Friends with your ex's

lcchrt

Tried the whole friends thing and he kinda burned that bridge. He never tried to get that I was married and he was engaged. He isn't much of an honorable person (or wasn't then, he may have changed since its been a couple years since we've talked). When I was in touch with him though it did effect me. He encouraged my disordered eating when we were together therefore I fell back into an eating disorder when we talked. It was really weird, when we stopped talking I recovered much easier!

wreath7

friends with all my exes except one horrible ex who i don't allow to talk to me, the others are great. i suppose it has a positive effect on my self-image because we get along so well and they are very supportive.

auntiebabs

I've often thought that if I took the time and energy I spend on friendships with my exes and applied it to a new beau I might have a shot at having an amazing relationship.

EricNCSU

I'm friends with several of my ex's from a long time ago.. but not my two most recent. Both walked out on me. First one we were just living together, second one we were married and now going through a divorce. We don't have any assests or kids to fight over, so we are "civil" but friends? HECK NO.. (of course this is recent, she walked out 3 months ago).

farmgirlsuz

Every time I think I am getting along better with my ex he shows his true colors and stabs me in the back again. He is a total user-whatever benefits him. One would think after 19 years I would have figured it out. As far as affecting my eating-yeah, I loved the look on his face when he saw the NEW me on Thanksgiving so I plan on using that as inspiration every time I start falling back into my old habits. NEW LIFE-BRING IT ON!

Sd0510

Not at all. Mainly because my Fiance gets extremely angry when I talk to any guys, let alone an ex. If he wasn't so mad about it, there is only one I wouldn't mind talking to anyway. The rest... I wouldn't care if I never saw them again.

kyrstensmom

I am friends with one ex-boyfriend, in fact, he is one of my husband's good friends and was a groomsman in our wedding. We were together for 6 years before it ended, and I was absolutely heartbroken for a long time, but now I am thankful for unanswered prayers. I don't have an ex-husbands (don't plan on it, either). I have one other ex who is the biological father of my oldest child. My husband adopted her, but I keep him on my FB so that someday if she wants to know him, I can still find him.

My husband is friends with his ex-wife, and she and I occasionally hang out and have girls nights, and she is always welcome in our home....its really not weird at all.

None of these relationships have any effect on my eating/exercise habits, except my husband who is my biggest support.

Latasha1988

Not me. I don't have any children with previous relationships and don't see any need for it. I did attempt it once, but it was very difficult seeing as he was not over me. My aunt said it to me perfectly "You can't become friends after living together for 2 years and being engaged, that's moving backwards. You don't need to move backwards you need to move forward." Now that I've grown since then, have a fiance and a child with him... I understand that so much better. It's uncomfortable to have someone you talk to and hang around that you've been with romantically when you have a serious relationship even in a trustful relationship. If you ever had an attraction to the person, theres always a possibility of that attraction to come back... so there's no reason to have that sort of thing in your life when youre involved with someone. I can see if someones single or dating.. even in a relationship thats not too serious. But if you're seriously involved with someone i think its a no no. But anyway, to each his own. If anyone wants to be besties with their ex that's their choice and i wouldn't look down on them for it. I just wouldn't date them! lol

Kelly_Wilson1990

I take care of my ex-husband's father (He lives with me) and my ex-husband is here visiting for a month with me, his father and my current husband.

chevy88grl

I try and remain civil with my ex husband since we have two kids together. But, I admit there are days when he makes being polite VERY HARD. I was the one who left the marriage and while he's engaged to someone else, he is still quick to remind me that *I* left HIM. Ugh.

As of right now, a friendship with him won't be happening.

bonnynblithe04

Only one ex ... nosireebob! Not only does he have problems with telling the truth, I don't think he likes women very much!

Saw some recent photos ... don't recognize him and realize I don't really know him. Never did.

Skeebee

I'm "facebook" friends with most of them, but not friends so to speak. Doesn't really motivate me too much, honestly. At first, it did but was for the wrong reasons; to make them jealous. That motivation has to be for me, myself, and I and NOT for a sinful reason.

dragonflybird

I'm friend's with most of my exes.

Amy911Gray

Nope and all the better for it. My reprieve from civil behavior was about 6 years ago when my son cut ties.

PegasusDeb

I tend to still be friends with all my X's. (Meaning boyfriends, I have never been married) My most serious, we were together 7 years, looked at rings, but never got officially engaged, then split. He's probably my best friend. He always seems to be there when I need him. It's kinda sad, cuz I love him dearly, but just not "in that way". We definitely make better friends then lovers. We travel together & do dinners and concerts, but strictly as friends. I kinda think he hopes we will get back together, but I don't see it.

oldsoul918

Not at all. Mainly because my Fiance gets extremely angry when I talk to any guys, let alone an ex. If he wasn't so mad about it, there is only one I wouldn't mind talking to anyway. The rest... I wouldn't care if I never saw them again.

