my maid of honour as such at my wedding! I wouldn't be without him!

AZTrailRunner

Recently divorced. She refuses to act like an adult. So, unless she quits acting like a child, it won't happen. I've gone overboard to help her out, and keep the peace, but since the divorce was my choice, it'll take a while for her to get over it, if she even can. At least we're civil for a son's sake.

Edit to add: Known each other for 22 years, married for 15.

xtinalovexo

i am friends with a few exes. the only down side is when they get drunk and ask you to come over... obviously they dont get it.

Iamfit4life

Friends? Not yet. However we work together very well for the children.
He doesn't affect my eating anymore. I'm working so that he doesn't affect my self image. Getting there!!

"doesn't mommy look like the hulk" didn't even phase me! lol

juliecat1

Most of them, no. One from college is my best friend. We talk every single day and when Im home we hang out all the time. I miss his face!! ah! Cant wait to see him for Christmas! The only effect that has on my weight is all the drinking and bar food we consume when we hang out. haha

Football_N_Guns

Fortunately I don't see my ex-wife anymore. I also doubt if I did we could ever be friends.

Yanicka1

Yes, in fact my son's father is coming to live with us until he find an appartement in my city. My daughter's father on the other hand, we are civil for the kid but he tried to completely take away our daughter from me so I do not trust him one bit.

therealangd

Nope. We're not.

lglg11

Nope not friends w/my ex . I would like to be , things would be a lot easier since we have 4 children together , but not possible .

I have remained friendly with exboyfriends from 100 yrs ago though, before I was married .

lor007

I only have one ex and it wasn't a serious relationship. We were friends before and we remained friends afterward. Unfortunately, there are too many miles between us and we don't get together very often. It makes me sad, I miss him.

ilookthetype

My first "ex" and I were very close after our break up, until he dated my best friend and broke her heart, then I punched him in his face and we weren't so close after that.

My other "ex" was really great but we never really dated, and it was all very complicated and then he moved, far far away.

My most recent "ex" was less divorced than he claimed to be. We are polite but he's got 3 kids and a freaking WIFE.

And no, none of them effect my eating now. I was struggling with an eating disorder during 1 and 2 though. I had to stop drinking after 3, ugh, that was almost very very bad. I'm fine now, though.

chuckyp

I'm still friends to varying degrees with several ex-girlfriends. No ex-wives though. Only married once and I'm still married even though she gets pissed off because I'm still friends with several ex-girlfriends. Hahahaha

OrangeUK

Nope.

One of them left me on New Years eve.. 20minutes to new Year "Because she didn't want to be with the same person all her life". But that is okay, she left and move to Turkey with some dude she knew for 3 weeks. And she was 18 btw. Way to go on the non-commitment thing :P

Anyway, i'm happy with my current life

Kushgetti

to tell u the truth my I relationships never affected my weight or how I ate only because I made sure they like me 4 who I am 1st....

1st ex=knew for 6yrs b4 our relationship...distance played a part in our breakup....it's now going on 11yrs & we remain very close.

recent ex-thought he had accepted my weight however when I broke it off he used my weight against me & said some of the meanest stuff ever. but now he just saw me cause it had been 4 months...mouth 2 the floor....we r friends but I don't think we will be as close as my 1st ex only because he never wanted 2 be friends in the 1st place after the break but 4 me if he wants me in his life....friendship is the route...so he has accepted that. he tries 2 be sneaky

judith3

I love this topic people always ask how i can be friends with my ex and say that you cant be friends with your ex! Im just like well just kus your ex was a douche bag doesnt mean mine was. I only have one ex and he is my BEST Friend we broke up in January by a mutual decision and i was very heart broken for a long time but i love the guy (love him not in love with him anymore lol) and i love having him as a friend he knows me better than anybody and he is the one person i trully trust. Although our relathionship didnt work out (Long distance) and i dont get to see him very often we are still very close

DietingMommy08

I am friends with ALL my ex's
They are very supportive friends and we are able to hold a friendship like we was never in a relationship so its great.
I wouldnt have it any other way.