This doesn't seem healthy at all.

aa1440

Nope. Not friends. They are ex's for a reason. No need to hold on to something that's not there.

Ocarina

I have 0 friendships with my ex's. Mostly because I dated A TON of random people and none of them went anywhere. I've been married happily for 3 years almost and we could care less what happened to our ex's. Fortunately I suppose I barely even recall names or faces. Anyone I dated long term (more then 3 months LOL) was in complete agreement that once the relationship ends there is nothing more. Guess the only thing that sucked about it was if I was friends with their friends I would just cut them off because it was easier to just let things to back to the way they were then to drag it out. My husband only dated a couple girls before me met me because he's super geeky and shy like that. We have such an awesome relationship and I talk to male acquaintances at school and church enough to not feel the need to talk to an ex or old guy friend. I think the best thing is whatever makes you happy.

canroadrunner

Yep, my ex husband and his wife are friends ( I call her my wife in law). They'll be here for Christmas dinner with the kids.

A lot of the credit for being able to be friends rests with his wife who took A LOT of flack from HER friends. Apparently they could not believe we got along.

However, I will never forget that she took the high road. I think the telling comment was at their wedding. After the ceremony, I congratulated them, said I'd see them at the reception and she said "What, you aren't coming with us for the family pictures?" And so I did.

There is a picture hanging on their wall of my ex with his arm around me and around her. I told her this is the one we'll use at the funeral.

bmqbonnie

Just facebook friends, basically. We're civil but we didn't have much to talk about when we were together so why the hell would we talk now? I am still friendly with his family but barely talk to him. I'm mostly only still in contact with him to rub in his face how awesome I am

I lost weight pretty quickly after we broke up due to less emotional eating and more emotional working out, but I've stabilized and he has no effect on it at all. Other than the rubbing in his face thing. Which benefits me in the end.

mrsknotts

he's hes an alcoholic and threatening

mwright24skinny

Oh my gosh!! Someone please take my aggravating ex off my hands. He wants to be friends because he always needs something. I never had to put up with him for the past 9 years until these past 2 years since he got divorce. I thought I could be his friend but he drives me nuts!!!!

AZTrailRunner

Not at all. Mainly because my Fiance gets extremely angry when I talk to any guys, let alone an ex. If he wasn't so mad about it, there is only one I wouldn't mind talking to anyway. The rest... I wouldn't care if I never saw them again.

Not setting off any red flags or warning bells, eh?

BobbyClerici

If something ever prompted me to give her the boot, I'd never want to see her face ever again.
Get Lost!

I can't imagine being friends. :smokin:

deethinks

I am friends with like one who I still like. I still use it as a inspiration to get fit so I can be like "SUCK IT!" and what not. I also plan when I get fit to take my first bikini photo and friend my ex's on fb.

april522

I don't have many true ex's. I was in 2 somewhat serious relationship, and I don't talk to either. The first is by my choice. After he ran off with a close friend of mine, I had the chance to speak with him a few years later when things didn't work between them. Apparently he thought we could just pick up where we left off a few years ago. LOL We were friends on MySpace (way back before Facebook took over), and one day I finally decided to let go and let the past be the past with him.

The 2nd ex is by my choice too. He was freaking PSYCHO! We dated a total of 4 months - 3 of which we lived together, only 1 of which was really great. BIG mistake. I felt we could work on things better if I wasn't living with him and we just dated like we should have before moving so quickly. Wow, the stuff he sent me in his email just reeked with angry and hatred. I was okay with just being friends because up until that point, nothing really bad had happened. We just weren't meant for each other. It sucks too because he's best friends with my best friend's husband! And unfortunately, he would be the type that couldn't be civil for their sake, if we were in the same room.

kyrstensmom

Not at all. Mainly because my Fiance gets extremely angry when I talk to any guys, let alone an ex. If he wasn't so mad about it, there is only one I wouldn't mind talking to anyway. The rest... I wouldn't care if I never saw them again.

Not setting off any red flags or warning bells, eh?

Yep....red flag is flying high.

LeanMeanFitnessMachine

Well, my ex nicknamed me "tubby" ... even though we're still friends, I always get nervous about my appearance & NEVER eat in front of him.

He's a cool guy, just a really dry, blunt sense of humor.

springfield5780

Not friends at all with ex husband he is a major tool! My current love was actually an Ex. We remained friends and got back together. The anniversary of our first date is today and we celebrate it like we were never apart. We had a lot of rocky roads but they paved the way for a wonderful relationship!

veganbaum

My ex and I live together. That part of our relationship ended almost a year ago. But we're best friends and are very supportive of each other. Living together is obviously tremendously helpful for expenses and other everyday things, just as with any roommate. I'm sure we'll reevaluate once we both graduate, but there's no reason to live apart at the moment.