DixiedoesMFP

I look the type....absolutely love that you punched him after breaking your friend's heart, but not your own. That is one heck of a friend!

I am fairly okay with my ex, as long as he doesn't piss me off.

kenzietea

I am friends with ex's that were not very serious. But friends as in, we haven't deleted each other off of facebook =P I do not hang out or even really talk to any of my exes. I don't think it would be a good idea!

ashnm88

My first ex and I are good friends. We have quite a while mutual friends. My last one I'm also friends with. We both care a great deal about one another, but we just couldn't work out our schedules. Others in between are best left in the dust. Then there's the one that we just deal when we are out at the same place because we are friends with quite a few people.

MisterDubs303

I was great friends with my ex for many years after the divorce, but in the last two or three years we've only spoken to each other a couple of times per year. It had no impact on my diet, whatsoever.

JULIUSKITTY

actualy we began as hating each other.. me for good reasons.. him not really since he abandon my daughter and I.. but I think he felt terrible so he used that to make reason- or try to think he did right..anyway we can talk now without problems- for the most part and he has actualy realized he needs to play nice so I think that makes a big difff when people stop trying to cause problems. as for food.. hahaha I lost a TON of weight-- thanks for leaving jerk face lmbo.. he thinks I did it for him but I did it for ME..

snookumss

I am friends with most of my ex's. Only one or two stand out as people I communicate with frequently, but now one of my ex's is an employee of mine! I am really finding out what an idiot he is! LOL!

eyoungone05

Nope and no way will I ever be friends with my X's cant do it

thesmellofapples

i'm good friends with both of my exes. i don't see a problem with it and we don't have any hateful feelings for each other. the biggest problem is getting the current significant others to agree with it. my boyfriend doesn't like when i talk to my exes and my exes' girlfriends hate me.

curlyclo

I have been friends with all of my exes after the breakups, but most of them have slipped out my life for one reason or another. There aren't any hard feelings from my end, we just fell out of contact. There's only one who I still consider a very close friend and have regular contact with. My lack of relationships with the other ones doesn't affect my diet or weight as far as I can tell.

LadyGhostDuchess

I thought this would be a great topic, are any of you friends with your ex's???? Does that affect your eating or how you view yourself???? I have great relationships with all my ex's 4 one reason or another. No need in being angry @ them. I rather be friends then enemies, better life that way. Then later on down the road if something sparks again, you have your friendship as a foundation

My best male friend is my ex :drinker:
He is also my biggest supporter in my working out, eatting better and everything. We both gained weight when we were together now we are both dropping it. he is dropping it WAY quicker than I am, but hey. I am trying my darndest!

JDRBT

I'm not friends with any of my ex boyfriends or my ex husband, but I'm not an enemy to them either. If I passed them on the street, would I say "hi, how are you?" Sure. But I feel that investing emotions in those relationships and further is a waste of the finate amount of emotional energy I have in my life.
There are reasons why those relationships ended and, while I'm not married to them. There are lots of people I can go out and have fun with that don't have the complications attached that ex's do. One of my ex's even had kids that I love dearly, but it's best for them that I remain distant as well - since it allows them to move on should their dad decide to date someone else. Whenever I wax nostalgic, I send up a prayer and my best wishes for them and move on. If they are people I would only keep in touch with on facebook, then they aren't really "friends". They are just acquintances that come and go.
I feel that the effort required to maintain those types of friendships is better used elsewhere - like fostering a nurturing relationship elsewhere, or building my ties with friends that are currently in my life. In fact, the act of grieving a change can bring those close to you even closer, if you reach out to them.

The opposite of love isn't hate or anger. It's indifference - a lack of investment of emotions. I wish them the best and look forward. Some people are in our lives for a season, and some for a reason. So I feel at peace learning from the relationship and moving on.

JULIUSKITTY

btw my ex ran off after 10 yrs together.. and married 6.. with an 18 yr old girl- no there not together anymore.. thos things rarely ever work out,.. and I have gotten remarried to my best freind!!